40+ MGTOWs

exit-stage-right2 · 2016-06-19T07:19:22+00:00

Stop requiring others to validate your happiness and success. It's up to you and you don't need a wife or children to be happy for you. I don't need anyone to be happy or sad for me.

MAAAAGAAAAH · 2016-06-19T09:59:38+00:00

Throughout life you have your own back and have to assume and not give a fuck that no one gives a fuck. You're either satisfied with yourself or you're not. Nothing else matters.

Groizerx · 2016-06-19T08:45:36+00:00

40 here. You are alone in this world and life is without purpose. You can choose to feel it or embrace escapism, such as booze, sex, love, video games, religion, friends, knowledge, fame, money, consumerism, tv, work, drugs, medicines, social media, charity, children, family, traveling... You see where this is going to.

Stay with the pain, brother. It will teach you all you need to know.

boringcarpets · 2016-06-19T11:09:58+00:00

I think parents and children are the only people who would be happy in your success.

You can't do anything about parents dying, it happens, it's inevitable. But you're very naive if you think all people get along with their parents, you're also pretty daft to keep looking for validation from mummy and daddy when you're past 40.

And don't get me started on children - they are net leech in all respects; financially, socially, emotionally, chronologically. Children don't respect their parents until adulthood, and the notion that "my children will look after me when I get old" is hilarious - very few people see their parents very frequently let alone have their parents live with them.

Ones successes are for oneself; if you're looking elsewhere for validation you're doing it wrong

William_F0ster · 2016-06-19T08:26:34+00:00

… none of those people wound honestly want you to be great and successful

Eh?

You sound like you’re describing an entourage of admiring fans, not friends.

I think parents and children are the only people who would be happy in your success.

Very much depends on the parents. Very much depends on the kids.

Eyes_Of_The_Dragon · 2016-06-19T13:36:16+00:00

My parents are still alive in their 70s, my kids are still young enough to be at home, and I'm divorced.

Fuck no I don't feel alone. I have my kids, and tons of plans. I had these plans while I was married, but she derailed them every chance she got. I've been with enough women and have seen enough bullshit that I just don't care.

I get occasional sex, and if I really feel the need for it, I have no issues getting it.

I'm tired of feeling like the beast of burden for womens' bad decisions. I tried dating for a while after the divorce, mostly stuck to women my own age, and virtually all of them had poisoned their marriages and were looking to be rescued. But their standards were pretty high. One woman who had left her "boring" doctor husband wanted to know when I would buy a boat, since she had to sell hers in the divorce. Oh, and she lived with her parents since she had no job skills and the alimony she got wasn't enough to live in the area she wanted to live.

I am not looking to be tied down again. I want to travel and build cool shit and enjoy my life without being leashed to some harpy's stupid insecurities and demands.

trippinallday · 2016-06-19T06:34:51+00:00

Sounds like you need some better friends

oldredder · 2016-06-19T06:36:33+00:00

nope

kurtu5 · 2016-06-20T14:26:26+00:00

Not at all. Women need constant validation. A man is content alone. He was born alone, grew up surrounded by people but still alone and will die alone.

Men are not women. What fears you mentioned, they are female fears.

Morranaii · 2016-06-19T17:25:59+00:00

that is the ultimate fear mongering that comes from women when they realize you won't succumb to their tricks. "oh you'll die alone!'' we are born alone we live alone. we die alone we ale ALONE IN RELATIONSHIPS nobody will ever ultimately understand you - only you!

if your'e in your 40-50 you should be already able to live without your parents lol ;)

if you think a woman want you to be great and successful then you're wrong. she wants this only because it gives HER BENEFITS.

also, you should want these things FOR YOURSELF ONLY.

YOU NEED TO BE HAPPY FOR YOUR OWN SUCCESS, NOT YOUR KIDS OR PARENTS, FFS GROW UP!

Mathematicianer · 2016-06-19T09:11:01+00:00

You can't even guarantee spouses and children stand behind your success. The amount of families that disband once a man has died and financial assets are up for grab is alarming. At that age you should be seeking out lifelong friendships even more readily than a teenager.

phathack · 2016-06-19T21:21:51+00:00

Nope.
I find it sad that you have to seek validation in the opinion others. Its my life and I live it how I want and don't gave a damn what others think.

wordjedi · 2016-06-19T17:42:54+00:00

You live life one day at a time. Yes, you make long term plans like your education and career. Taking care of your health, etc. But from what I know from being with a close family member who passed away several years ago, coming up to that Big Event doesn't change how you live. In the end you just run out of days and that's it. No big revelations or insights.

tl;dr Become an expert at having a good day. Because that's all life is, and all it will ever be. If your personal relationships help you have a good day, great.

thrownaway_MGTOW · 2016-06-19T15:56:43+00:00

no wife/girlfriend/children, do you feel alone in this world and without purpose?

You are horribly ignorant of reality.

Sure, you can get laid, hang out with friends and all that, but none of those people wound [sic] honestly want you to be great and successful.

Wow, interesting -- and entirely baseless -- assertion.

I think parents and children are the only people who would be happy in your success.

Also another interesting* -- and again entirely baseless -- assertion.

One wonders... other than being an "opinion" and a "belief" (which like your anus really probably DOESN'T need to be put on public display), do you ACTUALLY have anything solid to base it on.

* Actually, neither of these is really very "interesting" at all; they are revealing -- in terms of your biases and fundamental ignorance of reality, and paucity of experience in life -- but that's about all.

Title	40+ MGTOWs
Author	karna22
Upvotes	4
Comments	24
Date	June 19, 2016 6:11 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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