My(M34) pregnant wife (28) refuses to be touched, says she feels disgusted everytime I touch her because she cant stand her body and I dont know what to do. Please help

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My wife is pregnant (unplanned but we both were happy at the news) and everything was fine until she hit the 4 months mark. Now (month 7) I feel as if she is a different person.

She was always very fit, always took care of her body and loved going to the gym (actually how we met) and tried to stay in shape through pregnancy but unfortunately she almost miscarried and the doctor ordered her to stop all physical activity and rest or else she will have to be hospitalised until labour.

Since then she slowly started to end all physical contact with me and I dont mean sex. I mean, yeah we dont have sex but I dont care about that. She cant even bring herself to hold hands with me anymore.

Everything is good and loving as long as I dont touch her. If I even so much as touch her belly/arm/anything she looks like she is ready to vomit and runs away.

I put up with it until recently when she started to talk about her moving to guest bedroom until labour and playing it off as if it is just so she can sleep better but I knew she didnt want to be touched.

We had a fight about how I want us to cuddle and touch and she screamed that she feels gross and ugly and she cant stand it when I touch her because it just reminds her how she looks.

No amount of compliments worked, it actually caused her to cry historically saying that she knows I'm lying to her. In the moment I asked her to please calm down because it is bad for the baby and she screamed that the baby inside her is all she is now to everyone, called me an ass and locked herself in the guest bedroom.

Now she doesnt speak to me. I dont even know what to do.