Being Supportive!

Lambo_Moonski · 2019-12-07T04:17:08+00:00

There’s no such thing as high value women.

WaywardStag · 2019-12-07T04:39:09+00:00

instead of raging I literally cried because of how sad I was

They're not the only two options. Although it's always a disappointment and a blow to the ego, the difference between a HVM and a LVM is the ability to take bumps and keep moving forward.

I love her and what I need to do is walk away but it’s so hard.

You're 20 and she's 28. She's at the age where she needs to lock down a provider before she splats into the wall and you're at the age where all you have to provide is dick. It's not realistic, and if she didn't reject you then if we fast forward a couple of years you'll wish she did.

Before I met her I was so happy fully focusing on my self.

That's how it goes. If you ended up in a relationship with her, give it 6-12 months and you realise that AWALT and you'll be unhappy again. Don't chase women. If they're actually interested in you they will do backflips to get your attention - otherwise they're motivated by what you can provide for them.

Ody_ssey · 2019-12-07T04:40:22+00:00

I was so sad that there was literally nothing else I could offer her.

If you carefully observe, even after passing her prime years of life she probably has nothing to offer either.

Your worth is decided by your life achievements and completed goals. You have entered into your prime years, don't let it waste to kiss someone. Kiss your career, it will offer you much better life.

Lambo_Moonski · 2019-12-07T04:25:46+00:00

Ok, let me be very clear....

You mean NOTHING to her. She thinks she’s being cool and thoughtful to a young guy by even her talking to you. She’s a narcissist who thinks that her even acknowledging your existence is her good deed of the day or week, year. She doesn’t realise the damage she’s doing by teasing you, which may or may not be her intention. She probably thinks it’s cute having a young admirer, of which we will get bored of sooner or later. When she said she sees potential, she means one day you’ll find someone, just not her.

We have all been in this situation growing up and being attracted to an unattainable older girl/woman. It’s frustrating and we obsess.

You have no chance with her. Eat your pain and learn. As you get older you see these bitches are ten a penny. I even tried to foolishly go back and bang an older crush I had when I was your age, it just wasn’t the same. It never is. She acted like she wanted it but played hard to get and also had a kid, I was doing well, good money and job and decided no way was I dealing with this so ghosted.

You’ll get over her, and you’ll see they are all cunts.

thatMGTOWguy · 2019-12-07T06:04:06+00:00

Trolls are evolving? Lol, the fuck was this post?

ReverendCatch · 2019-12-07T06:30:19+00:00

The fuck is wrong with you. Snap out of it.

thisisnotreal666 · 2019-12-07T04:36:02+00:00

Damn bro, grow some balls and stop being such a pathetic little soyboy. She was just giving you bullshit fluff compliments and conditioning you to be her emotional tampon. Not to mention she's probably taken literal miles of Chad thunder cock, so why would you want that used up chimera filled puss. Stop licking snail trails and focus on yourself.

RealBiggly · 2019-12-07T04:36:52+00:00

It's 'oneitis', where you feel that one special person was special, but she's really not.

As you say, she's older than you, and generally women seek benefits from the man. They want a man that's taller than them, older than them, smarter than them, stronger than them, faster than them, earns more than them etc etc.

Else what's the benefit, to them? They want a man as a utility.

So a younger, inexperienced guy like you? You're no use to her. At best you're like a talking pet she could entertain herself with, before going off and getting wet for some older guy who can teach her stuff.

So don't take it personally. She wouldn't be into any other inexperienced 20 year old either.

Anyway, you didn't even kiss, so don't go thinking of this as some great failed relationship; it's just you practicing at this stuff. Thing is, as you get to know them you get to question the whole concept.

If she were not female and attractive, would you even like that person? What you want to hang out with them for a whole weekend, if kissing, fucking, stroking some titties etc was not in the equation?

Sandbox0 · 2019-12-07T05:06:58+00:00

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NostalgicMango · 2019-12-07T05:07:29+00:00

You're young. It's very difficult for a lot of men your age that aren't typically getting a lot of attention to not seek out that validation. It's completely natural. One of the hardest lessons in life that you sometimes have to learn over and over and over is that as wonderful as validation can be from external sources, when it goes, all your self-confidence and self-worth go with it. Breakups and rejection will always suck, there's no way around that, but you need to figure out how to generate your own sense of self-worth so when things like this happen you can bounce back. That is a journey we all have to take.

Also, she may enjoy talking to you as a friend, but don't make the mistake of thinking that because you have a positive connection with her that it will necessarily go anywhere. Because men are typically the pursuers, we're generally hardwired to view any sort of positive reception as a good sign or invitation to pursue harder. Not always, but I think a lot of men don't have vast social circles, so when we choose to invest time and energy in someone beyond a random person on social media, it's because we care. Women get a lot of attention on a regular basis, these connections aren't typically as special to them because they are easily replaceable. Be thankful you have a friend that cares about you. If it hurts too much to think about her with someone else then constantly talking to her will be detrimental for you and you shouldn't do it until you can handle it.

PrinceRaj53 · 2019-12-07T05:46:36+00:00

HVW? Lol.

She is just putting you in the mixure grinder to extract as much attention and validation she can from you.

You are her billy beta, her emotional tampon, her fee-fee booster, and her confidence multiplier. Congrats, you have become a woman's beta bitch.

What are you, naive?

There is no such thing as a High Value Woman.

And by declaring yourself as a Low Value Man, you are literally dismissing your own worth because you dont know your own worth. This is the biggest mistake that men tend to do when they are with a woman.

A man is always high value. The only low value ones are the ones who dismiss their own worth by becoming beta.

hugaddiction · 2019-12-07T06:08:53+00:00

Women are not your “friends”, learn this now and save your self all the time you would have spent chasing girls that are using you for attention, manipulating you into sticking around after denying you sex, and hanging the carrot out for you that suggests sex may be in your future if you play bitch long enough, all while not appreciating a single thing about you. Things aren’t what you think they are and your going to keep getting your feelings fucked with till you acknowledge the truth. Good luck

misanthr0pe666 · 2019-12-07T08:31:56+00:00

I don't think we can help you bruh

Title	Being Supportive!
Author	Sandbox0
Upvotes	4
Comments	18
Date	December 7, 2019 4:07 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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