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[–]riitguy46 points47 points48 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Women use their emotional state to define reality.
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[–]ZealousMaths18 points19 points20 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Women are associated historically with chaos. Hence they seek the image of stability. And will lie to appear so.
Men are associated with order. We thus seek the capacity for adaptability. And quite often men will self develop to do so.
One lies to appear genuine. The other works to always appear fine.
[–]DeHosure[S] 45 points46 points47 points 6 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link
For those who dunno https://archive.li/Lz9Ox
[–]ToddTheOdd22 points23 points24 points 6 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Ho-ly-SHIT!
This explains so much!
My last ex, the last at that, had written me a love letter 3 days before breaking up with me telling me how much she loved me and how happy she was to be with me. The day she broke up with me she said she didn't think she really ever loved me. I was very confused about this, until 5 minutes ago when I read you link.
Just one more piece of the puzzle that has clicked into place. And what is the image the puzzle is showing me? How much happier I am on my own. :)
[–]DeHosure[S] 4 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The rational male book is all about connecting those dots. Take it with a pinch of salt though.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Damn, what happened in that 3 day gap? Must have been hard for you to make sense of that.
[–]ToddTheOdd1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Honestly, I have no fucking clue.
She had a doctor's appointment. I dropped her off, and when I did she kissed me and said she loved me. When I picked her up after the appointment, on the drive home, she said that she thought we should break up.
One hell of a doctor's appointment...
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Crazy, man. No rhyme or reason to it. I'm not gonna comment on your situation because you obviously know all the details and I don't, but I will say if you're new to this sub, you should stick around here. Also, keep strong and never forget you didn't need her.
[–]ToddTheOdd1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This was 2.5 years ago. I've been living the bachelor life for about 1.75 years now. It's been real good.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Glad to hear it, man. Bachelors for life.
[–]Mryoyo9913 points14 points15 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
We have a new name for this. Its called #MeToo
[–]BrilliantWeight8 points9 points10 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I spent 2 years supporting an ex. In retrospect, she was a complete degenerate, but I was too young and stupid to recognize it. Anyway, i worked, went to college, graduated, got a job, and started bringing in the money. Things were good for a while. We talked about getting married. Then, things went south financially. I was doing my best, but I just couldn't float us anymore, and then we moved into a new house (rental, thank god). After a couple months, she went to visit her parents and back home friends, for a weekend. Now, this wasnt uncommon for her to want to do this, but it was the first time she did this without wanting me to come with her. I worked basically the whole time she was gone, and then picked her up from the airport when she got home. She barely looked at me for the next two days until she broke up with me a couple nights later. I went from having a loyal woman while I was hauling in dough to being single when I took a financial gut punch. That's all it takes.
[–]MGMOWNow19784 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It sounds exactly like my ex who had Borderline Personality Disorder (clinically diagnosed, not just me calculating 2+2=5).
Splitting / Painting Black whatever term you use, she did with people all the time, one day she would be good friends, then after that (and to my knowledge forever after) that person would be literally shit for some tiny thing she thought they did wrong. Even if it made absolutely no sense to me.
Towards the end of that relationship I thought I was going insane, the gaslighting was unreal.
[–]mgtowmale3 points4 points5 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That link is showing me a 403 Forbidden.
[–]DeHosure[S] 5 points6 points7 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
https://www.reddit.com/r/FereallyRed/comments/cd5dqj/the_light_switch_effect/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
[–]Doc_Sithicus2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm going to save it and show this to my son in 2-3 years.
[–]a_dabaan28 points29 points30 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Too much work to sustain a "healthy" relationship. Not worth it. I don't think this has to do with feminism, it looks like there are this way since forever.
[–]DeHosure[S] 9 points10 points11 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"Gotta jump through hoops"
[–]SatouTatsu2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Feminism is only a symptom of the truth.
[–]Gari_30521 points22 points23 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Basically for a man it is "I think therefore I am" as for a woman it is "I feel therefore I am".
As Logic is a guy's path, so are Emotions to a woman's path.
[–][deleted] 14 points15 points16 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
At least light switchers show their signs quickly and you can run.
The ones to watch out for are the bitches who install a damn dimmer switch. Was with a girl for 7 years; I never noticed how dim things got until I realized she was slowing moving that knob. Suddenly there was no light left, and I was sitting in the dark wondering what the fuck happened. Such a slow burn, or unburn I guess.
[–]XDhellohi110 points11 points12 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Blew my mind as well. An excellent logical collection of ideas that every single man who's been in a relationship subconsciously knows.
[–]6stringfreedom4ever8 points9 points10 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The effect applies to everything around her, not just relationships. My ex-wife “felt” she wasn’t blowing money on useless crap even when I’m holding the credit card bill in her face.
[–]aniani046 points7 points8 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah, you begin by accepting that no matter how long you've been together, she can wake up one morning and believe you've been abusing her throughout the relationship, and you've done nothing but bad, and while she's rewriting the history of your relationship, she gets on chad's dick and blames you for it. Why did you cheat on me bitch? You never loved me, you never even desired me... A woman's reality is her feelings, thus women are emotional, and emotions can't be trusted.
[–]3rdiguy7 points8 points9 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I never heard of this but experiencing right now!
[–]KingRagnar15885 points6 points7 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Man, this is exactly what happened in my 7 year marriage. All of a sudden she never loved me one day. Brilliant theory. Well done.
[–]a_dabaan1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
What the hell is that?
[–]DeHosure[S] 8 points9 points10 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
light switch effect
[–]rayedward3631 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I learned about it long before I experienced it, it's a way different thing. They actually convince themselves that everything they did wrong was actually you.
[–]Han_GYOW1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I feel like I’m in one of those movies where it begins at the ending and plot is shown in reverse lol
Like fucking memento or something.
Jesus this makes so much sense now.
[–]DeHosure[S] 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
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