I agree with you, but it's extremely difficult to internalize and convert your drives to the full realization that appeasing them isn't the best way. I have myself only recently gotten this far. I now know that even though I can "satisfy" my sex drive, it isn't inline for my goals to do so. The realization came to me only after I discovered that I could easily push all my own buttons with pornography, and that I actually preferred pornography to real sex. At first I thought this liberated me. Then I realized that I might as well view liberation as having electrodes plugged into my head to stimulate my pleasure center directly. Then I realized it was for me, just a transfer of time and energy out of my system to things I do not want to support either mentally or physically with time or with money. After this I had a huge shift. I am not looking for that kind of satisfaction --because it's no satisfaction at all in the long run, but instead see the path to self realization and realization of my goals by not following sexual impulses at all, and instead they now seem to naturally just feed back as extra energy for me to use creatively and repair of my system. There is also a spiritual benefit, hard to describe but a kind of clarity. This is the way of celibacy I guess. But celibacy can't be feigned. You either actually fully realize the value of it or you don't. It took me a long time to realize this was the best path for me. You can't be "one blow job away" as the saying goes. It's a complete shift of perspective to fully embrace celibacy.
I think we tread a thin line of validating sexual addiction whenever we recommend people freely engage with prostitutes and pornography. It is certainly not bad to do these things, it's just not "the best we can do." Advocating for moderation is good, but we should also acknowledge that it's possible to simply give it up. That said, it should be legal, just as marijuana, alcohol and other drugs should be legal. Prohibition doesn't work. The only thing that works is education, introspection and self knowledge.
It's the "develop" part that really bothers me, though. You can't possibly be on a MGTOW subreddit without understanding that this very process of "developing" relationships with women IS the problem.
You can also stop acting like the entire thing is as simple as "just go socialize."
I'm admitting nothing. I am ridiculing your absurd position.
You obviously need that female approval, and the false safety that comes with it, in order to feel comfortable. That's great. I'm not here to criticize you. Enjoy it. Wallow in it. I genuinely couldn't care less.
How are you claiming to be some expert on prostitution, and the relationships established therewith, if you haven't used one? Maybe it's the most amazing thing in the world?
Lets not lose focus here: You said
You'd then sit in stasis without living life.
Unless you can defend that having a girlfriend of a few weeks constitutes "living life" while not having a girlfriend of a few weeks is the opposite, then we will consider your point conceded. Remember, you are on a subreddit with men who have gone their entire lives struggling through relationships with women only to give up and find the peace, serenity, and reward of going ones own way.
Which reminds me, I sincerely don't think this is the subreddit for you. Well, at least not yet. Maybe a couple more trips to the clink, then you'll be ready.
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I agree with you, but it's extremely difficult to internalize and convert your drives to the full realization that appeasing them isn't the best way. I have myself only recently gotten this far. I now know that even though I can "satisfy" my sex drive, it isn't inline for my goals to do so. The realization came to me only after I discovered that I could easily push all my own buttons with pornography, and that I actually preferred pornography to real sex. At first I thought this liberated me. Then I realized that I might as well view liberation as having electrodes plugged into my head to stimulate my pleasure center directly. Then I realized it was for me, just a transfer of time and energy out of my system to things I do not want to support either mentally or physically with time or with money. After this I had a huge shift. I am not looking for that kind of satisfaction --because it's no satisfaction at all in the long run, but instead see the path to self realization and realization of my goals by not following sexual impulses at all, and instead they now seem to naturally just feed back as extra energy for me to use creatively and repair of my system. There is also a spiritual benefit, hard to describe but a kind of clarity. This is the way of celibacy I guess. But celibacy can't be feigned. You either actually fully realize the value of it or you don't. It took me a long time to realize this was the best path for me. You can't be "one blow job away" as the saying goes. It's a complete shift of perspective to fully embrace celibacy.
I think we tread a thin line of validating sexual addiction whenever we recommend people freely engage with prostitutes and pornography. It is certainly not bad to do these things, it's just not "the best we can do." Advocating for moderation is good, but we should also acknowledge that it's possible to simply give it up. That said, it should be legal, just as marijuana, alcohol and other drugs should be legal. Prohibition doesn't work. The only thing that works is education, introspection and self knowledge.
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I hope you are being sarcastic.
Prostitutes are people.
It's the "develop" part that really bothers me, though. You can't possibly be on a MGTOW subreddit without understanding that this very process of "developing" relationships with women IS the problem.
You can also stop acting like the entire thing is as simple as "just go socialize."
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Ironically, bones has posted about his success in socializing with people who might be women: his gf got him charged with domestic violence.
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Nobody said that is what to do.
In fact, if you read the responses everyone is encouraging the OP to go out and live his life.
I feel that you could have thought about all your responses a little longer before posting them.
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I'm admitting nothing. I am ridiculing your absurd position.
You obviously need that female approval, and the false safety that comes with it, in order to feel comfortable. That's great. I'm not here to criticize you. Enjoy it. Wallow in it. I genuinely couldn't care less.
How are you claiming to be some expert on prostitution, and the relationships established therewith, if you haven't used one? Maybe it's the most amazing thing in the world?
Lets not lose focus here: You said
Unless you can defend that having a girlfriend of a few weeks constitutes "living life" while not having a girlfriend of a few weeks is the opposite, then we will consider your point conceded. Remember, you are on a subreddit with men who have gone their entire lives struggling through relationships with women only to give up and find the peace, serenity, and reward of going ones own way.
Which reminds me, I sincerely don't think this is the subreddit for you. Well, at least not yet. Maybe a couple more trips to the clink, then you'll be ready.
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