Ex Started Dating

dalef77 · 2016-06-17T16:58:55+00:00

Your ex-wife, ex-mother-in-law, and ex-father-in-law are old news now. I know this is easier said than done, but unless they do something that places your children in harm's way, you need to sever the emotional cord with them.

As you learned about your ex-wife's dating through your children, it was not her doing that caused you to become knowledgeable about this situation. She did not inform you in an effort to make you jealous or upset you; your kids let you know.

Maybe your ex-in-laws are babysitting the kids while your ex-wife is dating in an effort to get their daughter to attach herself to a wallet, so they will not have to support her. Your ex-in-laws may want their retirement money for themselves. Do not assume that your ex-in-laws' motivations are to do something against you, when they may have their own self-interests in mind.

Whatever the reasons for your divorce, whatever your ex-wife's motivations, whatever the actions of your ex-in-laws, you need to emotionally detach yourself from them for your own happiness, peace of mind, and future.

Go your own way, do what you want, enjoy your freedom, and forget about the ex. She is unimportant to your future.

nice_and_friendly · 2016-06-17T16:29:08+00:00

what did you expect her to do? if it helps you feel better, remind yourself that you can still progress as you age by accumulating wealth, building your body, and living a fufilling life and be an attractive potential mate to women of all ages well into your 50s-60s.. she cant. she is already on the downhill, and she is doing nothing but deteriorating. she cant afford to waste any time finding someone else to latch onto, because soon enough it will be too late, no respectable man will want her any more, and she knows it. cant fault her for immediately trying to cash in on her looks while she still can. fuck what she does man, that aint your problem any more. glad to hear you are hitting the gym hard and joining us here/at trp. those things will help you move onwards and upwards, i am 100% sure. be good man

Mgtowredpillonroids · 2016-06-17T17:16:06+00:00

Even though I'm a young fucker let me give you some advice here because I've personally witnessed what my flatmate went through in regard to his ex, the mother of his daughter: Do not regard her as "the mother of your child". Regard her as someone unimportant who just so happens to have custody of your kids (whether partial or fully). If you show that you're still emotionally attached to her, she WILL use that against you, whether it's in order to get certain services or resources from you or in order to have someone to go back to. Do not give in. This person is absolute cancer to you right now. Keep it civil and polite and show zero emotions towards her. You know why it hurts you? It's not because she's that speshul snowflake. It's because you built your identity around her and now that she's gone you feel incomplete. You've become codependent, at least partially. Never allow that to happen to you.

Underballbuttered · 2016-06-17T16:27:45+00:00

Be unapologetic about trying to get pussy. Its your life, they have no say.

Eyes_Of_The_Dragon · 2016-06-17T17:21:38+00:00

And the fact that she did not miss a chance to be in LTR as soon the divorce was finalized.

You mean before it was finalized. The monkey doesn't let go of one branch before having a hand on the next one.

BevTheManFromDownUnd · 2016-06-17T20:31:47+00:00

Yeah it fucking sucks, there's no getting around that.

All I can say is there is no justice, and there's no recourse. You can't rely on logic either.

The only thing you can do is look towards the bigger picture. Always try to see the bigger picture.

For example - My ex gave me the reason she was breaking up with me (after 10 years of marriage, divorce, then us (me) trying my ass off to please her, we get back together again) -> then she pulls this "breaking up with you because you won't look after my dogs for 1 hour".

BIGGER PICTURE: She's approaching 40 and wants to fuck Chads.

Now she'll get fit, date, same hypocrisy you faced from in laws will emerge, like them actually giving space and backing down for new guy. All that shit (no logic / no justice).

BIGGER PICTURE: I will get on with my life, maybe inadvertently find another girl, otherwise single for the win.

Moral of the story, there's no guarantees in life that people will be good or do the right thing. It's a giant fuckup. What you invest (heavy investment emotionally / financially etc) gets swept up in the wind years later, when she's approaching menopause and wants some fresh dick.

Tyler_Gatsby · 2016-06-17T18:27:59+00:00

As much as much as I want to bite my tongue, and go along with the high road comments about focussing on and bettering yourself( which will pay off, and ultimately lead to happiness) that little asshole in me likes getting his tit for tat now. I can't resist suggesting you consider if there's anybody she knows that you could hook up with, just for fun. A friend of hers or co-worker that was always friendly with you, some chick where she gets her hair done, or at the bank you both used maybe? Let her find out you're fucking the 19yr old barista where she gets her latte in the morning( she will find out, they're all snoopy, nosey bitches) and it will eat her ass in a gloriously satisfying fashion. Food for thought;D

capmblade · 2016-06-17T20:02:58+00:00

You can and you will. Eventually the pain just fades away and you're free!

Arzu1982 · 2016-06-17T18:00:30+00:00

This is from Terrence Popp but remember dude your playing the long game so just keep your cool.

cynicalsimon · 2016-06-17T21:54:39+00:00

Reminds me of the scenario where my ex would 'be uncomfortable taking her pants off because she was insecure'. I saturated this girl with compliments and she wouldn't budge but when I broke up with her and she dated this new guy, 'you didn't make me feel as comfortable as____". Like she had a clue what she was saying. I said numerous times' there was another reason' and she acted like it was bullshit.

This is one of the exceptions where I will use the world "NAWALT"

oldredder · 2016-06-19T02:21:47+00:00

You need to destroy and re-make your inner self so there is no pain. This pain is weakness and has no place in any man.

Some of my ex's have kids now and I don't care.

This won't make you feel better "now" but if you do it you won't feel bad like this ever again.

1v1crown · 2016-06-17T19:06:30+00:00

You're so weird dude... nothing she does has anything to do with you anymore stop being a crybaby. Jesus men these days. Steel up mofucka!

belhaj7 · 2016-06-18T02:37:48+00:00

If you will spend time with your kids I suggest you to do really fun things with them. While your ex does all the boring things for your kids i.e school putting them to sleep or whatever.You do the fun things with them like going to rollercoasters,camping doing some sports just whatever . quality over quantity

ransay3277 · 2016-06-18T15:29:23+00:00

Don't worry about it my friend. I know it hurts, but this too will pass. You say she is 41? Well she has hit the wall. I mean would you date a 41YO with 2 kids? Probably not. It's good you are at the gym. Stay busy and you will get over it. In fact, if I may be so bold. Go out and hit and quit a few 25YO's. Believe it or not, it will do wonders for your mental attitude. Don't keep your dates secret either. Just my 2 cents as an old timer here.

Title	Ex Started Dating
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Upvotes	15
Comments	40
Date	June 17, 2016 4:22 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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