I'm here for some relationship advice.. I've been with this chick for 2.5 years now and would say I've been completely in love for some time, however it's wearing off and I'll soon be graduating which brings the feasibility of moving on or settling down.

However she is a feminist and I've done a few things that has upset her;

1. Groping her in her sleep (multiple times after she said she doesn't like it)
2. Waking her up by rubbing my leg between her legs then having sex with her (after she was fully awake of course)

following that she told me that what I did wasnt okay and that I should "seek help" because I'm rapey. Admittedly I like rough sex (just as much as tender love) and I'm a fan of hardcore porn.

When I'm out and about I (almost compulsively) gaze at womens bodily features, something which she has noted and feels really bad about, this is also a point that she wants me to seek help for because it's objectifying and sexualizing to women.

In short she's making me feel really bad about my sexuality and making it into almost an psychiatric matter, is this right at all? I feel like I'm being gaslighted...