Having a bad time

hernes321 · 2017-12-29T15:54:41+00:00

You aren't the only one who has gone through that. You are making the classic mistake of getting your validation from her and others outside yourself instead of getting that validation from within. Don't do that. My advice is to get to the gym and get a killer workout, you will feel tons better after. Make exercise part of your routine. Then get busy with projects to make yourself a more learned and skilled person. The worst thing you can do is sit around and think about her.

BreathGenie · 2017-12-29T16:35:21+00:00

I was chronically depressed for a long time over women. I coincidentally stopped masturbating for no real reason, just grossed out by it I guess. Then I noticed I felt a ton better. To use metaphor, all of my five senses are in erotic pleasure all day long. My depression seems gone, along with my social anxiety. The trick to doing this is to avoid sexual stimulation, i.e. don’t stare at women, stop looking at porn, etc. Your hormones will balance and you will rapidly feel at peace. But judging from your heartbreak, only time will heal your heart. And it will heal you.

git_hur_done · 2017-12-29T17:14:51+00:00

Haha its actually crazy to see how so many people transition the same way. This is the first step OP. The issue with reality is that there is a perverse distortion about life, love, etc. There are narratives spit at you to make the opposite sex seem infallible, but the truth is, men and women are both capable of horrible things. You got lucky that you got to know who your girl really was before falling for her further.

Remember, you didnt love her, you love who you thought she was.

tiredofshit · 2017-12-29T16:37:19+00:00

You're not broken. You're being reborn. It happens to all of us.

Welcome.

TigPlaze · 2017-12-29T15:54:34+00:00

Sorry to hear of your pain. Are you in a place where you can get some counseling? It can help if you find a good one.

Curthurley · 2017-12-29T15:57:27+00:00

If youve allowed yourself to get to this position you need reexamine several aspects of you. You also greatly need to ask yourself, are you mgtow? I say this out of helpfulness. I think mgtows dont allow themselves to get in your position. Unless your brand new to mgtow?

Artie_L · 2017-12-29T16:21:14+00:00

Getting over something like that is extremely difficult even for the best of us. Allow it to run its course, it's natural. Even if she's a thot, you're going through a degree of bereavement. You will come out of this stronger, wiser and immune to such shit. PM anytime.

MesaBoogeyMan · 2017-12-29T16:38:41+00:00

Drinking will only amplify the self hatred. Go exercise. Stop putting her on a high horse. Bash the horses legs and put it to sleep. Plus always look at it this way. She like all women will only look worse with age.

youmolide · 2017-12-29T20:36:57+00:00

It's your brain fucking with you man.

You know how geese can get imprinted on their mothers ? You got imprinted on a chick and your brain shunts all thoughts her way in an effort to keep on getting laid - then she kicks you right in the nuts and takes off.

Thats because women DON'T get imprinted like men - they just stick around until they change their minds - happened to me after 15 years of a decent marriage - no real rational reason on her part, she just changed her mind.

It's not you dude - it was just your turn, and now your turn is done.

Almost all of us have been there usually more than once. Start exercising even if is only going for a walk once a day. If you can't think of any good reason than do it because she's gonna see you some day and if you look like shit she'll just think even more she made the right decision :)

This just takes time - try to find as much other stuff to do - hobbies exercise sports hanging out with friends read books etc - goal is to pass the time - more time passes, sooner you are over it - like getting the flu.

Hang in there bro it gets better.

Title	Having a bad time
Author	Dontgetmadbud
Upvotes	5
Comments	13
Date	December 29, 2017 3:42 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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