So, I will try to keep this short, but I need to hear some encouraging words from this sub.

A little background: This is obviously a throwaway account. I don’t want to post to MGTOW on my main account because of perceptions, my job and all that kind of stuff. I do lurk and read on MGTOW daily and it is a great source of inspiration and strength. Thanks to everyone who participates and shares their stories.

My issue(s): My ex-broke up with me a little over a year ago and we have stayed “friends”….but in reality it is more like I am an orbiter/emotional tampon. We talk a lot. Almost daily. It is more than likely about issues in her life. I am like a shoulder for her to lean on/cry on. We do see each other a bit. I go out to eat with her and her new partner at least once a month. I go to her house and pet sit whenever she is out of town. I don’t get a lot out of the relationship in return…at least this is my perception. I don’t have many other friends and I suppose it is nice to have someone to hang out with outside work, but I truly feel like this is a bad relationship to continue.

She is in another relationship. She left me to explore a relationship with a woman….they have been together ever since our split. As I mentioned, I do hang out with them both. It was weird at first, but it doesn’t feel as weird now.

I know it is bad to be in the position I am in, and I have been getting stronger over the past year, but I need help with finally breaking the bonds/chains of this relationship. I was previously really blue pilled. I also previously was delusional in that I thought I needed a partner/wife to be happy. I realize now that I don’t…the thing I struggle with is trying to break off this “relationship.” I just have a lot of trouble saying no to her. We have talked about a lot since our split and she has admitted that she manipulated me. She also did a lot of stuff that I now know is really bad (treated me as an ATM, withheld sex as punishment, tried to guilt me into a lot).

Anyways, I know this sub is great for sharing inspiration and stories of struggle. So please give it to me…set me straight MGTOW. Help me break these bonds and live the life I want.

One note: My life is fairly put together everywhere else. Nice place, stable high-paying job, and all that other kind of stuff. For whatever reason, I just can’t kick this habit.