How do I finally stop wanting something I cannot get (women)?

RedFoxOnFire · 2017-07-09T03:13:10+00:00

Could be worse. Could be stuck with a woman you can't get rid of.

mthrowaway52 · 2017-07-09T03:33:01+00:00

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mentalidade_logica · 2017-07-09T04:13:22+00:00

If you are:

horny - jerk-off and get a prostitute.

lonely - get a pet and hobbies or better yet, adopt a child. A woman will not cure your loneless and in fact many times you wish you were alone. Invest on a sexy robot.

move on - do you need to experience a burn on your hand to move-on?

physically - chances are your father is of a similar physical characteristics as you, if he did it why can't you? (There is an old saying that for every man there is a woman out there, the question thou is that what you really want?).

lonewolf-chicago · 2017-07-09T04:23:10+00:00

There are two paths to enlightenment

Hedonism
Monk Mode

Hedonism will cause you much pain, suffering, anguish, a lot of money and ruins many men. At the end, you will realize women are not worth the trouble.

Monk mode will allow you to have total and complete control over yourself and once you master yourself + witnessing everyone that you know go down a path that led them to unhappiness you will realize that women aren't worth the trouble.

Choose

OldRoad · 2017-07-09T04:48:40+00:00

First of all, think how unfair the dating world is to you. Why does the dating world deserve to have you wanting to be part of it?

Second, I was a guy that didn't have much success with women, and thought it was some sort of rare, top-level goal to have a romantic relationship. Then I finally got a serious romantic relationship. Oh yeah, it was great at first. But then all these problems started building up with it. When you see random strangers walking around in public, you may have no idea about the serious problems that some of them have. The same thing goes for beautiful women. Imagine discovering for the first time that she may be cheating on you. Imagine discovering, bit by bit, her serious issues that she never told you about before. Imagine going deeper and deeper in debt, when you were able to control your finances before.

I remember walking back home to where I lived after work one night and thinking how great it would be to be single again. Not so I could date someone else either, but just so I could have my old life back. Believe me, the weirdness of thinking that, when I had gone through so much work to find a serious romantic relationship, was not ignored by me.

I understand that you can read my words, but it still might not make the emotions go away of feeling like you are missing out on something. My advice would be to keep reading this group, especially the stories about guys having really bad romantic relationships, including guys for whom dating was easy. For me, I actually find some pride and self-confidence in ripping on the dating world as unfair and not giving it an important role in my life.

Over time, learning about what other guys have experienced on here, I think that you'll get over some of those emotions. So often, when a guy thinks that he is missing out on dating, I think that these feelings aren't based on what the guy would be likely to actually experience in dating, but instead on what they guy imagines that dating could be like. Well, as you can probably guess, there is no reason that the real world has to match what we can imagine.

It's like imagining what would happen if you won 100 million dollars in the lottery. Immediately, your life would completely change. You wouldn't have to work ever again (unless you wanted do), and you could spend every day doing exactly what you wanted to do. Sounds great, right? But very unlikely to happen. So I doubt you spend your time constantly unhappy because you can't win all that money. I think it's a similar deal with guys thinking about what dating can be -- except, unlike winning the lottery, they don't recognize their thoughts about dating as unrealistic, so they let themselves get unhappy about not being successful about dating. That's just my opinion, anyway.

If you get used to thinking about dating realistically, I think you'll find that you'll miss it less.

InsomniacHornet · 2017-07-09T03:25:07+00:00

Find something to occupy your time. Start working out and improving yourself. Keep your mind occupied and your hands busy.

jblack94 · 2017-07-09T03:27:17+00:00

Use vr porn and a bit of imagination (try to invent a romantic story about the pornostar you're "having sex" with), you'll feel totally amazing.

silive · 2017-07-09T03:35:54+00:00

Why don't you go to some Latin American country where prostitution is legal and cheap for a month or two and get it out of your system. At some point you'll get tired of it, I guarantee it.

max_potential_ · 2017-07-09T10:40:18+00:00

Make your life as meaningful as possible without expecting to get a woman. I highly recommend you find some role models and learn from them as much as you can.

Look at the way Buddhist monks live and how happy and peaceful they are even though they don't even masturbate. They are incredible men that strive to improve the world daily.

For loneliness, think of getting a pet. Maybe get a musical instrument and practice as much as you can every single day, then meet other people who play music and play with them. Pick up some sport or hobby and find some people to play with. Being more athletic is good for your mind and body.

There are still a lot of problems in the world: poverty, sickness, shitty politics, etc. You can also choose to focus your energy on fixing something that you see wrong in the world.

There's a book I like called Be So Good They Can't Ignore You, by Cal Newport, in which he says to find something you're determined to get good at and do it relentlessly, almost obsessively. When your skill has increased exponentially, it'll be hard to be lonely because others will want to be around you just to learn from you.

Another book I highly recommend is Mastery, by Robert Greene, which outlines the path to mastery.

Finally, you can read books, fiction and nonfiction. Books can put you in a completely different world and allow you to live completely different lives.

Hopefully this helps. Remember: you are totally free. No crying babies to take care of, no nagging bitch wife to hold you down. Freedom is like air: you don't miss it until it's gone.

Now go and be your own fucking man.

Dberp · 2017-07-09T06:32:15+00:00

You want something you think is awesome. And in reality it's not. Relationships and sex are the most overrated things on the planet. As soon as you see a woman for what she is, you won't want one anymore.

There are many things that we can't have or accomplish in a lifetime, despite what our grade school teachers told us. I personally have had to come to grips with the fact that I will never be a space shuttle pilot. It's never gonna happen. So I find other things I maybe CAN accomplish, and find some happiness in those things.

BloodyNightWing · 2017-07-09T11:05:26+00:00

Devil's advocate here: You're just desperate to get a woman and or you you constantly need someone to be with. Nothing wrong with that though, because I used to be the same. Some people can't be alone and need to fill in that empty role. Having a partner. It's a primitive instinct we all have but once you conquer it you'll realize that you're better off being single.

Good luck. And once again, I had to give you the uncomfortable truth.

Diam35 · 2017-07-09T03:30:26+00:00

Also, at only 30 y/o, you're not even supposed to have experienced much. Try pump & dump.

project_mayhem_ · 2017-07-09T03:32:10+00:00

you haven't viewed enough pornography. when you've seen what women will do to their own assholes for kicks and money, you will quickly drop the idea of wife-ing one.

Xlasingx · 2017-07-09T04:35:29+00:00

these are primal urges..

do you, intellectually, really care, or is this your dick talking..?

if the latter, this is ONLY you fulfilling your biological imperatives..

rub, 1-2-3 out, and move on, daily.. repeat..

you are one of the lucky ones, i say this, no jest..

..and you know this to be dangerous.. do you want danger.. if yes, jump out of a perfectly operational aircraft.. or something similar..

..and logically, you are safe..

..and no, looking for validation, given it's a waste of time.. walk away, brother..

they are not worthy of your time..

be you..

be free..

be MGTOW..

cheesymold · 2017-07-09T05:32:57+00:00

I still have that problem and I have my fair share of sex. The answer is masterbation.

realpasta3 · 2017-07-09T20:49:42+00:00

Have you tried going after women at the same level of your attractiveness?

crimsonsamuraiftw · 2017-08-15T08:38:32+00:00

Get out. Put one foot in front of the other. Explore nature. Take a cross country road trip and see the sights. Go backpacking in Europe. Visit some holy sites and ancient ruins. Live life, force yourself to stop worrying about something you can't control, and while you're at it you'll find other interests that are more worthwhile of your time.

Title	How do I finally stop wanting something I cannot get (women)?
Author	Mcheetah2
Upvotes	12
Comments	39
Date	July 9, 2017 3:04 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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