How do I stop isolating myself from everyone?

RDMgardy · 2018-10-26T14:57:43+00:00

There is a bit of an isolation element to this MGTOW thing. Gets better when your in your 30's, every one around you is a married slave and/ or is stressed out with an accident baby. If you stick around for that long you'll get to see other people's mistakes and get comfort in knowing you found something better.

Non-PC-Guy · 2018-10-26T14:47:58+00:00

I choose to be a hermit by choice, because I think society generally sucks and I probably only enjoy being around less than 0.5% of people. Just make different types of friends and separate from anyone who is a bad influence in any way.

DangZagnut · 2018-10-26T15:07:27+00:00

Once you stop the whole chasing women thing, you do find yourself not going out a lot socially, because the primary reason at a young age is to get laid.

Being a hermit is maturity.

I mean, why, precisely, do you have to be social if you don't want to?

Or to flip that, why don't you go be social if you want to?

I mean, do whatever makes you happy. If you want to stop isolating yourself, then stop isolating yourself. Go out and do something. Pick up a social hobby, like camping or crewing a dragon boat. I've done that and it's tiring as fuck.

Another thing you can try, if you feel it's necessary, is have a grand goal you work toward, which will almost always force you to interact with people to accomplish it.

vagrantchemist · 2018-10-26T15:19:39+00:00

Honestly the best advice I can give you as a fellow hermit is this: people are trash, and I say that in a respectful way. As a 30 yo male, I've met countless people and made hundreds of friends, and can confirm a lot of NPC trash is out there. There are a few good eggs, but you'd have to travel far and wide. You're young, I'd say travel as far as you can, but when I was in your position with drugs and crazy friends, I was too scared to go anywhere else. It made me relapse until I actually left the environment and changed the game up for myself. You should meet yourself and get to know you a bit more before venturing out. There's tons of things you barely know about yourself at your age, so ask yourself as many questions as possible, then seek out the answers.

teslaistheshit · 2018-10-26T15:03:40+00:00

Gotta change your scene bud. If you feel isolated that's actually a good sign. Learn to be alone and take control of your life. Get out of your comfort zone and start a conversation with a stranger. You'll be surprised how a simple conversation can change your life. Look for meetup events near you that might spark an interest.

It takes time but you can build a new version of yourself and the people you associate with.

selfism_mike · 2018-10-26T16:45:22+00:00

Work on the no-job and lack of motivation thing. Everything else ignore.

iseehot · 2018-10-26T18:05:32+00:00

You have stopped distracting yourself with drugs and now you feel lost.

As you have discovered, drugs (women, alcohol and anything else that modifies your mentality) are not your friend. You have also found out a lot of others follow that path, because overall being alive is a lot more work than many want to do.

Go do something that involves physically moving your body. Do it everyday for as many hours as you can. Move the bar higher. Your brain will hesitate, then follow you into action.

Boston_Batman · 2018-10-26T21:42:00+00:00

People are mostly shit. Get a job and don't socialise with them. I can't stand 99.99999% of the people I come into contact with (they ofc have no idea)

anonymous_bastard5 · 2018-10-26T14:51:58+00:00

Don't motivate yourself, discipline yourself.

tramese · 2018-10-26T17:34:02+00:00

I live like a fucking hermit and I have no motivation to do anything.

it's called peace and quiet. You owe the world nothing, so stay relaxed.

richbeezy · 2018-10-26T17:58:14+00:00

You might want to consider moving to a new town that is not as drug infested. Sounds to me like you are living in a pretty bad area for someone trying to avoid drugs.

Title	How do I stop isolating myself from everyone?
Author	dudeeitsdamon
Upvotes	7
Comments	12
Date	October 26, 2018 2:40 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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