How do you cope with missing physical contact?

mma13579 · 2018-04-21T08:26:38+00:00

I used to feel that in my 20s, I had several years of going my own way before I even knew what MGTOW was, then I met my unicorn (yeah, I know, I look at my old bluepilled self also with a mixture of sadness and anger) , got married... 11 years later I was in a contactless relationship, where we hardly ever had sex and she didn't want to touch me or be touched.

She ended cheating on me. Through some skill and some dumb luck I avoided being divorce-raped and got to keep the house and most of my assets (also, no kids, so that was lucky), but no one is giving me back those 11 wasted years.

Now I am definitely going MGTOW, in my 40s. Sex is overrated, masturbation is much better than most of the sex I have ever had with any partners (seriously, most women only just lay there, you do all the work and it is plain boring and exhausting, when you masturbate, you focus on you and your pleasure, and nothing else, selfish, yeah, but awesome).

As for physical contact, I got my dogs. And again, I am not joking, laying on the sofa, watching a movie, feeling my dog leaning against me, looking down at him and seeing him looking up with his loving eyes, gently caressing his head or playfully fight him every now and then... has given me more on the "human contact" area than any woman has ever given me, and definitely more than my ex-wife gave me for most of our marriage.

It is fucking sad to be confronted with the reality that for many men, a dog can be a better companion than any woman ever will. But it definitely helps with coping with that need for physical contact

MemeConnoisseurYT · 2018-04-21T06:37:57+00:00

You can give yourself the stranger. Its when you sit on your hand long enough the blood stops flowing to it and it goes numb, then you jerk off. Feels like a stranger is giving you a handjob, hence the name “the stranger”

You can thank me another time.

ProgrammaticallyMeal · 2018-04-21T07:24:05+00:00

I totally agree with your concern on this one. This is also my biggest hurdle with MGTOW missing that human interaction. Im curious how old you are also and if this is a life stage? im 31.

So far I haven't found a solution. Ive considered various options:

profesional cuddles - waste of time, might swell get a hooker
hooker - expensive vice and could end up with me feeling empty and lonely
Tinder - Forget it if your not 8+
Dance class - pfff who wants to do that

That doesn't leave many options. IMO being MGTOW is easy in your 20s and for the first couple of years. Then the real challenge starts and FOMO increases

Throwawayforinsaniti · 2018-04-21T06:54:57+00:00

Find a girl that likes to cuddle. Dump her when she gets delusions of a relationship. Repeat as necessary.

insomniacsheep · 2018-04-21T08:03:26+00:00

Get massages. Increases blood flow and relieves touch starvation.

mma13579 · 2018-04-21T09:35:20+00:00

I have some good options on this.

Do judo or BJJ or MMA. You are basically grappling/wrestling with someone. Yes it's usually a man but in a lot of classes, especially judo, I have sparred with many girls (just try not to get too excited). Also there's gymnastics and dancing where you often match as a man with a woman, that could be good but never done it.
Get a hooker. You don't have to do it every week, just every few months until the feeling of missing contact wears off. (EDIT: I forgot, a similar option to hookers is to get a massage from a woman. It relaxes you, helps recovery, feels good and is contact with a woman. Plus they often do "happy endings" and similar things if you wanted more.)
Distract yourself with other things, learn to enjoy life more and not get bogged down in insignificant details like physical stuff. Focus on hobbies and things you are really passionate about, find other people who feel the same way.
Meditate every day. This one is basically an answer to anything you struggle with mentally. If you take the time to do it properly every day you will find you rarely feel bored or lonely or missing people.
It's often ridiculed on here, but learn PUA. Approach random girls and try some techniques out, doesn't matter if it doesn't work, have fun with it. Some PUAs use a hug as an opener so you'd immediately get physical contact. You don't have to sleep with them or even get their number. Just try approaching girls until you manage to make out with one of them. Don't have to be an obsessive PUA, just try it out every few weeks or months if you feel lonely or bored. Especially if they're on a night out, they will make out with anyone, often girls have competitions to see how many guys they can kiss.

Think I covered everything. These are all things that have done or would do myself, hope it helps and ask me any questions you want.

Shimakaze4 · 2018-04-21T09:15:13+00:00

Buy a dog and cuddle him. I never had this issue, I have a bit of phobia about being touched, I don't like it much at all.

Misogynist_MGTOW · 2018-04-21T09:34:12+00:00

if u have a gf, u'll still be missing contact lol, the bitch will give u a bit then bait u heavily into giving her what she wants and then leave u dry as fuck! u have 2 choices. A- Lose 100% physical contact B-Lose 95% physical contact and 99% of ur fucking money. pick one but remmeber, if u pick B, there's no turning back. u got a few alternatives. A- Visiting a brothel. If that's too rich for your blood, go for B - VR Porn and sex toys, if you're a blue collar low skileld minimum wage 9-5 worker, well get some sex drive reduction pills, look up "monk's pepper", another way of doing it is to just go for a massage i guess /

SirNecroKnight · 2018-04-21T11:55:27+00:00

Jerk off and go back to whatever it was I was doing. Purge the poison.

GuidingDark · 2018-04-21T08:02:39+00:00

Get a good massage.

But honestly, hookers. You'd be surprised what good company they can be if you find a good one.

FuckoffBacktoTRP · 2018-04-21T06:57:56+00:00

WTF. Is that actually a thing? LOL I don't have that problem. Seems kind of weird tbh

Herpnderp145 · 2018-04-21T11:27:22+00:00

Sex doll

mma13579 · 2018-04-21T06:35:47+00:00

Professional cuddlers and/or hookers

BloodyNightWing · 2018-04-21T07:18:17+00:00

Get a hugging pilllow or a stuffed animal. And no, the hugging pillow DOES NOT need to have an anime face on it

Yehoshua_Benaiah · 2018-04-21T09:48:15+00:00

Just remember that physical contact in this day and age, no matter how minimal, could fuck up your entire career, your life and you could end up in prison. #metoo

MattFoley79 · 2018-04-21T08:37:21+00:00

Hire a hooker. That's what they're there for.

WhistlingAlong · 2018-04-21T11:18:45+00:00

Cant miss something you never had.

RedditStudent93 · 2018-04-21T11:54:41+00:00

There's actually been studies around physical touch and mental health. Just go and hug other MGTOWs.

4169726f6e · 2018-04-21T12:40:31+00:00

Jacking off seems to do the trick.

Freefrombitches123 · 2018-04-21T12:26:20+00:00

You can still bang one now and then if you want

elementalwalruss · 2018-04-21T12:28:18+00:00

Get a cat or a dog

WolfgangBreitweit · 2018-04-21T13:32:17+00:00

Handicrafts. Make something out of wood or leather or whatever. It will distract you from the need of touching a female or being touched by one. After a while you will loose the craving for it anyway. At least that’s my history. I had the same troubles.

Banincoming · 2018-04-21T14:41:29+00:00

Get a dog.

11SOCK · 2018-04-21T16:51:15+00:00

Ignore them, and develop a meditative practice instead. Pranayama breathing is useful for dealing with many feelings like this. If you don't want to feel lonely hangout with family instead. There's nothing weird about the occasional hug here or there. More often than not that's all you to get rid of stress.

If neither of those are options for you learn more about cortisol, a stress hormone. Pursue healthy activities that alleviate it's symptoms and you'll find that you don't crave physical contact as much anymore.

jargonoid · 2018-04-21T17:01:41+00:00

You just have to not give a fuck. You're not a little bitch, you don't need that shit.

BachelorInc · 2018-04-21T20:32:09+00:00

I can identify w/you OP. There are times I miss contact. But, if we're talking strictly in terms of sex - not as much. This is something I never hear men talk about, but for me the release of sex was always drastically inversely proportional to the lust. Meaning the craving, desire, and appetite was so overwhelmingly strong, but the actual release (cum) is never that great. It's over in a split second and then any desire for sex is almost abolished.

This is one area women have it better, because it's precisely the opposite. Their orgasms/release is much stronger than the actual build up of lust. It's an overwhelming, full body experience for them and it lasts for quite a while.

Young men march through life w/this unchecked desire/libido always attempting to sate it, while women have merely a fraction of the sex drive, yet when they do get it, they experience bliss that men never do. What a fucking irony.

mechdemon · 2018-04-21T15:14:46+00:00

By knowing that whether you are with someone or not, you will end up missing physical contact. Since that's the case, you need to learn to live without it.

You are adaptable or wouldn't have gotten this far. I have faith in you.

2018-04-21T15:49:09+00:00

Women feel so temporary that I feel like I'm just missing an illusion of warmth anyway. It sucks sometimes, but that's part of lucidity.

SirNecroKnight · 2018-04-21T17:44:31+00:00

Jerk off with my best friend: the right hand, or even my left (yes, I've learned to go back and forth - especially when one gets tired). That or a fleshlight or whatever. I'm just waiting for the sexbot to be available at my local Wal-Mart. :)

unpluggedoasis · 2018-04-21T18:05:40+00:00

You can always go use an escort.

Hwga_lurker_tw · 2018-04-21T18:20:11+00:00

Pillu-Wifu...or $20-$40 for a hooker in TJ.

metablue777 · 2018-04-21T21:32:30+00:00

Ask a married man how they deal with it!

MyLittlePonyofDoom · 2018-04-22T02:17:17+00:00

Hookers

mgtownigga · 2018-04-22T16:00:26+00:00

You don't have to give it up. I still do shit with girls when the opportunity arises, but i'm realistic about what it is. IF you need physical contact and/or sex, don't be afraid to get it IMHO. Just be careful and guard your emotions and always remember AWALT

RedPillMGTOW · 2018-04-21T12:03:36+00:00

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Title	How do you cope with missing physical contact?
Author	Magic8beard
Upvotes	52
Comments	104
Date	April 21, 2018 6:18 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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