How do you define being a man, or masculinity?

maa50 · 2017-07-26T02:25:54+00:00

Masculinity is the ability to adhere and stick to your morals and beliefs with dignity and upright conduct regardless of any challenges or difficulties. It's the ability to act with courage for what is right no matter the consequences.

SoloGumbo · 2017-07-26T01:30:06+00:00

In the modern notion, I'd think masculinity is defined by contentment in discomfort.

silive · 2017-07-26T01:56:05+00:00

Don't give a fuck! That's how. P.S. Every time some female implied that I was not a "real man", I knew I was doing at least something right and was really proud of my masculinity, whatever it was...

Dirty_steve_ · 2017-07-26T02:40:23+00:00

Do whatever I want within the limits of the law. Don't be a douche or an in the way person as Bill Burr would say. Build shit. Read, learn, and grow. Play guitar. Be as active as possible. Climb mountains, kayak down rivers. Camp in the woods. Hunt and fish. Snowboard and rock climb. Play golf. Run and lift. Cook awesome food, especially steak and breakfast foods. Enjoy college football on Saturdays. Do as much maintenance on my truck as I can. Help those who are in need when it's warranted. Be a mentor to those who ask and are willing to learn. Figure out problems on my own and ask for help when it's needed. Be self-reliant. Enjoy good beer and whiskey. Do all the before mentioned with any friends that are left, either never married or divorced.

DigitalScetis · 2017-07-26T05:27:07+00:00

I don't have to define it; I am it.

This kind of obsession over "the meaning of masculinity" has always had a bad stench. Do we honestly think Charles Bronson, Vin Diesel, and The World's Most Interesting Man sit in discussion groups to debate the finer points of their masculinity? I think not.

We tried all of that crap in the 1990s with the Mythopoetics, and what we got in that sad affair were notions of "toxic masculinity" that the femstoppo jumped upon in the 2000's and 2010's to further shame and denigrate us.

Masculinity is like obscenity: you cannot define it, but you know it when you see it.

That's about all I have to say on the matter.

mentalidade_logica · 2017-07-26T03:11:44+00:00

"Not the Momma." The dinosaur baby.

Flame2057 · 2017-07-26T04:06:12+00:00

I think to truly be a man you must not follow what is mainstream and figure things out for yourself, regardless of what other people think and what they want you to think, even if that thought is illegal

michael8684 · 2017-07-26T07:12:58+00:00

Independence & accountability.

WanderlustYouth · 2017-07-26T10:10:32+00:00

Following your ideals and dreams without unwillingly kneeling societal conformity. Too many men nowadays give up on so many of their dreams because it seems to not fit into what society wants for them, but if look back in history most if not all the men who brought forth change in their society did so because they didn't do what most of their society was doing at that time...

Dajork · 2017-07-26T06:54:29+00:00

I think "being a man" seems simple enough. It's not like "being a woman" where the only prereq is to essentially have a pussy, though.

Yeah. Be a man. Fight stuff maybe. Work hard. Suffer, I guess, and learn from it. Expand your abilities for whatever reason.

But as I'm getting older it doesn't really seem that cut-and-dry. I mean for some people, sure, it's pretty easy -- but for other people -- I mean, there's a lot of bullshit out there.

I'm almost 28. To me, being a man means that you don't throw yourself at everyone to prove you're the best. You might not be the best, but that's ok. As long as you try to improve yourself constantly, you're doing yourself a service as a man to be the best you can be. I'm done with that civil manners crap of holding the door and all that. Are your arms broken? Do it yourself. But if there's some paraplegic or whatever -- I'm sure exceptions can be made. Try to help the people that need it, stick up for yourself and your beliefs (because nobody is gonna do it for you, ever) and think critically about everything -- because there's a lot of really bad information out there that could mess you up.

Being patient is great too. I think men have a much better chance of at least pretending to have patience than most women. Taking care of yourself is good too -- being as independent as you can really helps a lot.

I know these things are really able to be attached to everybody but I really think they're important. Ultimately, as a man, you are only bound to help yourself out really, but you can do it in a kind, self-preserving way. Number one rule is that no one is gonna save you, and no one really gives a shit about you, so it's your job to take care of yourself the best you can (unless you're really lucky).

That's what I think. Don't be a bitch, work hard, give yourself a purpose, and DO NOT SACRIFICE YOUR EXISTENCE TO SOMEONE WHO DOES NOT CARE ABOUT YOU. You were born alone and you'll die alone. So make the middle stuff count and don't have hard feelings.

TheMeistervader · 2017-07-26T01:31:42+00:00

Having a penis.

Men are a spectrum. Masculinity is subjective. I am 100% an alpha male. That does not mean that non-alpha males are not men.

Do they have a penis? Does it work?

It is most definitely a man.

CynicalSoup · 2017-07-26T04:28:38+00:00

By taking care of another mans kids.

Xyolex · 2017-07-26T07:05:03+00:00

Never saying you are sorry.

huckleberryferry · 2017-07-26T09:59:26+00:00

Masculinity is that which is defined by:

Rationality and sound judgement: a man is capable of being reasoned with. He is capable of situational analysis and general reasoning about reality. He understands his limits and boundaries and is naturally inclined to exercise his intellect and forming judgement. His understanding of himself allows him to be self-responsible.
Self-control and will power: in manner and actions, he exercises modesty and nobility. He only turns "aggressive" when it's absolutely necessary. He shows self-control over his base instincts and desires (anger, hate, sexuality, etc.).
Simplicity and elegance (and clarity, in presentation of thoughts, ideas, outward appearance, problem solving and approach to situations or circumstances; the male figure even shows simplicity, as against the feminine figure): a truly masculine man always gravitates towards order and beauty; a man shows simplicity in dressing or appearance, for example he ensures uniformity and harmony in his dressing to match the occasion as against, say, putting on clothes with too many different colors (black tie, red-colored shoe, brown-colored suit, yellow inner shirt) and spending too much time in dressing. In short, a man is simple in manner, actions and skills.
Contentment and satisfaction with everything, even with the "least" and "most simple": including contentment with the least explanation, approach, little spaces, absence of stimulants, etc. For example, a man will agree to stay in a cave with his basic needs met.
Relatively/ reasonably (in reference to the feminine, and on the average) higher physical energy/ stamina and strength.
(Relatively) higher speed and agility.

I'll add to the list later on because masculinity is an aggregate of complex traits and features, paradoxically exhibiting simplicity.

HumanBeingOfEarth · 2017-07-26T10:20:28+00:00

I define masculinity by a nature point of view. A man is a survivor, adaptable, can handle pressure and fights against anything trying to bring him down. A boy will sit and argue/complain because he can't get what he wants, a man will figure a way to get it. A boy resorts to insults/crying when he has no logical explanation to a specific topic, a man seeks truth. Being a man isn't just about being hairy and strong, it's about spiritual growth and always trying to self improve both physically and mentally.

huckleberryferry · 2017-07-26T10:30:44+00:00

Or I would simply define masculinity as "not feminine".

batfish55 · 2017-07-26T11:18:22+00:00

For me? When I quit asking myself that question.

Im_a_CNN_Expert · 2017-07-26T13:36:18+00:00

Trying your best not to give a shit how others define it.

Solstus22 · 2017-07-26T17:40:24+00:00

Not letting others but yourself define the type of person you are.

Following whatever you like to do, believe in no matter what others say.

Not wasting your time regretting but also maintaining honest integrity.

Personally, I'm miffed about how women arbitrarily define what a man is outside of possessing male sex organs.

black_mirror_cheat · 2017-07-27T04:52:18+00:00

It's simple, men have Y chromosomes!

EldritchSaffroN · 2017-07-26T06:35:30+00:00

So many things.

I have a peice of paper from like when I was like 17 and purple pilled. It has all the things that females find attractive in a person - not stuff like money, but things like being independent. Not compensating for yourself using gifts. Being comfortable with setting boundaries. Etc etc.

It's amazing how I've internalized it over the years. Anywho it's actually a fantastic list for what makes a man.

It's not about being a strong 6ft athlete.

Being a man is basically about not being afraid to be who you want to be. Do what you want. Be good. Be just. And don't apologise unless you have actually done something wrong.

aanarchist · 2017-07-26T01:56:56+00:00

left and right brain hemispheres are properly balanced and working in harmony. that is what masculinity is, that is what an alpha male is.

Title	How do you define being a man, or masculinity?
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Date	July 26, 2017 1:17 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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