How do you get over bitterness?

tinysackbigshaft · 2018-02-28T03:16:45+00:00

You paid for an education

ZealousMathematician · 2018-02-28T02:59:46+00:00

Think about how much you saved by not continuing. There’s always a more terrible possibility...

20180209 · 2018-02-28T03:13:46+00:00

I jack off and then I look at my net worth statement. Bitterness gone.

nothappywithBITSTAMP · 2018-02-28T05:58:45+00:00

don't talk to the ex's
just went through the same shit 6 months ago after a car accident left me permanently injured and she walked away from an almost 3yr relationshit, also 26 so welcomes to the boats..rule number one on the boat: don't talk to the ex's
don't go fucking about with another woman cause it'll just fuck your head up more, jerk off a lot or just celibate it out
don't drink in excess or alone (I've disregarded this advice and it has prolonged my recovery)
get out and do shit you like
if you don't like anything anymore and your bitterness and anger blind you, start with walking.
see number 1 again
continue to walk every day, alone, in the woods, through a park, clear your motherfucking mind.
#1
come here and share, read, learn, expand your mother fucking mind.
don't. mother. fucking. talk. to. the. ex(s).

and ultimately u/tinysackbigshaft put it best

You paid for an education

so take forward your newly found knowledge and live the best possible fucking life you can. for you.

edit: edited some shit

ZOGabominations · 2018-02-28T03:21:08+00:00

Always learn to cut your losses. It doesn't mean that it doesn't hurt, but you can't let it destroy you.

deadBeefCafe2014 · 2018-02-28T03:25:44+00:00

She doesn’t owe you shit ... but you better make her happy. That’s the ultimate paradox of the female mind.

Time is the only cure for bitterness, sadly.

scaur · 2018-02-28T03:26:22+00:00

time.

Ted_Bison · 2018-02-28T03:32:17+00:00

By not participating in the dating game and relationships in general, you no longer have to give a fuck about pretending to be someone else just so you will be accepted by some woman. You can be whoever you like and hang with whoever you want. You'll also discover that you can focus at important task better too without all the emotional distraction caused by relationship turmoils. You'll be successful and rich. Also dating game is rigged against men these days, you have to work so much just to date some mediocre girl and be grateful you didn't get stuck with an ugly fatty. All women will just eventually leech off your success anyway. Kids, mortgage, and eventually divorce rape. Why not save all the money for retirement that let you travel around the world? Which will you choose? Drinking at the beach while enjoying being rich OR be some poor cuck getting yelled at by your post wall wife?

captainsaveahoe69 · 2018-02-28T03:42:58+00:00

Thank her for waking you up. And you're only 26, you haven't even peaked yet. Just don't do that again, enjoy life on your own terms now.

frikabg · 2018-02-28T03:59:40+00:00

From my experience and point of view.

Time will make things better but it will not solve the whole issue. You will still remember this experience because you were wronged.

Learn from this all women are like that every fucking single time! It is all fun and games when you give her all the stuff she needs but the moment you need help you will find yourself abounded so quickly you won't be able to say 'WTF'. You can rely only on yourself everyone else is more or less there for the ride. Women specifically are the first one to abandon ship because they are haven't learned to deal with tough situations on their own they always rely on someone else to solve their problems no matter how strong and independent they say they are.

The last chick i had a conversation with in that regard thought she was really tough and strong because she was living on her own paying her own rent and not being super slut! Yeah that is what it means to be super strong and mega independent to pay your bills and look after yourself. Considering the fact that the average male out there does this as a base line ... yeah nothing else to say really.

Tell me/us what else did she do for you and how did you contribute to your life because it seems that the moment things got tough and you had a rough patch she literally abandoned you and you got that as a thanks for passing a better job and life travelling around the world/country. So what sacrifices did she do for you?

PS. Sucking your dick is not a sacrifice!

raisins3142 · 2018-02-28T05:17:43+00:00

If the relationship is in its death throes, and you are sure she will cheat soon, then end it yourself now.

Pellaeon_redpill · 2018-02-28T08:21:52+00:00

Ultimately, time and acceptance is what it all boils down to.

Here's a tool that can help you take the edge off though: https://www.emofree.com/eft-tutorial/tapping-basics/how-to-do-eft.html?Itemid=0

Also, instead of focusing on all the wasted time, focus on how your life is going to be so much better now that you are waking up to a reality your mind had been trying to ignore.

Give yourself permission to feel angry, but also give yourself permission to let go of it and move on when you're ready. Remember that your anger doesn't ultimately hurt her, or any women, but it can get in the way of your happiness. The best revenge is to live a happy life and completely forget about her.

nigelh · 2018-02-28T09:16:04+00:00

Do something man. I don't care if it's a motorcycle, model making, teaching yourself quantum mechanics or writing fiction. Tick off an accomplishment then raise a beer to it as the first of many.

Hypogamy · 2018-02-28T03:02:16+00:00

By being ******* salty!!

MethaCat · 2018-02-28T04:18:26+00:00

Time and self reflection.

deplorableinWV · 2018-02-28T10:03:34+00:00

For me, the best way to get over being bitter is forgiveness. Making peace with what happened and telling her you forgive her. Not forgetting, not rationalizing what she did, not pretending that it didn't happen. It did and she is a shitty person for doing it. So many people see forgiving someone as being weak, when in truth, truly forgiving someone is one of the hardest things a person can do. And the forgiveness isn't for the other persons benefit, but for your own. The anger and bitterness that you hold on to is a form of control she still exerts over you. Every descion you make that is fueled by your hurt has its roots in her, therefore she still is effecting your life. Let go, never forget, go on living. You have to decide which wolf you're going to feed.

rebellionmarch · 2018-02-28T10:18:19+00:00

Yelling at the neighbourhood kids.

Get birdfeeders then yell at the neighbourhood squirrels.

Get a dog whistle then wake up early and piss off the whole neighbourhood.

But in seriousness, exercise the bitterness, get it out of your system. Above are possible outlets.

fcb98292 · 2018-02-28T06:25:20+00:00

Action.

Edhinor · 2018-02-28T09:13:15+00:00

I see you have gotten a lot of good advice, but as a recently cheated on, lied to and finally dumped husband... let me tell you what helped me.

For me it is about victory or defeat. Living my life, being happy, moving on, forgetting her and not letting her destroy me, focusing on the positive things I have in my life, focusing on making myself happy... all of these are victories over her.

Remaining bitter is defeat, it doesn't affect her, it doesn't make it harder for her, only for you. Remaining unhappy, focusing on the loss, on all that you invested on the relationship... all of these are defeats she inflicts on you.

Live your life as a happy man, do what you want to do with it, from now on, every day until you die, and do not even waste a single minute of energy to the past with her and what she did to you, that will be the ultimate victory.

JayJayEcks · 2018-02-28T22:44:54+00:00

Embrace it, use it for fuel, let it power you, drive you, into a better outcome for you.

Pk_s_to_the_yizzle · 2018-03-01T05:11:00+00:00

When you realize that she is STILL RUINING YOUR LIFE EVEN THOUGH SHE IS NOT EVEN IN IT.

You are giving her your emotions and feeling and time and thoughts for free - and she is PROBABLY sucking a dick. Right now. But not your dick.

Why can she be the only one to move on? Why do you have to be miserable too because SHE AND SHE ALONE is a HORRIBLE PERSON?

Why can't YOU be sucking a TIT instead?

Someone who can make you miserable just thinking about them is a terrible, terrible fit for your life.

And she's gone, and your time and money's gone.

So if she's gone, and can't hurt you anymore, and their could be a tit to suck if you wanted one (and you find out it's cheaper just to pay for it), WHY are you still miserable?

Title	How do you get over bitterness?
Author	GaijinThrowaway1
Upvotes	42
Comments	28
Date	February 28, 2018 2:56 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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