How do you guys do it?

GrisBosque · 2019-09-29T18:31:54+00:00

its real easy; the universe balances absolutely everything...

And one usually has bad luck when attempting revenge.

Just be patient, calm down, nobody gets out alive, not even her....

I used to wanna piss on my Exe's grave...

Now I just wanna piss on the flowers so they wilt.

Consider it being vaccinated... yeah it hurt when they stuck you. But now youre good to go....

I suggest popcorn in the freezer... It might be awhile, but youre gonna need it...

Remember: they wanna hurt you... Anger is hurt... dont let her win that battle... Its the one you can stop them from winning...

And twenty years from now when you see her, she'll be just another ugly old lady who knows she's a cunt.

What could be better than that, if you dont give a shit?

DevilSweets · 2019-09-29T18:17:22+00:00

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DangZagnut · 2019-09-29T18:24:00+00:00

Let it go. There is no positive outcome for you. So just let it go. Stop thinking about it all day long and amping yourself up.

Copypastable · 2019-09-29T18:20:14+00:00

Enjoying and thriving with your own life is the best way to get back at her.

NAILmg42 · 2019-09-29T19:05:08+00:00

Let the wall and simps have her. Playing bioshock infinite brought me more happiness than any women I have been with mate and I liked it more than alien isolation. I have like only six games. Awalt brother and just walk away.

Men always win in the end. You can live a life where you work for your emotions or one where they work for you. Don't let them repeat themselves and not resolve themselves.

krugerand9 · 2019-09-29T20:10:41+00:00

You have to realize that women don't have full control over their nature.

If an escaped lion mauled you, would you seek revenge on the lion? Well, maybe someone would but I think most realize lion's nature and you just accept it.

bagomonkeys · 2019-09-29T18:19:00+00:00

For me it was time. But it was a long fucking time.

The thing about having MGTOW now is there is a wealth of advice here about improving yourself, your health, your finances. There's support and knowledge here that didn't exist for us older ones.

As far as bringing karma to her doorstep I can only say step back. Breathe. Keep reading here.

Knew a guy who hung with bad people, not someone to mess with, who walked in to his wife in bed with another guy he knew. Both of them asleep. He said it was just a hair's breadth and God that kept him from going to prison for a long long time. He said it was that close.

Be that guy.

MichaelSkarn_FBI · 2019-09-29T19:52:54+00:00

Assuming you don’t have a child with her, rejoice! You can move on.

Block her number on your phone. Log off social media. Do not call, text, email, follow her at all. Out of sight, out of mind. Don’t bring her up with mutual friends. The subject of her is history. Learn from it, and don’t repeat it.

Depressed and suicidal? A few tips, but I’d see a professional if your really at that point. Start eating better. Avoid sodas. Emotional eating causes a vicious cycle. Hit the gym. Use the anger as fuel in the gym. Seeing improvements in your physique takes time but works wonders in your self attitude. Clean your home environment. Fresh sheets, declutter, putting your energy into this helps distract you mentally and gives a sense of accomplishment, even if it’s temporary. Sleep. Proper diet and exercise help with getting good sleep.

Some of these are easier than others and trying to do it all at once can be too much, so take it day by day.

There is only one person who will have your back for the redt of your life. Parents, even the best ones aren’t going to be there forever. Friends come and go. Coworkers will sell you out in a heartbeat, so you’ve only got you. Don’t let that get you down. Becoming the person you want to be takes work. Don’t be discouraged because others make it look easy.

Look up the “no zero days” post. It’s somewhere on reddit. It’s been gilded over 90 times, for good reason. Print it. Read it. Read it again. Read it again. Read it until you know it by heart. You aren’t alone when you have two best friends. (You’ll know what that means later,)

darkmanilluminate · 2019-09-29T18:17:46+00:00

Flip the script man. You escaped a psychopath. Don’t go back that way, there’s a big ass world out there, find your own pearl.

Doc_Sithicus · 2019-09-29T20:32:25+00:00

Hate will keep you alive where love fails.

5 years ago I was where you are now. 12 years of relationship, 8 years of marriage. To make thing worse we had a 5 year old child together.

I got my shit together, filed for divorce and nuked a deal that was worth hundreds of thousand and would allow her living the life of luxury - instead she'll have to work her entire life and will never reach the same level as she had with me.

Took me couple of years before anger and pain subsided. The experience changed me in a way I cannot really describe but I have clarity of thought that I did not have before. I am mostly at peace now, much happier, healtier and richer comparing to the time when I was married. This days my life is simple, organised and free of drama. And I like it this way.

MetamorphosisSilver · 2019-09-29T22:00:57+00:00

Revenge is that animal hindbrain demanding action, any action at all. You feel like you've been cornered and hurt, and all you want to do is lash out at that which hurt you.

This is the time where you have to make a choice.

Will I lash out in anger? To the person who wronged you and any others observing your actions you will probably be justifying any negative things that have been said about you. And once that momentary satisfaction is over you will still have to judge yourself for your actions. Is this the foundation from where you want to build your future life? I hope not.

There are three paths you can choose from when you are affected by trauma like this. You can choose to give in to you darker emotions. This will likely make you an angry and bitter person. Few would want to share their time or business with you, and for good reason - you'll be a pain in the ass to be with. You can choose to go along as you have been. You will not have learned anything useful from the experience or have grown as a person. That would be a shame. Lastly, you can choose to accept that life has dealt you a shit hand recently, pick yourself up and decide - I can do better. This doesn't mean that you forgive what has been done to you but that you accept that though you cannot change the past you are not bound to let it determine your future.

As you read posts here you will encounter all three of these viewpoints. A new arrival to this forum is usually full of the "Red Pill Rage^{TM^"} . He just wants to burn the world down, and all women are EVIL. This eventually dies down, as something that burns that hot cannot burn for long. You will also find second viewpoint posts - this is where we post the messages, images, and videos that poke humor or (some) scorn towards the opposite sex. And then you have the truly useful information - the third alternative. Rise above that which was before, and make yourself a better man. Do those things that make you happy and content, and that are true to your moral compass. Define yourself by your thoughts and actions, and judge others by theirs.

Be Strong, my Friend !

Togotfury · 2019-09-29T23:57:23+00:00

Because she's not worth going to jail over. The best revenge is doing well and not sparing them another thought

elcheapo17 · 2019-09-29T18:13:03+00:00

What happened

wsuofd · 2019-09-29T18:18:22+00:00

ah...F em

Drifterrr07 · 2019-09-29T18:21:19+00:00

Saw your post in another forum. Do you and your ex have children together?

If not, I would suggest ghosting. Not just her but the community in which you live. Find a job somewhere rural, bank your money, and learn some new skills.

EL10RUB · 2019-09-29T18:23:18+00:00

If you react it'll make it worse, she will feel like shes got you where she wants you (shell infer your rage as still being into her, this is what she wants) It will also be fleeting and will embolden those around her that she is right

GYOW, its the only way. Karma may or may not land at her door but you need to distance yourself from whatever comes her way. She wronged you & your self esteem is saying to get the F away from it. Seems counter right now but trust me you'll be better for it

Shrewski · 2019-09-29T18:32:25+00:00

Lmao. You’re being such a beta.

Revenge is what women do. Don’t be a woman. Block that bitch and move on. Do you and forget about it. I know it’s easier said than done but you’re a man. Be a man.

BaffyBob · 2019-09-29T18:35:03+00:00

Revenge will only prolong unpleasant contact with her. Forget her. You have more important things to do FOR YOU than this.

Bartand · 2019-09-29T18:38:09+00:00

She is just pawn,

The problem is the faggotery enabling just like communism happened in Russia 100 years ago.

mikeysixpointsix · 2019-09-29T19:18:38+00:00

The best revenge is to be unlike her who preformed the injury. Marcus Aurelius

GoodMan_Gone · 2019-09-29T19:46:46+00:00

You might not like my answer, OP. But for me realising it was me who allowed it. I'm the only one to blame. No matter how noble my intentions were, I put myself in a position to get screwed over. Now I refuse to live like a paranoid hermit so I'll get burned some more. But thus far I've got more benefit than pain for trusting people. Yes, even women when I pulled sex out of the equation totally.

RedpilledAesthetics · 2019-09-29T19:54:26+00:00

I had my revenge. One of the best moments of my life

Krazyrobus · 2019-09-29T21:43:30+00:00

Easy, what will revenge solve? Always do things that will improve you. Getting revenge is just a cathartic release but does nothing for you long term.

2019-09-29T23:09:57+00:00

The best way to hurt women, is to walk away from them. Don't give them any attention, bad attention is still attention. They thrive in drama. They are addicted to attention/drama.

2019-09-29T23:16:25+00:00

The last thing I told my ex when she messaged me last to see how I was:

"Yeah I don't want to talk to you anymore."

"What why?"

"Because I read in a book that constantly feeling like you want to kill yourself is not good for your health. "

Followed by what. I don't know I blocked her. Last thing I heard was that after we broke up she dated some other guy she clearly had lined up during our relationship. Who pumped and dumped her. She lived by herself for 6 months before getting evicted and now she's living with her parents.

I did nothing. My life is better. The universe gave me my revenge for me.

If she sucks. Her life will suck. Trust nature.

krakizwak · 2019-09-29T23:42:36+00:00

Success is the best revenge.

DashingWolf · 2019-09-30T00:10:28+00:00

Realizing that the pain of losing my illusion and having the preserverance to accept the truth, despite how much I want to believe the lie are the only way I will reach were I need to be. Do not act on anger, unless fighting for your life, that is how we make mistakes we can not take back, that cost us more than it's worth. You learned a lesson, now walk away.

2019-09-30T01:18:25+00:00

It's not easy. Anger is first to arrive, feels good, gets deeper and deeper and fuels thoughts of revenge.

But .. that's just it, thoughts of revenge. Time is a wonderful medicine that heals all wounds.

I don't know about you, but I am a realist, I seek truth and what is real. I am also old, and after decades of reading, studying, research, introspective and a lot more fuck-ups I have realized and I understood that I allowed the vast majority of those shitty behaviors that I hated. I am not playing victim, I am not blaming myself, I am taking accountability and acknowledging that I had Agency which I abdicated, and now I have Agency to let my own success be my own source of satisfaction and revenge toward the naysayers and the fuckers.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sense_of_agency

I don't expect you to understand this after 1 quick read, it took me decades and hundreds of books, and trying a shit-ton of stuff before reaching this point, and I am not done yet!

Seek to better yourself, make better choices, better judgments, say NO a lot, and be extremely selective on how you spend your time, and with whom you spend your time.

WingLeviosa · 2019-09-30T01:52:43+00:00

Knowing the truth while she is living the lie. Every time you lock eyes with her, she knows you know. And that is satisfaction enough to me.

Everybreathe · 2019-09-30T03:25:17+00:00

Let me tell you a little Karma story that took 10 years to realise.

My first girlfriend out of high school was much more put together than me. she was a law student, healthy, fit, traditional values, good family. 3 year relationship. I played video games was a bit of a rebel and didn’t really give a shit about life at the time (age 18) Instead of the obvious breaking up with me, she monkey branched to one of my chad school friends, cheats on me, and they both later confess. Even after we split, she was in another relationship with a third beta-provider guy in less than 2 weeks. This really fucked with me in my twenties, gave me a whole load of trust issues, but I walked my own path.

10 years later at the age of 28 in at a high school reunion, and I get chatting to an older lady who knew my ex through a work connection, and she confessed to me that she was six years in, and engaged to the other guy. He then got sick of her shit, cheated on her with a younger woman, and subsequently ran off with said new woman.

KARMIC DEBT IS REAL YO

PokkaTeh · 2019-09-30T11:50:38+00:00

Every time a thought comes into your head you have to immediately reject it. Just say "I don't care, I'm going to do my own thing". Say it out loud if you have to. It's hard to do if the pain is fresh but eventually it works and you just stop caring. Then 5 years down the road they message you, or try to add you on Instagram and you realise, to your surprise, that you just don't care. You just delete the cunt and block her if you have to.

bamabeatsny · 2019-10-01T02:43:24+00:00

Don't do that. It's beneath you and it only validates her treatment of you to her. I do believe that personal success is the best revenge. That makes total sense. The fact that you can rise above it, leave it behind, and make a better life for yourself is the best way. I haven't been able to do that. Not yet. But some day I hope to be able to. I too feel the same frustration as you.

I can't wait for the day when I can simply cut her off completely and move on. She will have gotten the last dollar from me. And she will never see me or hear from me again, at least, not directly.

Title	How do you guys do it?
Author	Drifterrr07
Upvotes	15
Comments	39
Date	September 29, 2019 6:08 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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