how do you react to shaming?

mrscene1 · 2017-11-30T05:16:06+00:00

huMan did a great video on the shaming tactics, it is only shame if you value the opinion of the person shaming. If not, then there is no shame.

DangZagnut · 2017-11-30T05:16:08+00:00

Never. Ever. Feel shame.

That doesn't mean you don't learn from your mistakes, or the environment around you and how it reacts to you, but that's it. Learn from it. But never be ashamed.

Sometimes you make mistakes in public, or social situations, maybe you use the entree fork instead of the salad fork, but feeling shame that you generate personally, much less letting someone else shame you, should be unacceptable.

Lets say you use the wrong fork with the salad, should you feel guilty about that if you never learned it? Or don't know about wines? Should you feel lower class compared to someone else?

Talk to a girl "outside your station"?

Don't feel guilty due to lack of knowledge about a social situation you didn't know about. You have not a lot of control over your upbringing, learn from it, educate yourself, and move on. The internet has all the information you'll ever need to know.

But don't be ashamed of yourself or let confidence waver because of it.

If someone tries to shame you, ignore them. They're extremely low class, poor character people, so like, every woman alive. When a woman tries to shame you, ignore her. Or go on the offensive and ask her why she felt the need to get fake tits, or if that's her original nose because it looks different than it should.

Now I would never recommend going on the attack when someone tries to shame you, despite how effective it is when done properly, ie, the Winston Churchill method.

As in, you've got to do it classy and right if you're going to pull it off, as in this classic Churchill conversation:

Bessie Braddock MP: “Winston, you are drunk, and what’s more you are disgustingly drunk.”

WSC: “Bessie, my dear, you are ugly, and what’s more, you are disgustingly ugly. But tomorrow I shall be sober and you will still be disgustingly ugly.”

See? You've got to do it right. Just saying, "yeah bitch you suck" isn't going to cut it.

Or just be apathetic, and ignore them. Nothing they say is every going to be important. And don't JADE (Justify, Argue, Debate, Explain).

They don't deserve it, and don't care. The opinions of idiots is just that. Idiots. Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one, and some woman who thinks she's above you is a nobody. They don't exist.

But never let a woman, much less anyone else, shame you. I mean if you're being a dick, by all means apologize, but other than that, fuck that noise.

LuxuriousComa · 2017-11-30T05:16:03+00:00

Don’t take the bait. As men we live in a world where defending yourself is a sign of guilt.

Just walk away for your own good. It’s not a battle you’ll win.

Besides it’s simply female projection which is so abundant on earth it’s rendered even more worthless.

BookusRecommendicus · 2017-11-30T05:58:23+00:00

Laugh. Nothing infuriates them more than laughing in their face when they're trying to initiate a very serious moral judgment session.

LAUGH.

NewWave647 · 2017-11-30T05:09:45+00:00

be unbothered.

on reddit tho, anytime someone uses shaming tactics, i always find some pathetic shit in their post history that makes their claims void ...

justmgtow12345 · 2017-11-30T05:50:50+00:00

Look into machiavellianism my friend. Other people in terms of opinions, belief systems and their feelings should never override your true interests. Machiavellenism delves into the state of the human mind and how insignificant the human opinion is. I would recommend reading into it.

goodbeertimes · 2017-11-30T10:16:10+00:00

I'd say welcome them. You propose to shame yourself. Tell them

"Right, go ahead and shame me. The starter pack can include size of my penis, ability to get laid and anything else that your little mind can think of.

They will be thrown off-guard.

Devil_Nights · 2017-11-30T06:50:53+00:00

mckenzie_friend_au · 2017-11-30T07:05:41+00:00

With feminists, I look bored and start counting the "-ics" on my fingers in front of them. Then I ask them if that's the best they can do. I add you've come up with 100+ genders and still can't do more than the same old tired 27 names? Come on get creative.

Of course, they can't or at least haven't to me and it really winds them up.

If they go the Nazi bullshit (you're literally Hitler, like literally), I get mock offended, because Hitler was a pussy. If you're gonna call me true evil, call me Papa Joe. Now he was a real killer. Or even better, Mao. They got some real blood on their hands. Hitler 6 million (pussy). Stalin a minimum of 5 times that. Mao even more. So at least name call me after a real killer of men. That usually shuts them up.

strangerthing7 · 2017-11-30T08:17:40+00:00

I smile or laugh when I'm being attacked. Never give them an ounce of respect.

Ohboohoolittlegirl · 2017-11-30T08:33:50+00:00

Depends on the situation. Online. Ignore it, they want to evoke a response. Do not give them the satisfaction of you being "upset" and any kind of response is that. In real life. Smile, look them in the eye and tell them that shaming tactics are weak and pathetic and that you will ignore them until they come with any kind of real argument. Follow up by ignoring that person or just walking away

justmgtow12345 · 2017-11-30T09:57:08+00:00

Edit: i like to add that i am somewhat sensitive and ignoring that shit makes me boil inside.

Sensitive?

Or... is it rather that your "self-esteem" -- lacking any firm foundation or basis -- is largely built upon validation from others?

-- You see, if and when you have SOLID, objective accomplishments in your past -- proof (to yourself) of your own competence, skill, talent, etc -- then whatever others may think or say is of little (or no) relevance... regardless of whether it is attempt to praise OR to shame.

batfish55 · 2017-11-30T12:41:32+00:00

Frame control. Also, know yourself. If you know who and what you are, and own it, no one can shame you.

Want to body shame me? You can try. Sure, call me fat. I do need to lose, oh, 20lbs. But I own it. Fuck off. Like your opinion matters to me that much.

Atolla2 · 2017-11-30T13:21:34+00:00

I try to be lighthearted about it.

Laugh with them, and then smile while saying something like "look, if you want to give 75% of your income to some chick who sits around with your spawn all day, feel free! Personally I'll be retiring before 40 & chilling on the beach"

Act like you're not trying to convince them of anything, you're just happy about your life choices.

SRod1706 · 2017-11-30T14:28:48+00:00

I have embraced it honestly. I enjoy being called a loser or a weirdo. It means that I am not offering women anything. If you are not being shamed, you must be doing something right according to women. This usually means you are not doing something right by yourself. I never pay for anything for a women. I never open doors or let them go through doors ahead of me. I tip them $1 if they are my server. Nothing if they are my bar tender. I tip men very well.

I am completely done with the idea that I have to be of service to women to be a normal and respectable member of society. Shaming is proof that I am not playing the game of serving women.