I broke up

ZarBandit · 2021-04-20T09:14:51+00:00

Pulling a dead bedroom before she locked you into endentured slavery. How amateurish of her.

She'll do better next time. Be thankful you're not him.

antiSJW_Mongoose · 2021-04-20T09:26:22+00:00

Thank you for sharing such a personal post.

The sheer arrogance of: "Are you sure you can live happily without me and are you sure you won't regret this decision?" seriously blows me away....I always think I have a handle on their superiority complex but I'm always proven wrong.

You've made the 100% correct decision. I truly believe that at this point, she's just a comfortable habit.... someone familiar that was always there - like a decent neighbor that was nice to talk to, but unfortunately he passed on and you'll miss him for awhile. Over time - in the analogy of the decent neighbor you'll miss him and his wisdom he would sometimes provide you. In the case of your ex - over time - you'll realize just how emotionally abusive she was and wonder how the ph🤬ck your relationship with her ever lasted THAT long!!!

Let's make some assumptions: let's say she ends up with CHAD /TYRONE next week......GOOD!!! She's now HIS problem and HIS headache. She might be able to lure some unsuspecting idiot with sex but her arrogant toxicity will ruin every relationship she has in the future until she ends up on FDS.

Let's assume she doesn't hook up with Chad/Tyrone and wants you back.....YOU ARE FREE!!! Free of emotional abuse. Free to rediscover who you are. Free to establish new friendships/hobbies/skills. You truly can do whatever you want!!

Go restore an old muscle car.....learn how to cook.....take a six pack on a boat and go fishing.....go axe throwing....find a festival....dude the weight of her manipulative tactics are off of you....Once you realize it you'll see how beautiful this world is......

Good luck and may you find that inner peace we all seek!

ThisFkingClownWorld · 2021-04-20T09:24:37+00:00

The final thing she said to me after I told her I'm breaking up was: "Are you sure you can live happily without me and are you sure you won't regret this decision?"

This is what she thinks of you OP, a weakling not capable of living life without her, the goddess. I don't know what kind of simping you did to make her like that, but oooh boi.

Glad you chose for yourself

hauntedforest00 · 2021-04-20T09:13:19+00:00

just be ready for the her stalking you quite many ways etc other fuckery..... they do it e v e r y t i m e ...

Ok-Collection-8948 · 2021-04-20T09:17:29+00:00

That’s tough. She didn’t make much of a case for herself.

jeetz09 · 2021-04-20T10:56:44+00:00

It’s for the best man. You did each other a favor. At this point, she expects you to provide for her while she’s being deadweight. Literally from what you described, her behavior is parasitical. I’m sorry for the harsh words, but in due time it gets better. What you feel right now is just the emotional residue of having someone. Don’t let that control you.

silly_birb · 2021-04-20T10:47:55+00:00

We men can start a relationship hoping that mutual effort will bring all the happy things in a relationship.

Sadly it's a delusion because modern women have the brain of a child. They never learned how to be a proper woman like it happened with our grandmothers, that learned how to be a good wife.

Women only know how to "fall in love" aka the infatuation phase which is advertised as "true love" on movies.
But after that phase there should be the desire to care for the other person, which requires sacrifices.

Singers and feminists teach women to "get a man to spend on you or change him for someone else who will spend money".
Relationship will never go anywhere with such women and the man cannot be burden with her part of the job in the relationship.

--Reddit-Username2-- · 2021-04-20T13:45:20+00:00

40+ divorced twice. Both were 15 year relationships that ended up more and more as you described as time went on, starting at about the 1 yr mark. First wife was childhood sweetheart...she “missed all of dating in my youth” and “wanted to find herself.” Second had a triple figure body count and still can’t pair bond. You lose either way. Learned my lesson with the first one but the second baby trapped me and my kid would have been straight fucked if I bailed. Exited when I could and have a great relationship with my kids...no regrets.

Don’t let her live in your head rent free. It’s really easy to dwell on that ‘perfect time’ and forget what she became...if you think of her don’t block out the wildabeast she became. Exercise...sick body, sick mind.

Hang in there.

evergreen35 · 2021-04-20T11:48:57+00:00

No sex = GTFO, bitch.

Yeah it hurts to lose someone, but she is WAY too selfish to be in a relationship.

She DOES NOT love you.

Men who respect themselves don't allow themselves to be friendzoned.

The pain of losing her won't go away quickly: You just have to deal with it and it will eventually get better. (It usually takes me at least a year to truly get over a girl that I loved.)

Ghost, block and DO NOT LOOK AT HER SOCIAL MEDIA. You will probably be replaced immediately by another guy.

Your DNA won't let her go. Don't identify with your DNA.

rickmackdaddy · 2021-04-21T04:52:41+00:00

she didn’t want to do anything sexually with me any more.

Bye. You can get a guy friend instead, he’ll be more fun and you won’t have to buy him anything.

ClutchNes · 2021-04-20T11:09:21+00:00

it will wear off buddy, most of it are just hormones manipulating you. mgtow can and will do fantastic things for you, financially, mentally and physically.

buildrooms · 2021-04-20T12:58:48+00:00

You may not realize it yet, but you just dodged what can only be described as a living hell, if you had got married. Good job being self aware and ejecting from the situation.

MuricanCapitalist97 · 2021-04-20T13:31:28+00:00

Even if you find yourself lonely like she implied, and you think she may have been right all along, just remember you still have your pride, masculinity, and strength of character. Never walk that good decision back

Veracious_Xpl0it · 2021-04-20T13:39:32+00:00

She wanted me to buy shit for her

I don't even need to read further than that.

Sometimes it's really amazing how far you can get yourself dragged into a pile of shit when you are in love, its really ridiculous. For every outstander this is just crystal clear that you should have dumped her ages ago, but i also know how hard it is to admit it to yourself and to ignore the fears that are connected with a breakup and being alone again.

Besides that if that female cannot forgive she should never have started a relationship at all. Mistakes happen and its never going to become better when all you do is nag.

Having read the rest of your post i can only congratulate you on your decision. Well done. You are better off without her. Keep that mindset going.

altair43 · 2021-04-20T14:51:17+00:00

Why would anyone want to live "Happily all the time"?! Wtf?! Life is a roller coaster of happiness, sadness and struggle. All of them are important for our growth. None can exist without the other. There wouldn't be something called happiness if you are happy all the time...

Me thinks this is some propaganda to control people better.

Anyways, best wishes to you! Most important thing is, unlike a lot of people, you decided what is best for you and acted upon it. Just remember that if you were staying with a goat for years and suddenly it's gone, you will feel something similar.

Make yourself the priority. Exercise, work, spend time on hobby, go trekking, do a long bike ride etc etc. There are lot of stuff to do, not enough time. The pain you feel will pass soon.

Also I guarantee you, she already has someone else lined up. She will be fine too, I think...

EnvironmentalRest4 · 2021-04-20T15:05:12+00:00

She forgot the “You’re making a big mistake”.

KingMysoFutureHdrx · 2021-04-20T15:43:31+00:00

The current society sets men up for relationship failure from the beginning. If you want to learn about the nature of mating, observe animals in nature. Mating is a primal activity and animals are the biggest red pill you’ll observe. The genes DONT GIVE A FUCK about societal standards man

alienmuseum · 2021-04-20T17:14:08+00:00

She probably already hooked up with someone by now. So save your sadness for something worthwhile. That is how fast females will get over their boyfriends and husbands.

deepspace7 · 2021-04-20T17:21:00+00:00

It’s just chemicals in the brain that creates that bond. Your mind creates that attachment to make sure your DNA is passed on. Your DNA doesn’t care about you, it just wants to continue its survival.

JohnnySkidmarx · 2021-04-20T18:15:57+00:00

No sex + buy me stuff = total delusion

Duchat · 2021-04-20T18:18:41+00:00

Are you sure you can live happily without me and are you sure you won't regret this decision?"

"I started laughing so hard a little pee came out” was my answer.

oldsmobileaurora · 2021-04-20T22:01:00+00:00

I was supposed to " heal her heart "

What a bunch of childish bullshit. These thots keep forgetting what personal responsibility is.

OP you absolutely did the right thing.

MakeItSoQ · 2021-04-21T19:29:20+00:00

I'm in the exact same situation as you today, but with a wife of 13 years who just last week told me she wants to divorce. Just like the flip of a switch, she completely shut off all affection for me. We have a six year old little girl. I'm in terrible pain missing my wife.

We had issues very similar to you. I might be a future version of you if you stuck with this girl. Like your girlfriend, my wife had a useless college degree and was unemployable for many years until recently when she just completed nursing school. Our goals diverged over the years, and eventually all that held us together was a love that was really dying because there were so many external pressures interfering with us.

I was the family provider in a stressful job where all of my six figures - I mean ALL - get spent by her or on us as family. I cooked dinner most nights. I spent a lot of family time together. But, there's always more that my wife wanted of me. She wanted to live in a bigger house. She was bored of where we are at and wanted to move to a new city. She didn't like me working on personal developments in my free time, instead wanting me to spend that time exclusively with her. Corona made it even harder to get one-on-one time.

Our bedroom went dead, but it was because of me. Her unrelenting nagging and complaints about how I'm failing her needs just completely shut off my arousal. I was terrified of having another kid with her, because divorce always felt around the corner. Her dad and whole family ready to come get me with their pitchforks.

I miss my wife terribly and what we once shared. However, given how quickly she turned cold I don't think she will miss me. I think womens' minds work completely differently from us. Whereas we get completely overcome by love, they've got a switch they can turn on and off.

Your situation isn't all that unique. Get busy on yourself, meet up with old friends, and the love sickness will fade.

I've been here once before, with my college ex-girlfriend. It played out exactly the same way, except for this time I have a kid with me and a legal contract with the state, which makes the situation a little messier. I met my wife pretty soon after I recovered from that first relationship and became obsessed with my own self improvement. Oh, and that ex girlfriend called me several times after that. I didn't want her back.

henrysmyagent · 2021-04-22T04:49:46+00:00

It is really hard for women to accept that their man can dump them without another woman being involved

Part of it is that monkey-branching is hard wired into women. Of course she has some blue-pilled idiot waiting for her in the wings.

The other part is women cannot accept that a man would chose to be alone over staying in a miserable relationship with them.

yourcarlosdanger2 · 2021-04-24T03:48:48+00:00

It's toxic relationship. If you had kids you might want to dedicate years of effort to overcome all of this but absent that - run. GTFO and get your head in a different space. You are both better off without the toxic relationship

Title	I broke up
Author	Kan0puS
Upvotes	87
Comments	42
Date	April 20, 2021 8:57 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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