Looking for some advice

MichaelSkarn_FBI · 2019-02-19T17:00:23+00:00

First part: As you’ve pointed out, you always initiate contact. Easy, stop doing that. It isn’t even ghosting, really, unless she is trying to contact you. If her friend talks to you at the gym, just be civil, don’t let drama come up. Don’t say negative things about “friend”. If she directly asks, just say something indirect like “oh we’ve not talked in a while, and I’ve moved on.” You never have to explain yourself.

Second part: come up with some small goals. Gym related might be to increase bench to a new PR in the next few months or increase conditioning for 5k/10k times. To read a certain list of books by such and such date. To put a certain amount of money into savings/retirement by the end of the quarter, or toward buying something you’ve always wanted loke a motorcycle. Whatever your goal is, make it measurable, and achievable.

darkmanilluminate · 2019-02-19T16:53:35+00:00

1) Ghost. No need to make any big deal about it. Just drop her. If the friend at the gym inquires, just say “O I’m so busy right now.”

If the chick herself engages you, say you’ve started dating someone else.

2) Pursue mastery. Whether it’s in work or a hobby, pick a skill and grind until you see the progress & get GOOD at it. Obviously, the point is to pick something you like—guitar, archery, cooking, rock climbing doesn’t matter. Satisfaction & contentment come from commitment & evidence of progress.

stardustlikeall · 2019-02-19T16:51:44+00:00

Should you ghosts her or talk to her? Either works but if you feel like ghosting her will complicate things, then just let her know, you're not interested anymore. Tell her you're working on yourself? Plus I don't think she deserves much explanation as she did not value you as much as you did! She'll probably throw some fits but ignore them.

For the red pill rage, I say time is your best friend. Just do what interests you, or something new. Have positive affirmations everyday. Go out for a walk, enjoy the little things in life. Try lifting and meditation. I know it's not easy to stop thinking about it. Also I won't say it won't comeback now and then. But in time you'll feel better

CoinSwapTrader · 2019-02-19T17:26:26+00:00

Women want power not love...For them power is more important than being a good person.
She seems toxic and I would not hesitate to tell her you are sick of dealing with a cold, selfish and emotionally distant person.
I could only imagine how boring the sex must be with such a cowardly woman...

rooster-one4 · 2019-02-19T18:58:28+00:00

You said 'a cowards way out'. Don't internalize shaming language. Sometimes, the only way to get away from someone is to just disappear. How about rephrasing it for yourself, saying that you're giving an Irish Goodbye instead.

MuleFool42 · 2019-02-19T18:26:43+00:00

Wow, you're last paragraph is great. I think you're actively doing more than most, already.

Focusing more on personal finance and independence, as well as success in your career and personally is also good.

When you're independent and have your house paid off and stacks of money in the bank, you attain a certain level of indifference that seems to quash anger and negative emotion in general. It puts you above everything and helps you make the best decisions in life because you're self-directed and not desperate.

Nearpeace · 2019-02-19T18:43:34+00:00

Why do you feel anger towards what was obviously nothing but a booty call to the both of you? You are correct. Self discipline is essential to living an ordered life. Responsibility for yourself will help you get past blaming others. Trust me, the pink pilled set is just as confused as we are.

Title	Looking for some advice
Author	UnsuccessfullyLucid
Upvotes	8
Comments	20
Date	February 19, 2019 4:37 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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