Struggling with bad depression; need advice

xetamale · 2019-11-11T22:00:30+00:00

Best i can offer is get out and get away from all those toxic sons of bitches as fast as you can. Forget useless therapists and forget about anyone helping you. First get your head straight go crazy if you have too tell that abusive dad to go fuck himself and the same to mom make them know the pain they caused you. Everything else after is up too you but ide recommend getting some money buy some camping gear and mabye a cheap self defense shotgun or rifle. And spending winter in the woods in the most isolated part of woods you can find. You might think you wouldn't survive but you might surprise yourself.

NamasteFelicia · 2019-11-11T22:08:51+00:00

You need to change what you are currently doing. Nobody in your life is going to fix your shit. It is easy to point the finger, you however are responsible for wherever you are now. Everything you have done or did not do lead you to the situation you are today.

Now that you identified the problem is how are you going to fix it? You have to make daily steps to become a better person. At first it will go slow and you won't see progress, though you have to keep moving forward. That is by taking action.

Write down your goals and work on them. I suggest you stop with the therapy bullshit and start martial arts and/or fitness. You need some outlet where you can put the negative energy into something positive. That will be your therapy I promise you. Go to the gym today, stop making excuses.

Stay away from toxic and negative people as much as you can. Eat healthy, start saving and investing. Read books.

Start today, you can keep complaining and feel bad about yourself, but what have you got to lose? Go and kick some fucking ass man, walk straight and keep your head up.

Keep failing until you get it right and then have the last laugh. Life is hard for everyone. Your problems are not special, there are enough people in this world who have it way worse than you.

Personally I use the negative opinions of someone else and let it feed me. I push harder as I want to have the last laugh regardless. Proof these bitches wrong and bury them with a smile.

letsgobish29 · 2019-11-11T21:59:17+00:00

just keep trying to get a good job

CoinSwapTrader · 2019-11-11T23:06:41+00:00

I feel ya...Im pretty much in the same situation....We are alone in this hell....luckily there will always be a few MGTOWs to talk to, but for the most part everyone is still in the matrix and cannot understand you or me.

xetamale · 2019-11-11T22:04:06+00:00

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TheOnlyThing-Sufjan · 2019-11-11T22:18:41+00:00

First accept that it is an illness and sometimes it might rear its ugly head, however there are way to deal with it. For some it therapy, for others is medicine, and for others its something entirely different. The good thing you are already doing is that you are pointing to childhood trauma as the source of this depression, which in fact is pretty great. Not to say that childhood trauma and depression is great but in my mind your depression is quite explainable. So what do you do next? This is the hardest part of all. Do you want to distance from your family? Do you want to work on your issues by looking at different treatment options? Do you want to just grab onto a goal and start working to it and then get meaning and self confidence through that? All are valid options and noone can say which one is the right one (ofcourse there to many to name however these are just some examples). But the most important part I think is to just start doing something.

Mabye as a child you always wanted to learn an instrument, pick it up, how hard it may be and it might not give you any joy at first just pick it up and try it. If after a good try it does not work, mabye you should look at finding something other that provide meaning, ore mabye get a good therapist. The hard part of treating depression is that in general there is no real treatment plan. For some depression points to something (I also believe this is the case for you) meaning that if you do not identify it and learn to deal with it it will keep haunting you. And yes its a hard battle to climb back up but if you keep climbing you all of a sudden become a better climber, but you have to start somewhere.

Also simply because you have not find something yet that works for you does not mean its not out there, its simply not gonna find you so try to look for it.

Best of luck, also MGTOW helps me alot if I feel blue (never been diagnosed with depression though but I do find a sense of calm in MGTOW).

NamasteFelicia · 2019-11-11T22:19:48+00:00

Checkout these videos they will surely help

https://youtu.be/66ygYH0UUKM (from 3:55 part and beyond is very good and exactly what you need to hear)

https://youtu.be/UWVsQVxsl0o

BitcoinBoffin · 2019-11-11T22:21:21+00:00

This might sound a bit fucked up but I always found that a slow descent to where you find an equilibrium between yourself, your situation & your environment is necessary to find the bedrock you can build your life upon. But just beware you don't want to do this if you are at serious risk of topping yourself down there, or if you think you are going to settle for a life down there. Then it's a simple matter of rebuilding an antifragile version of yourself.

Scrapwolf · 2019-11-11T22:50:27+00:00

hey man, fuck those therapists! should have looked them right in the eye and told them to get serious! Maybe try for some different type of job: theres many that dont involve people or dont involve confrontation! I believe in you infinitely my g!!

xetamale · 2019-11-11T23:24:55+00:00

Get a commercial pilots licence and fly for Susi Air in Indonesia. There was a TV special on it, probably one of the most MGTOW things I've ever seen. Just flying planes delivering supplies to remote tribes in the mountains.

plainnsimpleforever · 2019-11-12T00:09:19+00:00

You need to meditate, mate. One of the Buddhist canons is: Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.

Bad things happen to us all, but inner strength of the mind allows us to handle it and even learn from it. I meditate everyday. So lift heavy to have outer strength and meditate to have inner strength.

xetamale · 2019-11-12T02:26:08+00:00

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Wardedbilledanteater · 2019-11-12T02:49:47+00:00

I strongly advise against going to therapists. Most therapists are insane. Go for walks. Buy a pet or two. Go deep into your hobbies. But don’t go to some feminist therapist. He or she will do you no good. I wish you luck. God Bless.

Alexius_von_Meinong · 2019-11-12T07:15:36+00:00

No more therapists. The profession is so feminized that they are clueless on how to talk to men.

Distance yourself from unpleasant people who make your life worse. Even if it's family. That doesn't mean you have to cut them out of your life completely, but it means keeping them at arms' length, limiting contact, exercising control over the relationships.

If you're drinking or doing drugs, stop. You may need to taper off, but you'll need to get your head clear. Some exercise will help.

Then you need to ask yourself some hard questions, and then you need to answer them honestly.

You got a good corporate job. You're probably making good money at it. But is this what you want?

What do you want out of life? What rewards are you hoping to get for yourself? Are these realistic hopes?

Why are you sabotaging yourself? Dig deep. The answer won't be on the surface. Also, it will take time. You need to keep your life minimally stable while you do the hard work of understanding yourself.

Keep digging until you figure out the problem, and when you figure out the problem, next you have to figure out what you're going to do about the problem. You are the only one who can answer these questions and make these decisions. Literally nothing anyone else has to say can help you in this.

None of this is easy, but the reward is having a life worth living.

Title	Struggling with bad depression; need advice
Author	xetamale
Upvotes	10
Comments	33
Date	November 11, 2019 9:51 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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