Hello everyone,

I’m writing this because I could use some support because I’m thinking of going mgtow. And I wanted to share you a story of mine which pushes me into that direction.

So, I’ve been with this one girl for 3 months. The beginning wasn’t easy because she was cheating on her boyfriend with me for a few weeks. I told her that she had to say it ASAP, like the night things went down she should have broken up. Weeks went by, and she was so confused discovering what love is, pondering about the meaning of that word. She came to the conclusion that she saw her boyfriend as her best friends for over a year already and that she didn’t really love him. I saw right through that that’s why I kept pushing to be with her.

I am generally I kind person. I hug her, I show her love. And the shit that bothered me the most is that if I started showing her my affection, she would take hers back. So one night, I was fed up and went about my business. Working on some shit, not hugging, not kissing, nothing just neutral because I was busy. We went out with some friends and things seemed to be fine. But when we came home she told me I made her feel lonely, so lonely that she texted her ex to ask him how he was... I kind of tried to close my eyes on that because I always try to understand people. They were together for a long time and I thought that it wasn’t easy to switch so quickly and completely be cold and distant to someone you cared about for so long.

Since she had broken up with her ex, they still wanted to talk a few weeks later to see if they’re really certain about their decision. And that one night they wanted to call was at my place. I said it was fine for them to talk because it’s done and I don’t care. I thought I wouldn’t care until I got really jealous because I could hear her talk to that guy. She was laughing, making jokes etc. Who would be like this with an ex ? When I call her she’s more of like coldish and boring and I told her that she seems tired and she replied that most of her friends tell her that. But still, she wasn’t when she was talking to her ex.

Next, some time later, I told her that I wouldn’t mind some hugging from her from time to time. It’s not like she never hugs but still I felt like she wasn’t giving enough just taking. And there she told the truth I will never forget. She said that she isn’t used to giving love as she’s used to receiving it !

I’ve been happy with her and she helped me figure some things out in my life but honestly, I feel like just going mgtow now. We scheduled a time to call and I actually could call her earlier which I did. She answered, told me she was eating out and I said cool, enjoy your dinner have a nice evening and she said thanks and hung up like I was a piece of shit.

I always believed that showing that you care makes the other person love you more. Showing affection, love was the only way to be. But I feel like this is the second time I get the same results. Last time it was nearly the same really and every time I ignored, was aloof and just self-centered the girl chased hard.

I’m thinking of going mgtow because I’m tired of these useless, unproductive ups and downs. What matters most is you and your family. They won’t fuck with you like that. I don’t think you need to go full mgtow, but at least, focusing on yourself and your life will protect you from bullshit, time wasters. And they’ll start chasing you anyways when they see that you’re not like everyone else, drooling over girls. I like Biggie’a quote that could motivate some of you : “I don’t chase them, I replace them”. I haven’t been replying her or answering her calls. I’ll text back or call when I feel like it. I think that there’s nothing wrong about being selfish. You have to focus on yourself first.

Thank you for reading. I had to get this shit out. Bye.

P.S. She called me to break up because she cheated on her ex and couldn’t forgive herself for it. I was like, ight, if that’s what you want I accept your decision. Wish you a great life. Thank you for the great memories. Goodbye. She was clearly about to cry like crazy because I was so easy with it. At the end of the day, I just don’t chase. I’m nice but I don’t chase. That’s a principle. Wish all of you guys the best !