Whatever you do, DON'T BE STUPID.

There are people out there, that will just muck up your life. Just hang around with trustworthy friends. Guys, preferably. The few, the better.

You should have high standard for yourself, some self-respect, goals, and move the fuck on with your life. That said, don't listen to family members, either. Unless they truly have your interest, at best, don't listen. They're socially conditioned, and they won't understand.

Join a gang or some men's groups, which may have your best interests or common goals. Never, never be complacent. There's always something or someone to fuck you up. It can be anyone, including your own family.