Why does being single make me depressed? What is wrong with me?

mgtowofthemgtow · 2019-08-19T04:20:18+00:00

Because you're still thirsty for pussy. It happens to most guys after a breakup and fall into the oneitis.

But you need to read these books in order to break the spell and embrace the beautiful single life:

The Manipulated Man by Esther Vilar.
The Predatory Female by Shannon Lawrence.
The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi.
No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover.

Also you need to learn about hypergamy, the Briafault's law and the Pareto Rule.

These will help you shape and improve your mindset. Good luck.

Forevery0ung12 · 2019-08-19T04:17:03+00:00

You rely on external validation and on people. You think happiness or the lack of loneliness can be found out there, when in fact everything you ever need comes from within. Or you could just be a weak man.

[deleted] · 2019-08-19T04:15:41+00:00

Instead of spending the time being productive, you’re thinking about a fantasy that doesn’t exist unless you’re an actor in a romance movie.

TowerOfMG · 2019-08-19T04:21:31+00:00

However my life seems to be tinted in gray without someone to share it with. What is wrong with me

You are enslaved to society's life expectations. Your mind is guttered with the falsehood of a happily ever after of having a partner. You will not see real color if you can't see the freedom that is being handed to you.

Everyone here seems to be totally OK not pursuing women or relationships

And we should be ok with it. What benefit do I have of doing that? This question is rhetorical because nothing will convince me otherwise...

mgtowjim · 2019-08-19T04:17:43+00:00

I can't speak for others but I'm not ok either. I haven't had sex since January but I haven't pursued it either.

Its normal to want a relationship with a woman but a lot of mgtow are just fed up but it doesn't mean they don't have a desire to be with a woman

neoMGTOW · 2019-08-19T10:29:06+00:00

This seems like an important question so I'm motivated to respond to it. I can relate to what you say about things seeming `gray'.

Some good points have already been made. It's natural for men to crave a relationship with a woman to some extent. However, ideally this is a weak force and there are probably things men can do to become less vulnerable to it.

I think that for anybody, but particularly people in their early 20's, it is important to be as self aware as possible. Do some introspection, even leave the door open to some counselling and don't feel bad about that. Cars go in for routine servicing, no reason why mental health can't be checked in for a routine service too.

Apart from that, some thoughts of mine:

1) look at what else is going on in your life. Do you have good support in the way of friends / family? If not, make a conscious effort to put yourself in situations where you might be able to make new friends. Even if you do, the same still applies I guess. Look at the quality of your friends too - I've realised in recent years that several of my key `friends' are not worth very much, but others certainly are outstanding.

2) Exercise. It lifts mood.

3) Seek a work-life balance if possible (but working off debt is probably more critical, unless you get too burned out).

4) Take the approach to ejaculation that works for you. Some say monk mode, others say infrequent use of escorts. Some would say `optimised masturbation methods', e.g. a Fleshlight, simulating the normal feeling of sex. Whatever works.

5) Considering a long term life change if things are not ideal and planning towards that is great. Probably the most important thing, actually.

6) Exploit your hobbies and look for more of them. Staying active is good.

7) Create something to look forward to. A holiday is ideal, but having things to look forward to, even small things, really helps me.

8) It might sound facetious if I say that being single gets easier with practice, but I think it can. It makes sense that the longer a person is single the more adapted they can become and the better they will get at it. Of course, it can involve some effort and learning too.

9) read good books.

10) You don't necessarily need to shut the door in the face of a unicorn if one shows up. Many here might disagree, but you can make your own decisions. The most basic `level' of MGTOW, in my view, is not viewing being in a relationship as a mandatory, default position. I have male friends who are so blue-pilled, so pussy-enslaved that when they have a breakup they immediately get on dating websites, Tinder, etc, and jump into the next relationship. If they are single for even a few days, they basically fall to pieces, they have a mental breakdown. Women are often the same. You've already proven yourself better and stronger than that, so look at it that way.

11) Don't be too self-critical.

That's the best I can do as an idea dump for now.

Have a good week, gents!

realChebz · 2019-08-19T07:45:58+00:00

Ill probably get a bunch of downvotes for this, but I don't think most people here are "ok with not pursuing women or relationships". They are rather trying to convince and rationalize why it's a bad idea and why it's not worth it. The issue is that we men are biologically wired to seek a partner. You will be struggling with this every day of your life. There's no book you can read (unlike what another commenter recommends), or self -improvement technique you can undertake to ease this existence. It's just something you will have to tolerate and live with.

If I were you, I wouldn't look to extremes. Lately MGTOW seems to have become synonymous with going monk-mode and avoiding women altogether. But I don't know if that's the right path for all men. In my opinion, if you are still longing for women, find another gf or a fuck buddy. Given there are, of course, risks involved and you will have to accept them and take precautions (e.g. avoid cohabitation, use protection, don't emotionally invest, realize that you're probably her 100'th etc), but there will always be risks you can't forsee. I think as a man going your own way, you should be able to make that decision for yourself, and nobody here can make it for you.

edwardbrock27 · 2019-08-19T06:09:50+00:00

Shooting a load in women releases endorphines that are far more powerful than the experience from regular masturbation. It is a natural high that is vey hard to emulate with anything else, including drugs. You're esentially currently drug addicted and are on a come-down. Time heals this wound. In the next few years you will be DISCARDING women better than her. Patience son.

Abap_man · 2019-08-19T21:45:18+00:00

Been single for almost 2yrs now. Discovered mgtow and tried to be one. I was cheated upon by 2 past LTR (4yrs both), and being mgtow was my solution. I guess that time, i am now believing on AWALT. However i still feel depressed and lonely. Being successful in life did not cure my loneliness. I can buy what i want, do what i want. My life feels up and down.

I tried to better myself again this january, lost 10kg, found a better job. But after that, still i feel lonely. I did try to go back to the plantation. It made me happy again for a while, but symptoms for awalt are still there. They never wanted the "nice guy" i am, so i am dump after several months. Now i am more sad now.

I dont know what to do anymore, same as you. I have no interest in doing anything more. I feel like i have achived everything i want growing up. It feels like i just want to feel loved and taken care of, just like my mother did to my father.

I hope we can get our answer. I hope i can just snap my way out of this.

Batman_MGTOW · 2019-08-19T07:37:09+00:00

Watch this, its what brought me to the mgtow lifestyle, after this, there will be no going back if you understand it, you will no longer be able to fall for women's tricks because you will know exactly what they are after and that they never loved you to begin with. Its a TFM reupload, tfm moved everything to bitchute but left out some of his best older videos, this one is from 2016: https://youtu.be/IVuWnh52RU0

Stahlboden · 2019-08-19T08:04:25+00:00

I dont know. Do you have other sources of anxiety unrelated to women? Do you respect yourself deep inside? I had issues regarding my weight and my social status. Once I have solved them I mostly stopped caring about women. And still when I have a bad day or when I had a long unemployment period, my anxiety made me think about my oneitis. But its not as nearly as bad as it was before. I understand the source of this feeling and dont let it rule over me.

Karmageddon17 · 2019-08-19T09:25:01+00:00

You still seek external validation.

cujoduruzo · 2019-08-19T18:01:58+00:00

Humans are social animals. What's the rest of your social life like? Are you happy with your friendships?

JRL76182 · 2019-08-19T18:30:34+00:00

Commit to your career. Find and commit to hobbies which you do alone. Begin the habit of regular exercise. Stop consuming most music, television, and movies. Start reading more. Count the blessings you have TODAY, every day. Before you know it, you'll get a sick feeling in your stomach at the thought of giving all of that up in order to appease a woman. Before you know it, women will look like NPC's. You'll be aware of them, but they'll have the same significance that television commercials for therapeutic insoles do... NONE. It takes time. Stick with it and you'll be free sooner than you'd think.

rosspghettod · 2019-08-20T20:40:25+00:00

I’ve been divorced a year. I get depressed I’m single a lot.

I still get laid a bunch but when I was married and providing a better life and guidance for someone I thought loved me it made me feel whole.

It’s literally just biological programming same as hypergamy. You’re a guy and want to provide for someone. Just if you need to do it, do it on your terms and GYOW. Otherwise recognize it’s just a regular human “weakness” and try to overcome.

Title	Why does being single make me depressed? What is wrong with me?
Author	mgtowofthemgtow
Upvotes	24
Comments	23
Date	August 19, 2019 4:12 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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