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DangZagnut · 2020-06-10T21:50:06+00:00

and I have begun to feel that I miss sharing my life with someone

What makes you think that? Watching any movie or tv shows showing you how wonderful it is?

GrisBosque · 2020-06-10T22:13:18+00:00

What you need is another shitty relationship to remind you these kinds of thoughts are hormonal toxification.

Dont worry.... They dont have happy endings these days, Pig or Princess they all turn out the same...

So just jump right in with both feet, get trashed, and you'll be fine after that.... Silly feelings surely are worth losing everything for right?

Then rinse and repeat until you're old and the hormones drop off, and you wonder how you could be so bleeping stupid, for so bleeping long.

DonMelbourne · 2020-06-11T01:41:06+00:00

I have been in monk mode for six years now, and I have begun to feel that I miss sharing my life with someone.

Okay, time for a little MGTOW tough love! This is a particular bugbear for me: people using stock phrases that don't really convey an explicit meaning. I don't understand what "miss sharing your life with someone" actually means for YOU. Could you not get a family member or male friend move in with you? Then you'd have someone to share your life with.

But I'm guessing you mean something else. What do you feel you are actually missing? Is it sex? Someone you can go out with? Friendship? Companionship? Intimacy? Someone you can wake up beside?

It's like those who say "I don't want to die alone". Well, invest in having friends throughout your life, so you don't die alone. But that isn't really what people mean by the phrase, is it?

It's part of what I call the subtext of "the Grand Narrative". There is an implicit meaning behind those phrases that are about something more than what the phrases themselves say.

MGTOW is about "no marriage/no cohabitation". It isn't for everyone. Some men may indeed be happier getting married or cohabiting, despite the potential risks. Marriage isn't for me, but I'm happy when others who want marriage get married. As long as they are aware of the risks!

The problem is that society tells us all the benefits of marriage without telling us the costs. No-one talks about the costs of a marriage breaking down, how fickle the contract is, etc. Imagine buying a house or a car from a dealer that did that. You'd call that kind of dealer 'shady', and for good reason. When it comes to marriage for men, society is a shady car salesman.

So what EXACTLY do you want? Rather than use a vague phrase like "I miss sharing my life with someone", clarify things in your own mind. Put it down in writing. You can't really solve a problem if you can't define the problem. I think you might find it a useful exercise. Best wishes, brother.

LonelyBobcat · 2020-06-10T22:51:15+00:00

The thing is that there is never going to be some all-encompassing sense of happiness and contentment that lasts forever. People who are single often crave a relationship, people in relationships tend to crave freedom. When it comes to MGTOW men aren't single because they enjoy isolation. They might also happen to enjoy isolation, but that isn't the reason you become MGTOW, you do so to protect yourself from the possibility of being used. you decide what level of comfort you're willing to have, some go monk mode and others date still.

You may want to consider investing in company that isn't female / romantic before returning to the dating pool.

ANewTestament · 2020-06-11T02:42:43+00:00

Have you considered getting a dog?

ShindaNMS · 2020-06-11T09:21:42+00:00

Expensive escorts solved that problem for me.

Unless you want intimacy (the psychological side)? Then, it's either become at peace with your self by learning to be fine with being alone, or game over (the wolves come for you). Male friends are good for companionship and actual smart conversations (not the usual female "what that bitch at work said" useless banter).

Otherwise, keep busy, stay on your purpose (make money doing things you love), start doing new things (hobbies), travel, do martial arts or combat sports, build a houseboat, buy land in Timbuktu, whatever.

IAmJacksGagReflex · 2020-06-12T02:09:38+00:00

Adopt a dog.

Title	Advice
Author	medPol
Upvotes	1
Comments	7
Date	June 10, 2020 9:45 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW2
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