I see this far too often with men and particularly young men in which they believe their value of a man is based on validation by women. It can come in the form of a body count. It can be seen when men fish for opinions about themselves from women. Simps and white knights will seek validation by acting as man servants to women. And it can happen when a man takes dating and relationship advice from a woman.

If you or someone you know is doing this, please step away from the estrogen tank and re-assess your priorities as a man. A man’s value is based upon his labors and the fruits of his labors.

I have said this more than once. So why does this bear repeating? Ask yourself what is more important: respect from women or respect from other men?

Men for the most part care about what you can do and what you can offer. They care about your ethics f they’re doing business with you. They care about your success if they’re invested in you. And they care about your integrity if they are leading you.

And it is a question of leadership. Women like to be led. This is not a misogynist statement. The whole reason for a shit test is a validation for them that you, as a man are worth following.

And if you can lead other men you can certainly lead those who want to be lead by men.

Validation is a woman’s tool and a woman’s domain. This is how they measure their worth , build their self esteem around it and are the undisputed masters of it.

Men in relationships tend to get sucked into this in relationships and it typically starts in the bedroom. Once she has opened the gate an exchange of power occurs where the man becomes more open to suggestion by the woman. It’s natural because no man deep down wants to believe that he’s a dud in the sack or a bad lover, and this is the gateway and the beginning of the validation game.

When a woman is validating a man it has to be taken with a grain of salt because it’s a cocktail with hypergamy in the mix. If a man drinks too much of it then his self esteem and confidence become trapped within it like an insect in amber.

And once it hits that point the woman is now empowered to the point where she can not only control the man but destroy him if the hypergamy is not satisfied.

Compliments and flattery should be viewed with skepticism and this is no different. And too often it’s a means to an end. As for women they should not be reviled for this no more than men should be reviled for our own polygamous tendencies. It’s simply part of human nature and how we are wired as men and women.

But as a man it’s very important not to fall into this trap as many men who practice MGTOW will testify. Men who have been divorced, financially and spiritually ruined fell into this trap and once it’s sprung it can take a long time to heal and some men never can between alimony, child support and the consequences of acknowledging themselves as having been damaged.

Please do not play the validation game. Always remember that your value is based upon your labors and the fruits of your labors. And when a woman is validating you it is done with her own intentions towards you as a man.

Know your worth and do not play the validation game.

https://www.womensweb.in/2019/10/why-do-most-women-seek-validation-for-their-choices-actions-in-online-groups-oct19wk5sr/