Erasing someone from your brain

DangZagnut · 2020-02-28T23:13:59+00:00

You have to replace it with something else. You’re rut thinking.

peguy2000 · 2020-02-28T23:11:35+00:00

Ive been led on from my “nawalt“ ex for 2 years before she ghosted me out of nowhere.

Relationship was perfect, no nagging, lots of sex, she gave me lots of presents and we split all bills, would craft me stuff (like key chains and plushies), also had same intrests and life looked pretty good

One day she just straight out ghosted me and when i visited her place to make sure shes ok she just said “im done leading you on“

I dont really have a lort of proof but i suspect she was just putting on a act because i have a lot of status and im what theyd call “hmv“. I suspect shes been cheating for a long time now and is just a narcisstic leech.

Who the fuck ghosts someone after 2 years being together? I was pretty invested in the relationship to make it work too

Anyway after that, it took me 8 months to fully get over it, she breadcrumbed me a lot in that time and i wish i wouldve blocked her sooner. I went no contact immediatly after she said shes done leading me on and im guessing she expected more of a fight from me. All i said was oh, ok good luck with everything 👍

This might sound cliche but time will heal everything Go remove her number and socials, dont stalk her and focus on something else in your life

emboscada · 2020-02-29T01:39:10+00:00

im a psychology student and can share some tips: never think about this stuff: "she was musically talented and funny", thinking about this makes the feelings linger for longer because you create that "ooh, it almost worked, i cant let her go" unconscious fantasies, think about things in her that made you disgusted, like some trait or behavior, eating with her mouth open, or some smell, associate her with something that feel disgusting to you, disgust is a powerful mechanism to distance from things, eat food that is tasty for you, like hamburgers, or sweets, and keep yourself aways distracted, the less you think about her faster your brain will rewire

visualize this as if you were in withdraw from some substance :(

Edit: OOH another important tip, dont associate your personal worth with her acceptance, these two things are totally unrelated, understand things as "our personalities were unconpatible"

laptopdragon · 2020-02-29T03:34:51+00:00

I was into my first fiance so much that I would imagine seeing her everywhere I went. Every 30 minutes I'd see a slender woman walking and think 'that's her' and it obviously wasn't.

Eventually we drifted apart and I haven't thought about her in years, till just now. Still hope she's happy but knew I wasn't going to be able to make that happen so I packed it up and moved on.

However, it's important to know that I think of my favorite childhood dog 10x more than my ex, and with my dog the feelings only grew stronger. I really miss my old dog b/c she was truly loyal to me 100% and slept by my bed every single night, stayed by me at every call, and I didn't ever need a leash (even at the dog park) where she wouldn't leave my shadow without me directing her to play.

She never once ran away while my other dogs all took off as soon as the gate was left open (didn't happen much but it did happen) and me and her would walk around the neighborhood looking for my other spoiled dog who was still loyal and I loved him, was also a spaniel and wanted to romp everywhere and was difficult to train without a leash (never 100% with him). But I digress. My point here is whether it be an ex gf, an old pet, your favorite car or toy or even a family member. It's not about erasing, it's about fondly cherishing the good times you shared and enjoyed together to create a rich and meaningful memory.

It may hurt today, tomorrow and for what seems to be forever but if you cried a lake of tears it will someday, eventually freeze over and you will find yourself ice-skating over it. Looking how it formed and perhaps look down at your own reflection in the ice and see yourself elevated by your own journey you had to take.

hope that helps.

2020-02-28T23:08:15+00:00

I do kinda get you. I don't get angry at my ex and the previous friend group I had per se, but I do think on them all daily and yet over a year has elapsed. I work out mainly and that tends to alleviate the sadness, though it's always there. A few more years and hopefully it won't be. Long time to wait though I admit.

I understand perhaps more personally too. I'm a musician (drummer) and my ex was an exceptionally gifted singer. I'd done gigs with her and she could learn lyrics from one read through minutes before the performance. Amazing person in that respect. Never seen anything like it in my life. Fuck, she was super intelligent too, at least academically anyway. Nonetheless, she was similarly cunty and idiotic in other ways too (despite being a great person overall). I guess everyone has their foibles. I know I have mine anyway...

Hypnosis...I dunno about that stuff, I just know from personal experience, if you go hard on working out and personal projects, the memories fade until they lose any emotional content. When that happens, you remember, but you don't feel. It's like looking back at your early childhood and remembering the trivial things that really upset you. You remember them, but there's no feeling anymore...Just memories. Long cardio sessions, musical practice and gigs do it for me. They allow me to process it all. Kinda like meditation. Certainly not avoidance. Just being alone in your thoughts. Thinking it all through. Figuring out how you feel about it all. Not like I choose to think about this stuff, but I can't just ignore it all either. Regardless, whatever gets you through though buddy. It's all personal to you. Just do yourself a favor....Don't stay friends with her on any social media platform and resist the urge to check her profile or anything like that. There's remembering stuff and processing it all and then there's drudging it all up needlessly, tormenting yourself in the process. Things will get better buddy :)

the_cooler_spez · 2020-02-28T23:08:43+00:00

You can be deliberate about what you choose to think about. Anger is nearly always indulged. You can choose to feed your anger or you can choose to move on with your thoughts. You are not gaining any benefit through your anger. You are just making yourself suffer some more. Think of something else.

2020-02-29T01:01:45+00:00

You got to really burn to go MGTOW.

ttomottomo · 2020-02-29T01:09:40+00:00

Read the Stoics

Peppeperoni · 2020-02-29T00:54:32+00:00

Reminds me of eternal sunshine of the spotless mind.

PAR4DROID · 2020-02-29T01:53:56+00:00

try Vipassana Meditation

totallossguy · 2020-02-29T01:55:14+00:00

Watch Fox News and rage at that. Also while listening to ratm

Mindraker · 2020-02-29T02:35:15+00:00

Time will heal.

You have to go through the phases of denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.

Most people who have made it to MGTOW2 have gone through the anger phase and are generally in the bargaining/depression/acceptance phase.

everydaygreyman · 2020-02-29T10:53:39+00:00

I alway think about Briffault's Law. Modern society has made long term relationships impossible. What you wanted cannot happen anymore. Women can have successful careers now. There's no longer any stigma or shame if a woman sleeps around. No fault divorce means she can drop you at any time for any reason and take your kids and your money. Social media equals endless possibilities. The welfare state and police state means a woman's basic needs for safety and nourishment will always be met by the government.

Pump and dump or monk or be bled dry and dumped anyway. Those are a man's options today.

randomroxks · 2020-02-29T01:17:57+00:00

Yes, there is a therapy I did with my shrink. Essentially, it’s like hypnosis where they ask you to focus on the pain and where it is and try to face it. During that process, I came up with a mental imagery of literary erasing my ex ‘s image that kept on coming to bother me. So now it has become a part of my mental algorithm to erase anything that is painful. She is not 100% gone yet, but her picture has definitely gone blurry

danyals4241 · 2020-02-29T01:27:02+00:00

I know what you're talking about but in my case, she didn't treat me like shit at all.

Platinum247365 · 2020-02-29T01:40:03+00:00

I had these thoughts about a girl for a long time. Best thing to do is ask her out and take the rejection like a man. I did not fully move on until that happened. Hope this helped!!

NakedValhallaBoy · 2020-02-29T02:08:48+00:00

Forgetting the stupid things you did is how you end up making the same mistakes over and over again.

wont_tell_i_refuse_ · 2020-02-29T02:26:29+00:00

Btw, even if you do erase her she’ll randomly show up in your thoughts years from now

Original_Username7 · 2020-02-29T02:58:34+00:00

You get over it with time and distance. Can't believe I got over my two ex's, never thought I would. But I can even be around them now and it's not that big of a deal. You gotta learn about how your brain and body attach to someone in order to understand how that works and how to eventually detach. You're literally addicted to them as a drug through brain chemicals, and you're going to have withrawls as you pull away from them.

kaspark07 · 2020-02-29T06:14:58+00:00

Rub one out and go about your day. Remind yourself that "There was nothing special about her, she was just another person you met and parted ways with." it'll take a bit, but it'll happen inevitably

Roto2esdios · 2020-02-29T07:33:57+00:00

Hypnosis does not work. Mindfulness works. Try the scientific version no Buddhist one.

Source: my final project of my degree is about it.

thotless_rat_bastard · 2020-02-29T13:06:04+00:00

When I start to think about something bad, I say 'cancel, cancel', and stop thinking that way. If it comes up again, I say cancel, cancel again. It's just mental trickery.

As far as hypnosis is concerned, yes you can reprogram yourself but you won't erase a specific thought like a name.

Look at Dr. David Snyder https://www.youtube.com/user/SanDiegoKarate on youtube. He's a master practitioner in NLP and a certified hypnotist.

kriskros18 · 2020-02-29T13:19:26+00:00

With the whole corona thing, you won’t have to suffer too long.

Serious note, do what AWALTS do, get in another relationship asap for emotional tampon needs. Yes, a rebound. You need to rid your system of all that gunk. Or be ready to ruminate for quite some time. And next time, guard your emotions by always remembering the MGTOW mantra - “she’s not yours, it’s just your ....”

theres_no_other_way · 2020-02-29T16:12:07+00:00

I like to focus on things inside my control. When I do that, it helps me to solve problems.

You can't control other people, you can't stop a cunt from being cunty. But you can recognise your choice to put too much faith in this particular woman (or any woman, quite frankly, and many but not all men). You can control that.

Your anger and resentment should be focused on you, but in a constructive way. You let someone into your life and heart and mind that doesn't deserve to be there and never did deserve to be there.

You have learned a valuable lesson, and you'll not forget this lesson because it has affected you so profoundly. In this sense, be grateful for your pain. Pain is the mind and body's way of marking an experience as important. You will now change your attitude and behaviour.

Tldr: almost all of us ended up mgtow after a bitter disappointment or betrayal. Pain is a learning mechanism and a strong motivator for change. You can only control you, best wishes on your lifelong journey of self-mastery.

801735 · 2020-02-29T17:30:22+00:00

when you were super into someone and she turned out to be super cunty

But also, in that case, because not observing and instead of being hopeful, we were feeeeling kinda entitled, too. End instead of releasing from our bite what we bit into, we concentrate on the self-inflicted bite marks on the glorious behind of the butthurt one. No?

I was nuts for (I'll call her) Eliza.

Eliza, huh, Mr. Beethoven? ];)

Sid_Insidious · 2020-02-28T23:46:38+00:00

If you have a bit of natural OCD (like I do) then you're in for a bit of a tough grind. If not, it's easy. Everytime Cunty Girl pops into your brain, just imagine her saying some really cunty thing. I also recommend banging someone hotter as soon as possible. Cunty McCunterson will be out of your head in no time.

ElOweTea · 2020-02-29T02:04:59+00:00

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Title	Erasing someone from your brain
Author	TigPlaze
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Date	February 28, 2020 10:54 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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