Its driving me insane.

TrumpPussyGrab · 2019-09-01T20:54:15+00:00

jerk off more

Impossible-asset · 2019-08-26T11:53:46+00:00

Well, jerk off and you'll feel better. Natural libido and testosterone is gonna do what it wants. You sound young, that's what younger men think about. So dont fight nature. Go rub one out and you'll be fine.

GlobalAsshat · 2019-08-26T14:01:14+00:00

Youre trying to resist your thoughts...look up the pink elephant analogy. Theres no easy way to fix your desires. A lot of research into psychology and the workings of the brain is working for me. Gradually I am master of my emotions rather than letting them master me.

I visualize my intentions and allow any old garbage that comes to the surface to be there without giving it too much attention. The more attention you give on something the stronger you make it. The trick is to stop resisting these thoughts about girls but let them be without paying much attention to them either way. Focus your thoughts on your goals.

TigPlaze · 2019-08-26T16:53:16+00:00

Get a flesh light. They feel like real pussy.

Koselill · 2019-08-27T21:57:20+00:00

Honestly, I had a bf that went nuts when he didn't come for a while. He would be all over me and extremely obnoxious constantly. Then he fapped and at least 80% of that went away.

OP please. Reconsider the fap. Religion isn't worth insanity.

WildChad · 2019-08-28T11:52:29+00:00

Hello my young brother!

You said elsewhere that you are 18 years old.
I am assuming also that you had a very strictly religious upbringing.

First of all, contrary to most here, I'm not going to tell you to fap.
I fapped a lot and it ended up messing my life quite a bit.

People prescribe fapping very casually these days without really realizing the cost of it.
I'm now 70+ days without ejaculating with just one accident in between and I've almost never felt better.

What makes your situation difficult that I'm approaching my mid 30's while you are still in your late teens.
Based on your writing, like me, you have a high libido (sex drive) overall, which makes you think about girls all the time.

There is some truth to religious advice in the past where throwing away your seed was to throw away your life energy.
However the difference is that in those old times, the environment where humans lived and worked in was very different. There were no advertisements, music videos, provocative clothing, etc. designed to keep your mind in sex related ideas... In those old days where your moral code comes from people worked physically, their world was rough and they could not waste their energy being depleted all the time via masturbation and other modern comforts.

Let's play a scenario:
Imagine if you were to go for camping, military etc. which would take you away from modern society and into the wilderness with only other males as company or even alone.... Couple weeks in there, you'd probably had forgotten all about girls - You'd be preoccupied with the tasks you needed to do in order to keep on going on and survive.

I noticed this in the military myself - Normally back at home I would immediately cave for porn due to all the possibilities for it and the other external stimulation that bumped me towards it. Being in a mock battle camp for a 2nd week with only my fellow young men, I'd forget all about girls even existed.

I'm just trying to say here that much of it is based on external stimulation instead of something internal within you.
In other words, it's really not internal in its origins. You can experiment this by going camping where there aren't any women and see how your mind gets clear from thinking about them after a few days without any stimulation.

As you cannot avoid stimulation however, what you need to learn is how to control your attention when it comes to urges. Whenever an urge comes to you, YOU need to redirect your FULL attention somewhere else intensely - Whatever else. When your attention is redirected intensely to something, anything, else, the urge loses all its power and goes away. This is a very simple practice. This is also very easy practice once you realize you do not need to do what the urge tells you - You fall to the suggestion of the urge because your mind could perceive it as "a sexual opportunity" instead of recognizing it as a fantasy... We often fail to turn away from the urge because a part of us thinks that if we don't entertain the sexual thoughts and fantasies, it's something real we miss out on.

When you look at this internally you might notice this part being responsible in the choice to allow fantasies to occupy your mind. The truth is however that you can simply will the fantasies back anytime you want and thus the part who thinks its a real sexual opportunity doesn't need to be listened to as with the other parts of yourself you can use your will to refocus elsewhere. What I'm asking you to do there is very difficult at first, but even after couple succeeding attempts to divert your own attention away from the urge and the urge going away can be very empowering.

After a while of this practice you'll learn that the urge is not an authority you need to listen and comply with.
Furthermore you need to learn how to transmute your sexual energy to creativity, difficult mental problems, sports and anything that requires more energy and effort than usual... "Highly sexed" men i.e. those who have strong libido struggle in beginning, but can learn to power themselves do things an ordinary man cannot. Almost every great man of history had high libido and simply learned how to channel their sexual energy to something more important. Like stated above, many of them lived in an easier time when it came to external stimulus, but if you learn to see external manipulation from adverts to provocative clothing as what it is... Them trying to enslave your power in their own ends... You can learn to become resilient once you realize you can use this power to your own ends.

You need to understand that girls are just your young minds default thing to think about when you feel all your powerful energy in your possession. It's nothing but normal biological programming. Instead of just going with the default, you need to be the Master and direct the energy where you find a challenge worthy of your attention and proper expenditure of your energy. This way you'll learn to utilize your own energy as your own power as a man.
Don't give that power away to girls, at least not all the time.
You can learn how to manage it and choose yourself instead of letting your mind or external stimulus dictate what gets painted in your imagination the next moment. I guarantee you that once you learn how this works and you get to control what goes in and projected in your mental theater, you have taken some of the most crucial steps towards empowering yourself in a great way that only few men get to experience. So instead of feeling like a victim of this all, take it as a challenge and an opportunity to master your mind and your body.

Jan22147 · 2019-08-31T01:54:44+00:00

You need to meditate. Also stop fighting it, just observe what comes up and don't try to do anything about it ( If I tell you not to think about a green house, what happens ? You will think about a green house) Also I see there are people in this thread telling you to fap - you don't need to fap, that is not a solution.

McToe · 2019-08-26T22:46:38+00:00

How long have you been single? Well into my 3rd year without dating and I can't imagine going back. The first two years sucked, but you get used to it. Trying to change the code is going to cause some cognitive dissonance at first, just stick it out.

30203forever · 2019-08-26T02:02:26+00:00

I don't fap or anything like that also don't recomend it to me because they only make things worse and they don't match my beliefs...

When your beliefs do not match reality and therefore, do not work, a rational person would consider changing them. Just a thought...

GYOW_OR_DIE · 2019-08-26T02:55:22+00:00

Ask your mummy to give you a handjob.

Mgtowindia0 · 2019-08-26T04:27:50+00:00

Watch Blackram313 videos. Thank me.later.

LesterBurnham97 · 2019-08-26T04:34:37+00:00

Dude your Problem ist biological Nature. Your instincts tell you to think about girls for repeoduction. You can't fight biology. You should reconsider about fapping as the effect ist nearly the Same as If you had sex or you could get an escort or find a girl to pump and dump. Fapping is the safest AS there IS n trap at all. An escort can be expensive. A girl which you pump and dump can have multiple traps as getting pregnant when Not using a condom or in the worst case she claims you raped her. If you want to keep going on without any of the things you will have a real hard time.

former_farmer · 2019-08-26T04:39:26+00:00

You need to fap...

throwawayafc0 · 2019-08-26T06:09:47+00:00

visit /r/SexDolls

Dls95405 · 2019-08-26T06:23:28+00:00

You have to disassociate your need for climaxing from the crazies that are modern American women. It's a cruel world here for a healthy young guy. Fapping helps. You're dealing with all sorts of indoctrination, your ex, your church, the media etc. ALL of them constantly whispering in your ear messages that fuck with your head. You have a biological need as real as the need to eat food. Suppressing it obviously isn't working.

Title	Its driving me insane.
Author	throwawaygamer05
Upvotes	2
Comments	38
Date	August 26, 2019 1:34 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW2
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