Question about custody.

JD-Anderson · 2020-05-18T23:29:15+00:00

I’ve been one (well, still one). “Perfectly fit” doesn’t mean shit in court, you’re a father therefore you are expendable. I’ve been at war for about a decade now.

Find a great lawyer. Ask around, they will all tell you what you want to hear, but find one from a trusted source.
Get off all social media. Become an online ghost. Anything and everything will be used against you.
Fight for everything to be put in the decree and custody agreement. This will come in handy in the future as it has for me.
Live a boring lifestyle. Be very vanilla. Don’t date ANYONE right now. They could say you’re dating a crazy person and you child shouldn’t be near you.
Never bad mouth your ex to your child or around them
Play for the “long game”. You will definitely take some losses right now, but in the future if you keep your nose clean you can go back to court and amend decree.
Hide money. CASH. Find someone you really trust, don’t put it in a deposit box in a bank. And make it CASH.
If you have to go to mediation or court, look like the biggest bitch you can. Shave, wear a nice suit, and act like a poor, downtrodden father just needing a break.
Get into a church. Get your child(ren) into it also. Gives you a moral high ground for the “long game”.
Do not get into arguments with your ex. Leave that to the lawyers. If you text or email her something in anger, she can use that against you.
If your ex does lose her temper, try and get that evidence. Make it email or text. Here say doesn’t go long in court. Evidence does.
Find a dwelling (house or apartment) that is suitable for your kid(s), and make it into a home. Be the rock in their life.
Do not use drugs or even drink right now. This includes going to bars. Pretty much be a Mr. Rogers
Understand this is temporary and money can be made back, fight hard for time with your kid, even though you probably won’t see 50/50, YET!

Side note: I got religious right before my divorce, and The Lord carried me through. Thought it was the end of my life, but come to find out, it was just the beginning. I’ve become a better father because of the divorce. Be strong, and good luck. If you need to PM me with any other questions feel free to do so. Good luck brother.

DangZagnut · 2020-05-18T22:45:40+00:00

/r/divorce maybe? or /r/legaladvice

onefoxyman · 2020-05-19T03:59:00+00:00

For men, there is no help, there are very scant resources. I've been going through it since. 2018. Ive even been part of a brand new pilot program for male victims of domestic violence, sponsored by the city and a local university.

If you can afford it get a lawyer. She can do whatever she wants, bring her boyfriends around you kids, ect. Be careful that you dont let her provoke you into acting crazy, because then she will go get that restraining order.

And she will try, the most outragous affronts, designed to set you off. If she can do that then skip the custody battle. She will be awarded 100% legal and physical just like that. You will know of convicted felons that jave more agency in their kids lives than you do.

may_seven · 2020-05-19T06:19:55+00:00

JD Anderson nailed it.

clean up your life and participate in your kid's life as long as you can.

CropCircle77 · 2020-05-19T15:53:57+00:00

r/DivorceMen might be the place you're looking for.

TraehNoil · 2020-05-19T00:35:28+00:00

You’re going to get run trough the mud no matter what. Just accept the reality and be the best father you can be with whatever time the court lets you have. Don’t waste money trying to fight it in court, learn from my mistake.

principledbeast1 · 2020-05-19T19:50:21+00:00

Always repeat this to yourself- She is not your wife anymore. If I'd have made less sacrifices for what I perceived as "the good of my family". We'd all be better off now.

Also if your lawyer doesn't offer 50/50 custody as default get a different attorney.

ZlayerXZ · 2020-05-19T22:40:58+00:00

Yeah, check out r/GunsAreCool and then remember what we want to do to corrupts officials playing with men’s lives and families.

Title	Question about custody.
Author	driftwood7386
Upvotes	1
Comments	15
Date	May 18, 2020 10:41 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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