I posted this in askmen, and I wanted to get some more perspectives.I would love to hear what you guys think.
My partner and I have been discussing our mismatched drives (im too high and shes low), and I wanted to know how much is too much to you? Yes it depends on the couple, but I wanted some real opinions if you don't mind sharing them. It may seem reasonable, but I'm asking for your personal opinion on this matter. I thought a good/reasonable norm was that couples (atleast in their early 20s) had sex 5 to 6 times on average per week, maybe 4 if life is tough that week. When she explained why, she told me that having sex more than thrice a week would be like asking a normal person to bang 7 times a day.
I just find it odd that as a couple very much in love, we react very differently to initiating sex on days where we don't necessarily want it. For instance I said if I'm not in the mood that day, her approaching me would make me get in the mood...whereas she said the reason that she doesn't feel that way or want it is because I'm always wanting it. It makes me feel undesired.
My partner says she can only really want sex 2 to 3 times a week, and thats assuming she's not stressed or tired. My partner and I are 21, and this is my first relationship (yes im a late bloomer), so I was just trying to get some thoughts on whether this is normal and reasonable for a couple in their early 20s. I don't have anything to really compare this to, and wanted some fresh perspectives. Most people on the internet say "sexual frequency is whatever a couple is comfortable with". Am I in the wrong for thinking 2-3 times is a bit too low?
Just to be clear I don't pressure her, there's always consent, and I make sure she enjoys the sex too. I prioritize her pleasure. Her love language is quality time and my love language is physical touch.
TL:DR would you date a person that only wanted sex 2 or 3 times a week
EDIT: we have been together for 2 years and starting having sex ""regularly"" these past 4-6 months
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