This place is multifaceted, with discussions ranging from, sexual strategy, to physical development, to career development, to parenting, to divorce strategy, to leadership and so on. Its no surprise that a fulfilling life for a man will have multiple dimensions.

But this post narrows down the focus on "sexual strategy". The goal of sexual strategy is to improve sex in terms of quantity and quality. Marriage is pretty much irrelevant in that discussion.

Abundance

How does one knows that they are improving. Or more specifically what is the goal that one should work towards. Achieving abundance is straight forward, improving physique, learning game, approaching women and cultivating options

Abundance is not something you talk yourself into(not that people haven't successfully fooled themselves into false sense of abundance and tried to blow up their life), abundance is concrete and real. It has nothing to do with your wife or marriage. It is something you have.

Oneitis

I recently saw a podcast with Tyler Durden recounting one of his story. He met a woman at the bar, talked to her and felt very good connection. They talked for hours, and he could feel that this woman was different from other women, she was very smart, thoughtful and intellectual. They exchanged numbers and he felt very good about himself. Next day he went at the same bar and learned that the same woman went home with another dude she just met.

Now being an experienced PUA he realized his mistake. He thought this woman was different and rules of the game does not apply to her. They did and he lost opportunity to fuck her while this other dude just gamed her and got laid.

Its easy to understand why he fooled himself. He just wanted a woman to be different, in a way he wanted a woman to be special. Maybe she was special, but not in terms of game.

So is your wife special, maybe she is special because she is good mother or she is good cook or whatever. But that has nothing to do with game. In terms of sexual strategy she is no different than any random woman you meet at a bar. There is no point of putting your wife on some kind of sexual pedestal because that's now how it works.

So when men feel bad when their wife reject them, they have a fundamental misunderstanding of game. There is as much reason to feel bad when your wife rejects you as it is when a random woman at a bar rejects you.

Decentering your wife in terms of sex and centering sex in your life, also decenters her in other aspects if sex is not fulfilled. MRP is sexual strategy in its essence, There is never a need to feel guilty about it.

Real Outcome Independence

Real OI is achieved when you have options(abundance) and understanding that your wife is just one of those options(no misplaced oneitis). So the outcomes you desire are pretty much guaranteed.

Without OI there is no passing of shit tests, without passing shit tests there is no attraction, without attraction there is no good quality sex.

Can you fake OI? you kinda have to, until you get the real thing. But women tend to shit test you more if you pass a shit test so you are gonna falter, there is so many canned lines you can use before you fail it because you are not OI at your core. But just because you dont have ability to pass shit test does not mean you dont try to pass them and improve.

Barking at the wrong tree

Fixing your marriage wont fix your sex life, fixing your marriage will "fix" your marriage. You may say sex is integral part of marriage, and that may be true, but it doesnt really matter because being married does not make a woman horny. If it did, world would be a better place.

Is fixing the marriage pointless, not really. I recently found myself in the rabbit hole of jacktenofhearts posts and comments. There is definite value to a marriage that is not filled with conflict. If you want fulfilling marriage you definitely need a good narrative. But sex is largely not dependent on the state of your marriage. It is dependent on attraction and your game,

So if the aim of good and fulfilling sex life finds its way into your mission then a worthwhile goal is to achieve outcome independence(the real kind). Then it will just be a matter of picking what you want.