xpost from askTRP: Getting Divorced, would rather keep the wife. She called at 2am I ignored. What should I text

BluepillProfessor · 2015-02-24T15:59:05+00:00

Your getting divorced but you want to not get divorced? Or is it that you want to spin plates and you want to demote your wife to plate? You are not pulling a Beta by answering a text. You pull a Beta if you buy into her emotional frame.

However, this may be the way to spin plates, but it is not the way to continue a marriage. Perhaps you should try this on The Rational Male, The Red Pill main sub, or Chateau Heartiste? Sorry to say your vision of marriage does not appear consistent with this sub, IMHO.

ivebeencaught · 2015-02-24T18:29:57+00:00

You will hear a lot that the only thing text should be used for is logistics. I agree mostly with this statement. 90% of my texting is logistical, however, I have also found that it can be very useful for maintaining arousal that was established before leaving. Forcing my wife to keep thinking about me instead of getting distracted by her day.

It sucks as a way to establish, show or maintain frame. It allows her voice to much freedom to shape what you are trying to say.

If you are going to text her back you should try to focus on logistics. "You want to hear my voice before bed? Stay the night and I WILL take care of that." , "We both know it's not my voice you are missing." , "You sick of her drama?" , "Come over, leave your underwear there."

Any response other than an invitation for sexy times should be as short as possible and should indicate that you are too busy to cater to her. "Busy" , "With someone" , "Can't right now" , "Come over now, I promise I will make you beg for release."......."oops, that was for someone else"

UEMcGill · 2015-02-24T20:44:36+00:00

There's guys on her that will advocate saving the marriage.... I'm not one of them.

Listen up. You can always do better. You'd be surprised by the bitches who would line up and take her place. I mean fuck a girl up to take your wife's job.

Every man should be willing to walk away from his current situation. Like every business deal there is a walk away point. If you're too invested in "making the deal" you get burned with the actual payoff. Add to the fact that you have a history and you maybe relying the sunk cost fallacy. Your past has ZERO value in the future of your relationship with your wife. I guarantee she certainly sees it that way because fucking AWALT. Women never rely on the past for these decisions. Only "What's he doing for me now".

So throw the past out the window and ask yourself "would I invest in this woman from point zero right now?" Look at her fundamentals tell me, is it a good deal? Or are there other women who can provide exactly the same or better for less?

anothercarguy · 2015-02-24T15:57:41+00:00

OP:

Correct me if I'm wrong, but here is the sources for this post.

ORIGINAL POST https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/2w05ee/the_strength_of_the_alpha_and_the_relentless/

FOLLOWUP https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/2wzjwm/getting_divorced_would_rather_keep_the_wife_she/

XPOST https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2wzwuc/xpost_from_asktrp_getting_divorced_would_rather/

georgespelvin1 · 2015-02-24T19:13:04+00:00

My opinion: Get the divorce and the settlement. That way you are sitting pretty from a point of strength. It's rare when we as men have it work that way. Know that. After that, you can decide to carry on with her as a life partner or not. Just don't remarry her. It's just a legal contract that can put you in a world of hurt.

anothercarguy · 2015-02-24T16:28:13+00:00

I've read you've offered her a settlement or she can go to war with you. Hopefully, if she was smart, she'll take the settlement and this can give you some peace of mind.

Unfortunately, you're going to lose your "wife". There is no getting around that and when you get closer to accepting, then life will get better. Sounds like you had a pretty alpha life beforehand, why not go back to your roots?

After the divorce is final why not spin her up as a plate? Shit, maybe you can have a three-way with her and her new mate; then never talk to her again.

Dev_on · 2015-02-24T20:11:19+00:00

why are you getting divorced? Who initiated? Why would you rather keep her?

Why are you dating girls on tinder when you aren't divorced yet?

Title	xpost from askTRP: Getting Divorced, would rather keep the wife. She called at 2am I ignored. What should I text
Author	anothercarguy
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Date	February 24, 2015 3:35 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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