Is this normal

AustinLostIn · 2024-12-09T04:40:09+00:00

What do you do for work? Maybe a career change would both improve your mindset as well as your income. Same goes for your wife.

All those appliances breaking within 2 years? Do they not have warranties? Also, try repairing some yourself if they don't have a valid warranty. There's good YouTube videos on how to do pretty much anything these days.

If you're worried about the money you'd lose by selling your house now, just hang on to it until the market improves. This stuff always fluctuates.

I get the impression that the stress is causing you to be depressed. Talk to your wife and create a budget with her to extend how far your money goes. Talk to a therapist. Talk to a good friend that is also a good listener. Get out in nature. Go hiking or fishing or whatever outdoor recreation appeals to you. Try something new.

You can get through this. Stay strong.

ThomassPaine · 2024-12-09T13:08:28+00:00

Passive suicidal ideation.

One wouldn't jump in front of a bus, but if a bus were heading one's way, one might not necessarily move out of the way.

In studying history, the amount of men that killed themselves during the Great Depression doesn't get talked about in grade school education. It wasn't really getting talked about while it was going on either.

Money isn't real even though we treat it as real. Food is real. Shelter is real. There is no natural requirement for money to be able to afford those things.

Governments manipulate the economy to try and make those things like food and shelter affordable for as many as possible. It's in their best interest since they need workers to make money for them. Without workers the managers of labor also would have money troubles.

As a participant in the economy, it's one's responsibility to understand what is in one's best interest to afford. What was once affordable is subject to change. What was once a lifestyle is subject to change.

Perhaps it's your idea of life that needs "killed." "Changed" would be a more appropriate word though.

PQKN051502 · 2024-12-10T23:29:23+00:00

I am still young. I am still having a living father. I am as broke as possible right now and if someone asked me to choose between 10 million dollars and his life, I would still choose his life.

The pain of losing a parent is tremendous. It is not easy to deal with grief either.

Trust me. If you love your children, then try to stay healthy and alive as long as possible. That is what I would say to my dad.

If these semi-suicidal thoughts got more frequent, then it would be very concerning and abnormal. Is it just money problems and your kids' future that bother you? Is there something else that bother you?

Mundane_Syrup_6726 · 2024-12-12T15:14:22+00:00

Hey man, first of all, thank you for being brave enough to share this. It takes real strength to open up about feelings like this, and that in itself shows you care deeply about your family and your own well-being.

Let me tell you you’re not alone in feeling this way. A lot of men go through these moments where life feels like it’s throwing punch after punch, and the weight of it all makes you question if you’re doing enough or if things will ever get better. But the fact that you’re still standing, still showing up for your family, even with everything that’s happened that’s no small thing. That’s a man’s resilience in action.

Here’s the thing: the version of you that your family needs isn’t some perfect, always-smiling dad. They need the real you. The dad who keeps going, who teaches them through his actions that setbacks don’t define a man. You’re showing your kids how to face adversity, even when it feels relentless. That’s a legacy worth leaving.

If you’re feeling like life has you cornered, focus on just the next small win. It doesn’t have to be massive sometimes just getting through the day is enough. Talk to your wife about how you’re feeling. You don’t have to carry all of this alone, and being vulnerable with her could even deepen your connection.

And if you’re not already, it might be worth reaching out to someone a professional or even a trusted friendto help you process these feelings. There’s no shame in asking for help; in fact, it’s one of the strongest moves a man can make when life feels this overwhelming.

You’ve made it through so much already. You’re still here, still fighting. That tells me you’ve got the strength to keep going, even if it feels like there’s nothing left in the tank. The fact that you’re thinking about your family’s future, even in your toughest moments, shows just how much they mean to you. Don’t let the weight of the world convince you that you’re not enough you are.

Title	Is this normal
Author	fortzimmerman
Upvotes	8
Comments	5
Date	December 9, 2024 1:43 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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