I have been psychologically abused by my partner. In the beginning I struggled to understand and label the problem. At some point we sought the help of a couples therapist but she told us that a man can not be abused by a woman. I have a much more professional therapist now, but in the meantime I searched for advice on r/relationships. Of course I had to reverse the genders in my post to avoid being told to men up. As a result many reditors told me that what I experienced was an abuse and my "husband" is a manipulative gaslighter. I got recommended the book "The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans". The book is not sexist per se, but the models of abuse it describes are exclusively man to women specific. My wife is rather on the hysterical spectrum and her style of abuse is very female specific.

I am looking for a book or a resource that deals with female to male specific psychological abuse.