Another dad bites the dust.

Bobbrobb · 2019-10-31T18:20:12+00:00

Hang in there, brother. Kids ALWAYS learn the truth.

Hypocritical_Midget · 2019-10-31T18:29:19+00:00

I'm 15 and I unfortunately can't sympathise nor comprehend nor downplay the pain you're going through.

But I can guarantee this; When she's old enough to know the shit you've been through, there will be THAT text, THAT Phone call.

Hang the fuck in there.

EvilLothar · 2019-10-31T18:50:07+00:00

What is your lawyer doing about it? What are the laws in your area?

ValhallaBoundBoy · 2019-10-31T18:52:09+00:00

I'm so sorry man, how bad is the custody issue? Unfortunately sometimes all you an do is wait until she is old enough for social media and then just spam her that way to be a part of her life and explain to her why you've been distant.

When she understands why she'll hopefully want to see more of you and turn her back on her mom a bit.

Psycedilla · 2019-10-31T20:08:48+00:00

i dont have a connection with my kid, yesterday it was a article in my local newspaper about a gut with 77 courtcases vs the mother, and lots of bullshit accusatuions of threats and so forth from the dude. the state is paying the mothers court expenses, he have to pay out of his pocket. also norway has been told in EU court that the child protective services harrases the man, still they wont bugde. welcome to the world as man.

3gm22 · 2019-10-31T23:23:10+00:00

I went through the same heartache, but it was paternity fraud. It took me years, but after going through the grief and loss, I learned that my mistake was tying my happiness to another person. Lots of covert contracts in there too.

If this was 50 years ago, we could do that, and reap all the positive emotions and experiences that come from intimate family units. Not anymore.

The kid will learn, even if it takes her most of your life. Dont waste your life waiting, mould yourself into an amazing person in the meanwhile so you are easy to look up to. Get people in your life who appreciate you. Get good friends who will listen to you lament. You will need to vent, you will need a "shoulder to cry on".

When you come out of this, in better control of your head, and wiser than before, you will love yourself for perservering.

ok_chrisisok · 2019-11-01T00:40:06+00:00

If I may suggest, you say you could get her back if you could afford a retainer? I know this kind of thing can seem hand out-y and humiliating... but might I suggest a short term crowd funding campaign? Or even just start a Patreon? set up some kind of donations page, and talk with the mods here to see if they can't boost it with a front page sticky. I'm sure you could get that 700$ in no time, hell I'd be willing, able, and eager to put my money where my mouth is and drop a few bucks your way.

vxd386 · 2019-10-31T21:30:31+00:00

It's important to solely focus on yourself. It might seem heartless or selfish what I write, but you have to let the child go. If you don't do that, you will go insane and there's nothing to gain from that.

ok_chrisisok · 2019-10-31T19:36:27+00:00

But, I'm not suing the government. And I tried legal aide.

su8iefl0w · 2019-11-01T04:59:29+00:00

Man this sucks op and I’m sorry you’re going through all of this. This is the reason why I am terrified of ever having children. Because a woman can change up on you so quick and if she chooses to never let you see their kid again, they will. All I can say is keep fighting to get them back or to see them

ModsHateTruth · 2019-11-01T06:20:17+00:00

I tore out my heart, stopped feeling, turned my back and became a hedonist for nearly 18 years. I hope it turns out better for you. :)

ChaChaRealSmooth1955 · 2019-11-07T10:20:07+00:00

I’m really sorry I don’t know what to say... hang in there and you WILL get the phone call some day.

Title	Another dad bites the dust.
Author	ok_chrisisok
Upvotes	166
Comments	28
Date	October 31, 2019 6:18 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/dprjm9/another_dad_bites_the_dust/
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