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AvailableCandidate89 · 2023-04-29T00:58:00+00:00

It’s misandry at work. Mine tried to empathize with her as a victim, and he only gave that up when I let him know that line had been used to excuse her continued behavior for years.

It’s why you have to specifically look for a therapist trained in maternal abuse, because the ego defenses of the normal ones protecting their internal perfect image of their own mother

ElisaSKy · 2023-04-29T00:10:28+00:00

BeCaUsE MoThErS aRe UnDeRaPpReCiAtEd AnGeLs AnD dOn'T dO tHiNgS lIkE tHaT. /s

ThirdTurnip · 2023-04-29T01:37:07+00:00

Even victims can struggle with this.

I copped different forms of abuse from both my parents.

Physical violence from father. Unwanted sexual interest from mother which thankfully didn't go further than verbal suggestions and repeatedly groping my butt.

I moved out of home to escape my mother but even then it wasn't until she continued pushing her luck in other ways that I cut her off.

And more time still before I properly thought of her as an abuser.

shit-zen-giggles · 2023-04-29T01:08:23+00:00

I can't tell you the reason, but I'd suspect it is because of female ingroup bias / gynocentrism running rampant on steroids in the >90% female environment that is contemporary psychology.

Here are three communities that might be better suited to give you support for this specific issue. Maybe you can find better support and/or info about what to look for in a therapist there:

/r/MSNA/

/r/adultsurvivors/

/r/MalePsychology/

Aimless-Nomad · 2023-04-29T10:11:21+00:00

A page from Red Pill Psychology (book on this topic):

The psychology of hate

Years back, in another life, I presented at seminars and conferences that provided continuing education units for professional re-certification. In one particular module, I used a portable grease board in a room in front of my waiting audience. Without introducing myself or saying anything else, I used a grease pen to write the words "Men are..." at the top of the board, and then silently invited the audience to finish the sentence.

Almost invariably, "pigs" or "dogs" was the first offering, accompanied by a room full of good-natured chuckles. I would nod my head and write it down on the board and return to the audience, still silent, for more.

"Controlling," says one. "Afraid of commitment," says another. "Aggressive." "Macho" "Afraid of intimacy." "Violent." "Sexist," and "Power hungry." More of the pejoratives, and almost only pejoratives, would come from the audience till the board was full.

I then flipped the board to the other side. "Women are..." was the cue, and the answers were even more rapid fire than they were with men. "Strong." "Capable" "Empowered" "Sensitive." "Nurturing," and the like would fly from the audience to the grease board like a barrage of arrows, till that side too was full.

"What do you imagine," I would ask, taking a strategic pause for a sip of water, "that these answers tell us about the real nature of sexism in the way we view men and women?"

Asking them a question with actual spoken words must of thrown them for a loop, because the stock response to that question was almost invariably a room full of nonplussed, cognitively dissonant faces. And that confusion usually gave way to irritation, clearly at me, though every answer on both sides of that board had come from them. And by the way, the participants in the crowd? They weren't accountants or nurses or teachers or financial advisors.

They were mental health professionals.

They were counselors, psychotherapists, social workers and the like; the very people we love to imagine possess the objectivity to rise above the mindset of bigotry and sexism. And the people, despite our want of faith in their work, least likely to actually do it.

I wanted a little more pressure so I asked more questions. "How could this affect our therapeutic alliance with clients?- Could it make our relationships with females enabling?- Punitive with men?" And always, the final question I asked was "Do we carry sexism, against men, unconscious or conscious, into our work with each and every client?" With that question the anger usually intensified.

In one talk, a female participant, a social worker, jumped out of her chair and threw her papers everywhere. "You're the sexist!" she hissed at me, and stormed out of the room. She later wrote letters of complaint both about my topic and the fact I would not sign off on her attendance.

No_Discipline_7867 · 2023-04-30T07:52:05+00:00

I feel you with this post. I was raped by my mother, and I’ve only told two people. Both of them blamed it on me and went on to warn others I was a rapist. They were people I had knew for years and I thought cared, but I guess misandry is stronger than those bonds.

528lover · 2023-04-29T20:45:55+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through that. Try finding a male therapist, or a female therapist who actually has true empathy and is not biased against men. It sucks that fields have been infiltrated with anti-men propaganda. I'm a female student doctor and I see it too much in my field. I just know that therapy is helpful and beneficial, just don't lose hope in finding the right one for you.

Visible_Juice_4204 · 2023-04-29T22:13:28+00:00

The other day I had an hour long heart to heart with a bro who went through the same sort of maternal abuse as me, and it was better than any therapy session on both our ends. It made me realise that while therapy can help with certain issues, mens issues are best kept with other men.

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