Do Nice Guys Finish Last?

Sarstan · 2011-12-05T00:27:17+00:00

Ah, the old nice guy argument.
Let me throw out a scenario. Guy A is a site director at a business. He supervises multiple people. One of those people got the job because they had a degree. However that one person supposedly has Dyslexia and frequently cites it for being unable to do basic math and spelling. You wonder how they ever got their degree so you check out their file and find out they got special passes from their "handicap". Considering your job requires lots of customer interaction that includes spelling words correctly and using basic math skills, this person is inadequate for the job, you conclude.
However, you rose to your position quickly and the person in question has been there at the job longer than you. Similarly, because of their known handicap, you're pretty certain that it's going to be viewed nasty if you fire them. However they've botched many jobs and lost a few clients because of their inability.

At that rate, even though everyone else in the office will consider you a dick for it, is it a dick move to fire the person? Or do you play the "nice guy" role and keep them on out of sympathy? Are you still a nice guy if you do fire them?

jmanon · 2011-12-05T00:46:39+00:00

Yes. Next question.

ss_camaro · 2011-12-04T19:38:31+00:00

So being agreeable won’t make you rich. But it just might help you [ed] please a shrew, which [ed] society says will make you much happier than [ed ] having money and self-respect.

i.e. agreeableness means putting up with more female BS while the guys with looks and standards get it without the work and bounce when the frying pan hits the wall.

TLDR: don't be 'agreeable'.

slumdog-proper · 2011-12-04T19:10:04+00:00

Are we to infer that men are only to be admired if they are adamant about their rights because this means more often than not they will finish first. Does that mean we should punish men who choose to behave this way or just punish the men who choose not to behave this way...?

atsl_poor · 2011-12-04T17:47:39+00:00

Wait, when did "being nice" become "being a pushover" ?

SharkSpider · 2011-12-05T02:08:45+00:00

Agreeableness and being nice aren't necessarily the same thing. Maybe you'll define it as "Nice Guy" or something along those lines, but really it's about whether or not you avoid conflict and back off when things get a little heated.

Title	Do Nice Guys Finish Last?
Author	trot-trot
Upvotes	7
Comments	8
Date	December 4, 2011 5:42 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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