At the moment, I'm of the opinion that men talking to feminists is almost exclusively an exercise in those men incurring unnecessary social damage to hand people with no moral or intellectual anchoring the weapons with which to continue damaging us.

Men's honesty about what they think and their willingness to point out flaws and long term consequences of other people's ideas sharpens and improves feminists at the men's own expense.

I think we're deliberately giving them more ways to inflict psychological damage on vulnerable men and boys in school and therapy to further aggrandize and enrich themselves and indulge their impulses for cruelty and sexual politics.

I think your responses to feminists should be inflicting social consequences (the only thing they seem to understand) for misandry or utter stonewalling because it's not possible for anything other than more damage to yourself to result from it.