Feeling Guilty over giving compliments

TheMythof_Feminism · 2018-07-15T04:34:53+00:00

I understand what you mean but I grew out of it.

I used to want the women I was with to be happy, to feel good, to enjoy their time with me. As I have grown older, I have come to realize that such a thing is a terrible idea, only compliment women that truly earn it, only make women that have truly shown to be useful to you , happy in the way that you can.

I know you enjoy it, but you have to move past the idea that women at large should be made to feel good. They don't.

Lumberjackie_Chan · 2018-07-15T01:08:33+00:00

What do you mean by "feeding gynocentrism"?

The main thing I dislike about giving compliments is how insecure many people are and how unintentionally manipulative it can be. I try to phrase compliments as statements of fact rather than attatching them to myself in some way.

It's led to a kind of interesting relationship history as the quasi-objective hands-off approach tends to improve people's self-confidence and independence... and then we break up because I've convinced them to believe they can do better. 😔

OTOH, confidence is sexy as hell, so many of 'em do! 😃

Ted8367 · 2018-07-15T02:23:16+00:00

complimenting them.

Don't do that, it's a bad strategy. When you feel a compliment coming on, close your eyes and think of Madeline Albright.

Title	Feeling Guilty over giving compliments
Author	omegaphallic
Upvotes	7
Comments	10
Date	July 15, 2018 12:00 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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