Fucking While Feminist

thetrollking · 2011-04-27T03:53:34+00:00

So do you meet guys who pass the feminist test but then turn out to be disappointments for other reasons?

JF: Oh God. There is a type of feminist guy who is so eager to fall over himself to be deferential to women and to prove his feminist bona fides and flagellate himself in front of you, to the point that it really turns me off. And it makes me sad, because politically, these are the guys that I should be sleeping with! You know what I'm talking about?

YES.

JF: Everyone knows what I'm talking about. And some of them are even really cute! I want to say to them, "If you could be a person, like a whole, complicated person, who I feel like I could crack jokes around, then I would really like you." But they're so serious about their feminism at every moment that I don’t feel like a person to them. I feel like I'm on a pedestal, almost. I know that they're not going to disagree with anything I say under any circumstances. And I don't feel like I can make a raunchy joke about sex, because they'll be horrified. . . . I hate to be critical of our allies in any way, because we need them, but there's something about that certain kind of hyperfeminist guy that makes them unappealing to date, to me. I suspect it has something to do with our internal conceptions of masculinity, which is terrible on my part.

Even feminists are disgusted by beta men.

aetheralloy · 2011-04-27T03:50:22+00:00

Wait for it...

"Not all fucking feminists are liked that!" - NAFFALT!

PeterArching · 2011-05-03T01:10:14+00:00

I'm mostly dating guys right now, which is fairly new for me. From my early 20s to my mid-30s I dated exclusively women and trans men.

Wait, so she's trying to find a guy now that she's past her best-used-by-date?

She's facing the same problem all women face at this juncture (just with a whole lot of extra toxic baggage): No man she would consent to be with would consent to be with her.

zyk0s · 2011-04-27T14:19:28+00:00

That is really great.

How do you talk rape culture on a first date while still managing to get laid once in a while?

You get male feminists, aka white knights, aka AFCs.

How do you find the feminist guy who won't self-flagellate to the point of unfuckability?

You scream at them to "get a spine" and "be a man", then you tell them how much men are oppressing women and how they suck... oh wait. Guess you can't.

How do you avoid dying alone, basically?

Ha! Good luck on that one. You die with a mangina, of whom even the best tamed will by the end stop giving a fuck about you.

nasty_nate · 2011-04-27T20:17:27+00:00

I used to look for guys who don’t list Fight Club in their favorites, but I've had to relax that rule, because all dudes evidently love Fight Club.

DAMN STRAIGHT!

Seriously though, great article. Thanks for posting.

Title	Fucking While Feminist
Author	thetrollking
Upvotes	11
Comments	11
Date	April 27, 2011 3:46 AM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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