Genuine question about relationships

Strong-Camp-4734 · 2025-05-22T20:45:55+00:00

I think it depends on the man.

But, just because I feel like you’re looking for examples from a man- I feel loved when my wife gives me physical affection (hugs, kisses, cuddles) and allows me to “be the man” in the relationship.

We (my wife and I) struggled with this for a bit early on in our relationship. I communicated to her that I would appreciate if she let me open the door for her, if she ask me for help when she’s carrying something heavy, etc.. I need to feel needed to feel loved, and she was raised to believe unless you’re completely independent, you’re a burden.

Maybe you should ask the man in your life what makes him feel loved.

Like I said, every man is different. I don’t think this is a one-size fits all kind of question.

Hope this helps!

peter_venture · 2025-05-22T20:53:55+00:00

Nonjudgmentally. A lot of women try to Frankenstein the man they think they want. They like some of his qualities but then try to change him to do things they liked from men of their past.

Cor-X · 2025-05-22T22:46:57+00:00

Loyalty and reliability
Nurturing and good physical touch that does not always have to be sex.
Give words of encouragement or praise
Want to look your best for me even when you don't want to.

Everything else is gravy... other men may be different but we do have a lot of similarities. You have no idea how far it goes to say something like "I am proud of you" to a man.

UWontHearMeAnyway · 2025-05-23T01:54:26+00:00

The English language doesn't do the concept justice.

Look up Greek types of love.

Further, I don't know why it's such a weird concept. Women love their family and friends very well many times. Yet, then they'll turn right around and limit it to butterflies only for the man. I've personally seen, many times, women turn to their childhood friends, perfectly spell out their feelings, then turn around and give their man the silent treatment. When I call it out, they just say something like "well if I have to tell him then he doesn't really care"... so then I point out that she literally Jay told her friend, and does that mean her long friend doesn't care? Then they just blank out. Or use some weird excuse like "it's different because he's a man".

Thing is, it's not. When you "love" your long friend, you behave in many of the exact ways that most men would love to receive that love. Yet, the faucet turns off just because you hold him to impossible standards, that only super hero comic books live up to.

World-Three · 2025-05-22T20:10:15+00:00

I can't answer this for everyone... So if you don't get a lot of answers, I encourage you to try again later, or elsewhere too.

I think understanding is a big part of love. Some people love what men do, how they do it, how long they've done it, but not really why.

In my opinion, a lot of relationships fail to start, or to continue, because of the why. Someone being defensive, insecure, insatiable, clingy, defeatist, irritatable or easy is typically for reasons that aren't explored much less cared for. And in most circumstances, overcoming those things in men won't cost you anything but a question.

An outburst, resigning in arguments, less interest, change in overall opinion, and etc typically have reasons that aren't inquired upon because the fact that it isn't (or is) happening seems more important than why. If you understand why a man wants what he wants, does what he does or has done, and respond to it, there's a lot more value in him opening up rather than not.

Issue with all of the above is that if what you've learned is weaponized, then it's not useful to share anymore. It doesn't seem like that much to ask for, really.

AndyRoo2023 · 2025-05-22T22:22:46+00:00

Some women ask the oddest questions...I mean if one has to ask...

Title	Genuine question about relationships
Author	ok_possessed_link
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Date	May 22, 2025 4:33 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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