Many of social justice folks think of men as obliged to change the world.
Because of benefiting from status quo or someone having it worse.
Many of us think of it as a sexism with extra steps.

We have our own experience, traumas, challenges, views. Not always similar, expressible or reducible to yours.
You don't understand. Usually don't even bother. Sorry.

"Take responsibility for other men / patriarchy / nation. Or you are a part of the problem"
A message you express. Justifying it or refusing to admit. Even from yourselves.

"Not fighting men but patriarchy. Not discrimination - bringing justice."
Endless blameshifting, hatred, convenient excuses.

We dare to consider ourselves worthy even not being "allies".

Dare to exist.