when i was like 4 or something I asked my mom: "is it ok to hit a girl?"

she took a minute to think and then said: "if someone attacks you verbally you attack them verbally right back. if someone attacks you physically you respond physically. don't start fights where they don't need to be started. and if someone starts fucking with you, you have an obligation to defend yourself regardless of if they are a guy or girl."

I asked: "but what if people call me sexist?"

mom: "if you treat a woman differently simply because shes a woman then you ARE a sexist."

TL;DR: my mom is awesome