Therapy/Counselling Help

ignatiusloyola · 2010-07-09T19:00:47+00:00

My mother is a psychologist, so I am speaking from second hand experience.

First off, go see a doctor. Describe your problem and see if the doctor can recommend some sources for you to find a counselor.

Once you have a list of possible psychologists, call them and find out what topics/fields they specialize in and if they think they could help you - they won't give you free advice, but may respond to a brief overview of your problems.

Get a list of a few and go down the list by whom sounded the best (via their website and the phone call). Make an appointment to the first, talk with them and see what you think. If the appointment goes well, stick with them. If not, don't hesitate to visit the next one.

But the most important thing is this - psychologist can't change you. They can only help you make changes that you already want to make by analyzing your actions and describing to you how your own views and actions are affecting your own life. Without the desire to change your own life, a psychologist can't do anything.

Also, you can feel free to disagree with what the psychologist says all you want, but don't forget that may have far more insight into the emotional origins and the future consequences of your actions than you do because many people tend to be in denial about the underlying emotions behind what they are feeling. Disagree with them, but open yourself up to the possibility that your own actions are part of the problem and may need to change.

Il128 · 2010-07-10T05:14:39+00:00

There are free mental health counselors on most every college campus. Go see one. They are in the health clinic. Most are very good.

geno-3245 · 2010-07-10T06:06:28+00:00

A psychologist can talk but not prescribe medicines > a psychiatrist can talk and prescribe meds like anti-anxiety, anti-depressants, bi-polar, etc. You may not need drugs. And you don't have to use these drugs in high doses. Some drugs, you use them when things are rocky. They make generics, so the drugs are common and can be researched easily.

I would go to a local clinic and ask to make an appointment with their psychiatrist. No big deal. The doctor has a client list, all your friends are there or will be some day. Beer-up and go > and watch your knees shake because that's the way everybody feels.

When you go for the first visit, just simply repeat what your friends said, and say why you think they said that. There are no rules, and the doctor has heard every story ... seen all the strong men break like puppies ... it's not about winning, it's about gaining personal experience ... there is no embarrassment or commitment ... your doctor is not a long-term relationship ... not every doctor-patient is a match ... if the first one doesn't work out, simply ask the doctor for another referral > they will gladly do it.

Analysis is self-discovery >>> that's scary, but long-term it can be the road to tomorrow. Good luck.

SpankmasterS · 2010-07-09T20:53:25+00:00

Colleges offer counseling services. The one at my school was incredible.

Otherwise, call your insurance company and get a list that accept your plan.

Then just start calling and interview them. Go see the one that you feel would be a good fit for you. If after a few sessions it's not working out, you start all over.

kanuk876 · 2010-07-10T01:04:09+00:00

What I did:

lookup a few on the internet / phone book in my area.
Book a 1-hour introductory appointment with a few who look promising. Some give a 1st-one-free, others don't.
Go with the one I like.

Find someone who you feel comfortable enough with to trust. Beware anything even hinting of feminism.

There are lots and lots of different psychology, some are more quack-science, others are less quack-science.

Please keep in mind, you're doing most of the work. Think of a psychologist as a guide, not a contractor/helper. EG: You expect a surgeon to cut you open and remove a problem. In counselling, it's more like you cut yourself open to remove the problem -- the therapist helps identify and guide you to the problem you need to resolve.

XFDRaven · 2010-07-10T02:17:12+00:00

There are shinks (therapists) that are the stereotype you see on TV and for people with very serious issues.

You don't need that.

There are counselors who are basically sounding boards and propose suggestions and insight. They help you work through problems and try to improve yourself. They're also much less than therapists, and don't try to medicate you.

Don't trust any one particular counselor though, go with your feelings and if something feels wrong go else where. Some counselors approach all of their clients with their own biases as to what all the world's problems are caused from. Be sure to establish where you /want/ to be or where you at least think you should be. Build goals. A good counselor can help you though that.

2010-07-09T22:34:02+00:00

Get a male psychologist who is not a feminist. Men are better at everything technical. This is the same reason you should get a male doctor. Good luck.

If they start blaming you or males, run.

Title	Therapy/Counselling Help
Author	tossadistance
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Date	July 9, 2010 6:28 PM UTC (16 years ago)
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