I am a 16 year old boy who's had a very hard time with life, up to the point to where I tried to drown myself when I was 11. I've never been the social person because of my autism, but it's got so much better. But I still felt a little bit of depression and a lack of self worth and I didn't know where it was coming from.
But then it hit me, I'm not depressed because I'm still shaken by my rough past, but rather the future I see for myself. Every time I open any social media app, I see constant hatred towards innocent men, include the encouragement of a mass genocide of men, including children and unborn babies! I really wish that I could be seen as a person rather than a "sexist creep who doesn't deserve to live".
I've had this happen to me in my sophomore year of high school. I was helping this one girl on her homework, and I have rumors spread about me being a stalker. Sure I've liked her at one point but she wasn't interested; I respected her decision. What happens next? I'm apparently a creep and a danger to women I'm friends with. I was scared of losing my friends and having my life ruined, like some people when they get accused of that stuff.
I want to see the world change, but people are too ignorant to try anything new, unless it's a new method to make men look bad, and it's devistating me to see all of this happen. I thought everyone was created equal! I'm guessing that's not the case in 2019.
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There is an absolute in life that literally no one can avoid: You have the play the hand you're dealt.
It's true it's not easy to be a man in 2019. In fact, it's going to get worse. Even if we were to change things today, the inertia of the system will guarantee unfair outcomes for men well into your 20s.
You still have to play the hand you're dealt. It could be worse, being a man is a disadvantage but by no means insurmountable. You're able bodied and of sound mind. The key is to play to your strengths. Try to turn disadvantage into advantage or failing that, play where your weaknesses are minimized. /u/Madmattzzzz demonstrates this principle when he says "Become less dependant on 'the system'". The system right now is anti-male so relying it would be playing to your weaknesses. Cultivate self reliance and turn the disadvantage of being a man into the advantage of being self reliant.
Regarding the internet. It's important to realize that anger and despair are only positive emotions if they spur you to make a change in your life to resolve whatever made feel that way. For example, you may feel angry that you got in a fight and lost badly and that can lead to a positive change in your life if you learn a martial art or just work out. However, online we're often powerless to change that which makes us feel bad. Any post, comment, or debate feels like a drop in the bucket and you're just going to be crushed by things out of your control. This cycle of feeling anger yet powerless to resolve can be incredibly damaging to the psyche. This is important: In these cases, the best way to affect positive change can often be to just walk away. The thing in this world you have the most power over is yourself. Start with yourself and expand outward. Your home, your family, school, your friends, your peers. Keep it local and focus your energy where you have influence and can affect positive change.
You said you wanted to see the world change. You're young yet, it can be a life long ambition for a man to be able to consider the world stage within his circle of influence. To see the world change. So, what are your goals for the future? Think hard about it. Decide where you wanna be in the future, decide how to get there, then keep your head down, don't consume that which can only harm you, and keep your eyes focused on your goal.
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IDK about this one? The language just comes off as trollish and the post history is spotty.
OP, I read your first post in r/therapy.
If you're real and things are that bad please then find someone to talk to: A parent you trust (doesn't necessarily have to be one of your parents), a priest, a school guidance counselor, etc.
And please stop using social media apps. Google it for yourself. Do some research. They are designed to be every bit as addictive as gambling or drugs and they are just as damaging to your mental health. Clinical studies have shown that the more most people use social media the more it depresses them.
Why would you want to be addicted to something that depresses you?
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