Note: My view only addresses rape or sexual assault in cases where the two parties involved, for this case a guy and a girl, have previously had some type of sexual interaction or touching that was in fact consensual. This means that a platonic co-worker pinching his female co-worker's ass doesn't fall under this definition, because they haven't previously consented to any sexual activity before.

The Mattress girl at Columbia University recently posted a sex tape of herself, simulating a rape scene, where in the beginning the sex is consensual, but as the tape goes on, the guy starts doing things the girl doesn't like, such as spanking, and the guy doesn't stop while the girl is saying no.

In my own view, I think cases of acquaintance and boyfriend rape are primarily caused by the differences in the way a male and a female views consent. For a male, if he thinks a girl is attractive enough to have sex with, there is no reason in his mind why he wouldn't want to do other sexual things, like get a blowjob, or a handjob, play with her breasts, etc. If he has her naked in his bedroom there is no reason in his mind why he wouldn't want to try anything and everything, because in his mind, she is hot.

For a female, it's more complex. Some girls on a specific day might not be into giving a guy that's fucking her a blowjob, or she might not be in the mood to give him a handjob at all, even though she previously consented to sex with him on a past date. Female sexual desires are very specific to a moment, if the guy doesn't smell good, isn't clean, etc, she might not want to suck his dick at that moment, even though she might feel ok to do other things with him.

To a male, this perception of consent in females simply doesn't make sense. A male thinks, "Gee, if she makes out with me and lets me play with her titties, why wouldn't she want to suck my dick?". Once a male is sexually attracted to a female, unless her appearance or attitude drastically changes, his sexual attraction to her will always be there, and he has trouble understanding why she wouldn't want it from him on some days while he does on others.

I think also, a big mistake in consent campaigns is not emphasizing this difference between the sexes. Treating the two genders the same puts males in the dark. They are told not to rape, but they don't really understand what rape is 100% of the time because they view consent as male consent, not seeing the difference between male and female consent.

Thoughts?