I was a loser in high school, no date to prom, no women interested in me, but I did do one thing paid heavy dividends in the future(24 now) I took care of my body in stayed in the gym 24/7. Fast forward to college and I’m having women approach me, but not the ones I want, so I still think that I’m not good enough, so I hit the books and tune up my workout schedule. Fast forward to 3 months ago, my city is opening up and after almost 5 years of timid behavior a little to no cold approaching, I get on no fap and end up saying “fuck it”.

The first girl I approached hit me with some energy that I’ve only ever felt from one other girl before, and she was the one that approached me. I’m talking that shit that makes you vibe like you’re in the matrix or something, and that’s when things started to fall into place for me. I ended up hooking up with that woman, and going on streak(around 15+ women)and I don’t know if I’ll ever stop.

What has this taught me? Well,

1. Even C had has to approach.

The women that have approached me are not the ones that I’m attracted to, and the ones that approach you probably won’t be either. You have to approach. You have to. As the old quote goes, you miss all of the shots you don’t take.

I knew I was good looking before, but I wasn’t quite sure how good looking. Sure I’m not a gigac had, women faint over him, but I’m in the realm of C had, and many of you may be near there as well, you’re just a couple steps away. Clean your room, get a skin care routine and eat healthy, even if you’re not the most attractive man in the world doing all of the above will drastically improve your chances of finding a mate.

2. You need a personality

Your only interests can’t be video games an anime, trust me I know this is true because those were my only interests. After my first hook up it was abundantly clear to the woman I was with that I had the personality of a sheet of cardboard. Thankfully I’m quick on my toes, and although I’m introverted I can play the part of extrovert. Look up “Charisma on command” on youtube for more help on this.

3. You have to be positive

If you’re a negative person, EVERYONE can feel it within 10 seconds of interacting with, and NO ONE wants to be around a negative person. You have to have hope for the future even if things are bad right now. We’re all looking for love, and as men we have to deal with a different set of realities when it comes to its pursuit. When you wake and before you go to bed, say that you love yourself, say that things are going to work out, but only if you put in the work, and finally say that the love of your life IS out there and you WILL find her.

We live in a world permeated by indefinite optimism and definite pessimism. Too many people think things will get better without working towards any goal in particular, and on the other side a lot of people think things will only get worse not matter what they do.

You need to be a definite optimist. Things will get better, you will be the man you want to be, but only if your work towards the goals you set, only if you maintain discipline