Need desperate help, I hate being gay

rocknrollchuck · 2022-08-09T04:23:58+00:00

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OP, you got some good advice here. Are you born again? Are you reading your Bible daily? Some things to think about.

ObservativeDoc · 2022-08-08T21:20:50+00:00

When I was a kid I had crushes on women and never men but as I started watching porn I started noticing I was attracted to men more.

Then it is very likely that your 'attraction' is a so called porn-induced fetish. It is the way your brain works. After starting to watch porn, you eventually become desensitized to the 'safe' categories of porn, so you start seeking out more 'adventurous', 'dark' and 'extreme' categories, until you eventually get bored, and you seek even more extreme videos. It may seem like your taste changes, but in fact the only thing that happens is that you get desensitized to what used to get you going, so you need more. It's like any other drug in that regard.

but I rarely get turned on unless she is 9/10

This is even more proof of what I said above. Me being straight, no man, not even Chris Hemsworth or another '10/10' could ever turn me on for even 1% (the thought repulses me), since I'm straight. So if you have even some level of attraction to women, even if it's only to the hottest of women, it's likely that you have been so incredibly soaked into porn that only the creme de la creme can do it for you. If you were 100% gay, I don't think women could turn you on at all.

I decided to do nofap and porn and praying to god to release me from my sinful urges. A few months I feel I am still just as attracted to men

You mean a few months having quit pornography? It could take some time for the side effects to fade off. But if prior to watching porn you didn't like men, I don't think it's permanent. With time, and with God's grace, you can be healed.

So long story short, cut out the porn indefinitely, pray to God that He heals you quickly, and focus on your mission. If God wills that you have a godly marriage one day He will make a way. And if not, still find joy in the celibate life, doing His will

Rifleshoot · 2022-08-08T21:50:00+00:00

Stop watching porn, and start reading scripture. Try to live your life accordingly. You may fail sometimes. Keep striving to be better and pray to the Lord to change you. Slowly, you will get better. Porn absolutely warps your sexuality, sometimes in semi-permanent ways. But you can at least recover most of the way.

It’s not easy, but it’s doable. I’ve struggled with porn for years, and have gone months now without looking at it. Don’t keep track of streaks, it just keeps it in your head. When you fall off the wagon, let it be one mess up, then you are right back to it.

I’ll say a prayer, I know how hard it is to quit.

Continuous-Metanoia · 2022-08-09T02:29:38+00:00

and I realise how disgusting this must be for straight men to read. I apologise

You are most welcome here. Humility is the first step in any christian‘s spiritual journey; as Christ points out in one of his first public teachings, “blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.”

Your post has a healthy dose of this very attitude in which Christ commends. Which is to say, that it seems like you’re already making strides to become the kind of man that Christ desires you to be.

Go check out the rest of the beatitudes in Matthew 5. Every single guy on this sub could spend a decade studying these verses alone and not even scratch the surface of the eternal depths that the beatitudes hold for sanctification(which is what you’re after with this post).

Samadamz · 2022-08-08T23:00:52+00:00

You’d be surprised how quickly abstaining from porn and nofap can help but for someone like you and me it takes time to rewire your brain since both you and I were molested as kids our brains started being wired in abuse. I had same sex attraction from lots of things but never pursued it and never wanted it beyond companionship. Get yourself in the gym stop eating processed food talk to a nutritionist a hormone doctor. Get outside get off computers and talk to people you need a real reset. You don’t need to be any sexual preference or ever state it because it is yours and it ebbs and flows until you feel stable focus on the things you want to have control over in your own personal life and know that your thoughts are normal and not a life sentence. I had a roommate with thigh high red boots and was absolutely in pride parades now he has a wife and two kids and a strong connection to God.

SignalOpening9548 · 2022-08-09T00:36:31+00:00

I would recommend you read Dr Joseph Nicolosi’s work and interviews. His son practices reparative therapy. They believe that homosexuality is primarily caused by nurture specifically in early childhood. I think your attraction is caused primarily by porn and some childhood events where you didn’t necessarily associate with a masculine father like figure. However, you don’t have to identify as a homosexual, just believe in god and you can be straight. It’s not easy but it is biblical and godly.

SnooRabbits8021 · 2022-08-08T22:48:38+00:00

I’m in the same boat. I have SSA (Same Sex Attraction). I’ve tried everything to stop it but nothing seems to get rid of it.

I started doing semen retention about a year ago and that is helping a bit. I also fast whenever urges seem to be too much. I find when I over eat, I tend to get hornier.

Keep praying and following his Word. Having SSA is a heavy cross to bear but we need to keep going. You said you were attracted to women before so I believe for you there is hope to return.

jvyrdn024 · 2022-08-09T03:13:42+00:00

This is just my opinion.

You probably have exhausted your interest with woman out of fear and desperation and have been mislead further in the process.

Just stay away from the sexual media, even soft core and don't think too hard about sexuality and attraction as it will come naturally. You need a break from sex topic.

Remember to respect the body of men for what it is and woman for what it is. Respect that a mans body such as yours is meant for ladies ^{^} and a womans body is made for men.

Proverbs 5:19 "She is a loving deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be intoxicated by her love."

1 Corinthians 11:9 "for indeed man was not created for the woman’s sake, but woman for the man’s sake."

Respect your brothers body, power, potential, and nature and know that woman are made to submit to men. Also don't think of Alpha nonsense because you're basically making a ranking of men in the process instead of thinking that God made all men to be good enough.

protect71 · 2022-08-08T22:31:38+00:00

Because of the increase of wickedness, the love of most will grow cold

jvyrdn024 · 2022-08-08T23:57:18+00:00

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MagicalMichael1 · 2022-08-09T03:27:33+00:00

This is the last place you should be asking a question like this.

M1_64 · 2022-08-09T03:34:50+00:00

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Title	Need desperate help, I hate being gay
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