Online dating apps?

SkimTheDross · 2018-11-13T23:33:41+00:00

Get out there and cold approach.

[deleted] · 2018-11-13T23:15:38+00:00

No. No. No.

john_of_peaches · 2018-11-15T16:53:18+00:00

1 Online dating's a gamble. You might win, but it will take consistent effort. Probably 95%+ low quality people, even among the Christian ladies. I have met only one semi-quality women through online dating who seems to be Christian/attractive/FAT. It seems the ones with very low quality pictures (could barely see her) are better. Maybe that's a good tell.

One thing I do is always ask faith and father questions on the first date. "What does God mean to you?" and drill down from there. And ask about her dad (what does he do / what are some of her favorite memories with him / how does she relate to him). On the second date, I ask more faith questions, too.

2 You will always be working on your mission, you'll never be done, I don't really get why people are saying "no online dating while mission" (??)
3 I just put conservative Christian and a small bio about where I've been, what I do, that I 'work too hard' (true), and that "when I'm not working I make sure it's a good time". I keep it as mysterious and vague as possible. (I recently used CMB & Bumble all the time and got 1-2 dates/wk from it).

BrotherChad · 2018-11-14T01:47:59+00:00

Username checks out

Red-Curious · 2018-11-14T15:54:05+00:00

I'm not against them, but they're a cheap way of finding people. It takes away your ability to demonstrate confidence in the approach. It also guarantees you find someone who is more controlled by hypergamy than not - because those apps are 100% endorsements for hypergamy.
No. Mission first.
Depends on whether you want to bait-and-switch her or not. If you want to trick her into dating you, go for it - and then break up immediately when you find out she's not a Christian either, because the whole point of doing this would be to attract non-Christian women who otherwise would ignore you. Or you can just be up-front about who you are and what you're looking for. Or you can just go meet people in real life like a confident alpha man who doesn't need his computer to do everything for him like he uses it for everything else in his life.

Long story short, it's a desperation move for guys who aren't attractive enough to find girls naturally. So, if you're desperate, go for it. It's just not what I'd recommend from an RP framework. But even the beta guy has to have an avenue to meet people.

The only other thought process I might consider is to use it for training purposes. While figuring out who you are and developing confidence, online dating can be a transition point between omega and alpha. It's better than the guy who's too afraid to talk to a girl at all because it actually increases your chances of starting those conversations. From there, you can get practice talking to women without having to cold approach because it gives you a context for the conversation in the first place. Once you are confident talking to women, drop the app and let your confidence direct you.

Title	Online dating apps?
Author	the_cheesiest
Upvotes	4
Comments	6
Date	November 13, 2018 11:14 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RPChristians
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