So I started coming on here about three weeks ago, and my mind was blown. The advice is to NOT tell our SO's about our change in heart. I did end up telling my husband, simply because my lack of willingness to submit has always been a sticking point for us. So, I told him. At first he was very skeptical, and I knew I'd have to earn my stripes. I've been doing quite well, but yesterday, I went directly against his wishes in kind of a major way... I went alone into a neighborhood looking for our stolen car. I confessed it to him and he was quite upset with me, and he told me I needed to come confess it on RPW... blushes. The neat thing is, though, later that day, he said, "You know, I'm not mad at you. I was just very surprised... I thought we were on the same page... I was like, 'Who IS this girl?'" I realized that what he meant by that was that even in three short weeks, he had become used to me as his first mate, and he was saddened that I disobeyed his wish. So that of course made me feel so guilty, but at the same time, humbled, and re-determined to succeed.