Background: 35 F soon to be married to a gorgeous and wonderful 33M. Both highly educated, work fulltime, no kids yet. Recovering control freak with anxiety but working on it.

I have been listening to the empowered wife podcast and trying to put things into practise. I am by no means perfect and still struggle to hold my tongue and let him lead. So I am using a lot of 'whatever you think', 'I hear you' and I am apologising if I have been unpleasant or disrespectful. A few days ago, we were talking and I said I like to get his opinion on things, and he said, 'yeah but you're the smart one'. And I looked at him and said: 'Me being smart doesn't make you stupid, I think you're incredibly smart, and I respect you and trust you more than anyone in the world. You're strong and kind and you amaze me.'

.. a few days on, he's said that he'd like to learn how to dance for our first dance at our wedding! (which really is not something I asked for because it's so far out of his comfort zone, but I am thrilled because I was hoping he'd want to dance with me but didn't want to make him do anything he didn't want to do) and the bedroom has seen a lot of action... I didn't expect anything like this. I feel so lucky for my man having picked me. He seems so happy lately, I just love to see him smile. Laura Doyle is a genius. I'm not saying anything I don't feel, but I am expressing myself differently and learning to control my impulses. Which is easier said than done, but it's a process.

Edited for minor error and punctuation.