Ok inspired by the nun mode post made 5 hours ago, I 27F am going to do one as well because I am a mess and I feel like making this post will hold me accountable. I am currently long term unemployed, living with family, no social life, really bad habits, no good habits or routine of any kind, distanced from all of my close friends, single, no hobbies, wobbly mental health (I had a mental breakdown but I have recovered from it but I now need to build my life back up again because I have completely dropped out of society), diminished social skills due to time away from other people.

My plan:

NEXT 4 MONTHS:

  • Block the reddit app and every other distracting app and website with 2 appblockers and a website blocker so I can't get distracted anymore

  • Get a job- preferably one with career advancement opportunities and social events at the office but I won't be too fussy

  • Move out of my family home in to a sociable houseshare with people my age in a decently connected part of the city

  • Fix all of my old friendships by getting back in touch with people again and arranging to meet up. Try to organise a christmas thing with my old friends.

  • Form a social life again where I am meeting friends at least once on the weekend and preferably at least once on a weekday as well

  • Sort out my clothes, hair, makeup, accessories etc

  • Sort out my diet, exercise and skincare regime so I can prevent and reverse biological aging as much as possible

  • Get organised so I have systems in place so I am no longer late or unprepared for things

  • Explore modern music and get a solid modern music taste formed and build some playlists so I can host gatherings

4 MONTHS AFTER THAT:

  • Continue to work on diet, exercise, skincare, clothes, hair, makeup, organisation and music playlists until they are at a satisfactory level

  • Book future events and holidays for the upcoming year

  • Get some hobbies sorted: probably yoga and kayaking, maybe pilates

  • Make new friends in the city I am in

  • Get to a decent level of social skills where I can have good conversations with people whenever I meet them and can also host people in my house easily

Then from May 2025, I will start trying to date properly instead of focusing on myself and my life. That gives me 6 months of nun mode and 6 months of dating as a 28 year old. I'm mostly making this post for accountability reasons so I will report back in May 2025 as, hopefully, a much better human being.